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Narsha Bulgakbaev Learn to be happy! Confidence and Success

SECRETS OF TRUE HAPPINESS

«You are happy until you see someone happier than you.» (Author’s words)

Have you ever thought that most of us keep a chest of gold in our heads all our lives, but never use it? In fact, all wealth is not in the hands, it is in the brain! A person does not get rich with his hands, he gets rich with his brain. In general, famous people (stars) and rotten rich people are very worried about the loss of their reputation, personal safety and worldly property. Most famous and rich people are happy on the outside, not on the inside. Many people think that it is useful and even necessary to kill their time, waste it, become addicted to bad habits, limit their consciousness, receive harmful information, the reason is Slave Consciousness. In the flow of information, a person quickly and easily remembers useless information, and often ignores useful information. Willpower (self-deception) alone is not enough to solve the everyday problems we face in life, so the solution to all problems begins with «stopping the perception of false/harmful information.»

Marketers conduct audio-visual brainstorming to capture your attention as much as possible when using the Internet and social media. Who are you willing to give your attention to? And how much money is your attention worth? There are people who worship man. Many people have dedicated geeks and nerds (fans), almost everyone in fact. They are often wealthy businessmen, sports or artistic stars, and these fans openly admit that they are their fans, that is, their slaves. Like beggars hiding in a field or sitting in an empty house without light or water, we sometimes do not know the value of the gold that is in our brain, and we do not realize that there is a chest of gold inside us. Unhappy people, whom we call «sinners» or simply «bad people», do not look at the situation within themselves and at life around them from the point of view of Truth, so they desperately believe and say: «I’m right, shut up, this life is wrong.» These people have lost contact with real life (the laws of the Creator) and live in Slave Consciousness. Who drove them into the shadows? Who left them in the dark? The truth is that they force themselves to live in darkness, in the dark darkness of ignorance. I hear the advice of many wise people: «Don’t say you’re poor,» «Don’t say you don’t have a job,» «Don’t say the government is bad,» «Use only what God has given you.» If you ask me what gold is, I will answer this. «Health», «Time», «Opportunity», «Ability», «Will to choose and make decisions», «Mind and heart», etc. I can continue… You will make the right choice, and for this the Unconscious must be open to the wisdom of its source, the Universal Mind (Creator). Deep above the level of thinking is a wonderful part of our consciousness called the «unconscious». Much has been said about it, but no one has yet managed to fully understand its true meaning and limitless possibilities. You have to be able to see the light in the dark, it doesn’t burn outside you, it burns inside you, and people still want to see the light outside. That is why all the sages say that «true happiness is within a person.» Our Unconscious can be used usefully in everyday life. He will not tire of working for you, working hard, doing things, doing business, if you can guide him on the right path. Until you learn to properly control your Unconscious part of consciousness, your thinking will be slavish, and you will never feel what true independence is. Always remember that your Unconscious must be open to the source of universal wisdom – the Universal Mind. Trust this wisdom and you will make fewer mistakes and become healthier and happier. You will live a fruitful life. Positive thoughts are good, but since most of them are based on lies, it does not lead a person to complete perfection and true happiness. Positive thinking is changeable, unstable, temporary, and Rational thinking is serious, realistic, proven, specific. Positive thinking is a beautiful inspiring fairy tale, and Rational thinking is achieving real results and writing your own destiny, and not repeating someone else’s. Even a person who appears to be positive, positive and good in all aspects may have failures, difficulties and problems in life – this is the consequence of the wrong use of positivism. And the reason is that at a certain time he did not understand and did not correctly apply the laws of the Creator.

Therefore, positive thinking should only be with the Truth and in accordance with the Truth.

There are no lies in this life, everything is true. In this life there is only Truth and Imaginary. Unpleasant, negative, negative reality is harmful, pleasant, positive, positive reality is not harmful. But in fact, only the real Truth benefits a person. What is Truth? The Word of the Creator, the Laws of Life created by him, that is, the laws of life (Nature), which are proven by science. You may not know all the laws and rules of metaphysical science. But it is up to you to decide whether to obey him or not. The laws of the Creator are the same for everyone. The outcome of our choices and decisions depends on how we understand and apply God’s laws. In the game called life, ignorance of the «Laws of Life of the Creator» is stupidity and ignorance. The truth gives real freedom, so we must obey all natural (worldly) and invisible (afterlife) laws created by the Creator. Each person can harmoniously, harmoniously and joyfully act out the play and scenario called life, but for this it is necessary to know the Rules and Laws of life and master the playing technique. Whatever the situation you are in, be with the Creator, don’t hide, don’t run away, it won’t help you. It is impossible to find the Creator without knowing what Truth is. Truth is the word of God, that is, His Laws of Life. Laws of Life proven by science (nature). Without knowing the Laws of Life and without understanding yourself, you will not be able to create your life according to the will of the Creator. From the moment of comprehending the Truth, a person is freed from the captivity of this life, saved from slavery and returns his life to the will of God and begins to live a life worthy of happiness. Misfortune will be forgotten in the end, we will overcome it, because man was created to be happy forever. But there is one problem – this is a test (testing a person’s qualities), but this is the only path to happiness, because by this method of the Creator we are strengthened spiritually. In fact, being in this life is the beginning of happiness. But we do not know the real cost and significance of what is really happening to us. Happiness, wealth and good health. It all starts with not shirking responsibility for your past, present and future.

Man is the only creature that talks to itself. During the day, we constantly talk to ourselves, collect information about the environment – life. A person acts exactly like a programmer entering information into a computer, with one difference: the human brain is both a programmer and a computer at the same time. For you, your every thought is a word, and every word is a law for you. Thoughts are inner words that only you hear. Faith depends on the words we say to ourselves and others every day! Thinking is divided into two: «correct» (based on the Truth of the Creator) and «wrong» (based on one’s own beliefs). Repeatedly reciting words in your mind or frequently reminding another person (orally, in writing) of certain beliefs and concepts, whether beneficial or harmful, is the destiny that shapes your future and leaves a mark on the souls of others. You cannot change outer reality without changing inner reality. First of all, I realized that I cannot make others happy without making myself happy. I feel and understand that in this state (ill) no one needs me, I can’t do anything useful for others, so the most important thing is to take care of yourself, and not others. Everyone always wants to improve their life, and having achieved this, they want to improve it even more. You can create miracles in life not only according to your desire, but also by combining three desires («Own desire», «Desire of the environment», «Desire of God, the Creator») through harmony and balance between them. A successful and happy life depends on the correct relationship between the surrounding reality and your mind. From the moment of birth, a person has 3 types of connections: Connection with himself, connection with other people, connection with the Creator (the laws created by him). Since childhood, we wanted to learn as much as possible through our 5 senses, and therefore, from that moment on, we automatically became slaves to information from the environment. Your five senses are your main programming tool, and if you do not have the right point of view (true worldview), you will lose touch with reality and, as a result, begin to see life only the way you want to see it (not the way the Truth wants). In this case, the connection with the Creator (the Laws of Life) is weakened and there is a risk of becoming dependent on harmful beliefs and the formation of a Slave Thinking. As children, it didn’t matter to us whether beliefs and understandings were true or false, we accepted them with naivety because the environment demanded it. It is the environment that shapes faith and understanding, that is, destiny. The fate of a person depends not only on his race, but also on the time and place of existence. The environment and close people cannot make us happy, because true happiness is an eternal experience directed from the inside out. And the erroneous belief of many people is false happiness, a temporary experience that must be created from the outside.

Our life has meaning, like a book. The meaning of a book depends on how much we understand its contents. It’s what’s inside the book that matters, not what’s outside, because inside the book is full of meaningful words. A person is like a book, the internal is more important than the external, the meaning of a person’s life is in a meaningful life. Every person comes into this life for a reason, he is given a mission from above, but, unfortunately, many people cannot fulfill this mission and die prematurely. Destiny is written in your brain. This is your book of life, which is always in your hands. There are three basic principles of life: to be able to distribute time equally to everything, to work hard on yourself and to work without losing enthusiasm. Your dream goal is in vain if the intention is not good, fair, honest. Therefore, rather than wanting something negative and then regretting it, it is better not to do both, you will spend too much effort and time. Try not to use the law of life – cause and effect – against yourself.

Do you know that you can act without action. First you create the life you want in your mind and then it becomes reality. But many people do the opposite, act without prior preparation, and in the end they get the opposite result, which they later regret. Who is right? I believe that the most important thing is not to be a victim of the Law of Life – expectations and reality. Mistakes I and most people make (still do):

– incorrect perception (of oneself, others, others, God)

– incorrect thinking (irrational thinking, total control of negative, negative, harmful emotions),

– wrong action (consequence of wrong choice and decision),

– not being able to manage oneself correctly (not being able to control one’s desires).

The list can be continued endlessly… You can resist and say what a right person you are and try to avoid mistakes, but remember one thing – Life is not on asphalt, but on ice.

Difficulties in life are caused by sins and mistakes. Man desires them voluntarily out of ignorance and lack of knowledge. However, no one commits sins and mistakes intentionally, all because of the disease of despair and internal conflict. This may be difficult to understand and accept, but for me it is just that. Prayer, a deep desire, is a much more powerful force than most of us realize. Therefore, all troubles and blessings begin with intention and desire. The desire of the heart moves in mysterious ways that no one can fully understand, and manifests itself in real life. Therefore, we must be careful and understand what we are aiming for. Let’s be careful what we wish for, because we are given free will to choose in order to fully realize them. To achieve success and live a fruitful, happy life, it is not enough to rely only on willpower (self-deception), because it does not concern the mind and heart of a person. Only after we truly evaluate our situation and truly understand our environment can we change ourselves to achieve success. There is no recipe for happiness because it is an abstract concept. When you find a little meaning in life, it encourages you to search for deeper meaning. This search will never be fruitless: it will lead you to more detailed answers to the questions that concern you, to a deeper and more meaningful life. Useful, effective, verified (digital) information; a book written on the basis of knowledge and experience; will definitely lead you on the right path! Today, the most popular writers are not those who write about the EXTERNAL WORLD of a person, but those who write about the inner world, because they understand that the problem is not OUTSIDE. We can only do «works of eternal reward» (good works) in one life – this life called the «mortal life.» To prove to yourself that this life and eternal life are one and in harmony, it is enough to love both and understand that one is the cause and the other is the effect. I think every book has a soul. Because they were written by people with mind and heart. A book is not only an external design, but also a world of letters, words, advice and thought-provoking ideas. A useful book is food for the brain. Of course, from the point of view of the laws of nature, physical passions (food, sleep) are primarily important, but spiritual passions (seeing, knowing, hearing, recognizing) are no less important. The most important thing for a person is that the soul and body do not go beyond the limits of true faith and that both are in harmony and agreement. It is important for a person to satisfy the needs of the soul, but there must be a Balance between the Soul and the Body. Then the soul will find its True Lord. You probably know that the human soul and life are eternal, you should know because this is very important, then the human soul will not be afraid of death, it will never be suppressed. That is why all the Holy Scriptures always advise remembering about life after life, that is, about eternal life after the Day of Resurrection – this is the great Day when the Creator will resurrect all the dead for reckoning and retribution. The body is always afraid of death according to the laws of nature. Saying you’re not afraid is a sign of hypocrisy. A person learns the meaning of death and ceases to be afraid of it, believing in the existence of the Resurrection. If the meaning of eternal life is correctly understood, true faith will reveal the mystery of death and a person will begin to understand that he was created for eternal happiness. Time, like life, is endless and does not end with death. May the end be a good beginning for all of us! From the moment of comprehending the TRUTH, a person is freed from the captivity of this life, saved from slavery and returns his life to the will of God and begins to live a life worthy of happiness. And what is this TRUTH? The Creator and the laws of knowledge created by him, which are proven by science.

Misfortune is quickly forgotten, we will overcome all difficulties, because man was created to be happy forever. But there is one problem – this is the test of life (testing the quality of a person), it can be war, hunger, disease… but in fact this is not a problem, but a path to happiness, because we guarantee ourselves paradise by this method of the Creator. According to the evidence of modern physics, it is impossible to destroy already created energy. What does it mean? This means that the human soul was created to live forever. We will die and come back, this is truly a great separation and reunion (of soul and body) for a person. Faith is perhaps the most powerful force in the world. But faith allows people to commit suicide because they feel there is no point in continuing to live. So faith is a power that needs to be carefully managed. Losing control over faith means losing the meaning of life. And the loss of the meaning of life comes from its meaninglessness and inner emptiness. Suicide is the most severe form of death. Undoubtedly, their main problem is fatigue from others, from life and from themselves, and this is closely related to hope, faith and intention. It’s easy for all of us to say where patience, strength, perseverance are, or whether this is a temporary test (problems of life), this is a grave sin. Can we say that someone who is able to put together various collected information and turn this information into thoughts, form words with the help of these thoughts and bring the thoughts OUT is intelligent? In general, our thoughts are scattered, but it is easy to think correctly if you know how to sort them correctly. In order to be able to make the right choices and make the right decisions in life, a person must first understand his thoughts. There are many different methods, you need to study them and move forward without fear. Remember: thoughts are inner words that only you hear and inner images that only you see. There are 3 types of thoughts:

– finished, complete thought

– a thought seeking an answer

– emotional thought

Thanks to their combination, a system of thinking is formed from childhood to the present day. As soon as the System of Thinking changes, the meaning of life changes! So weigh all useful and unhelpful thoughts. The «main problem» of a lost person is that he cannot properly perform or control three processes:

– perception (receiving information)

– thinking

– action

As a result, such a person will constantly make excuses for his position and external environment, and will resist changing his inner world, because HE KNOWS EVERYTHING and DOES EVERYTHING RIGHT.

If you want to float freely along the river of life, you need to know that there is an alternative to a monotonous, monotonous, same-type, template life. So be willing to open your heart to new ideas, values, and beliefs. By reframing your thought process, you can create a sustainable ideal self. You deserve to be happy, no matter who you are, what you do, or what situation you are in. Learning to be happy is easier than you think! Just be honest with yourself and others, don’t live with a false mask.

Once you study and master the principles and laws of life, your life will be filled with happiness, love, freedom, confidence and money. There is nothing more uplifting and inspiring than expressing your limitless potential and developing your rich creativity, unleashing what is inside of you, because this is how life should be. We don’t feel like the digital world likes to deceive us. It has become a way of life to accept inappropriate and harmful information and become a slave to it. Feelings of helplessness, failure and dissatisfaction lead us to blame others, society, authority, fate (God) and look for various culprits. Most of humanity wants their problems to be solved by some external factors, and not by themselves, unable to be completely self-sufficient, unable to provide for themselves, as a result of which people fall into Slave Consciousness, dependent people are crowded together. Life is controlled only by OUTSIDE people (the government and their laws). Beliefs such as that my life depends only on the environment and EXTERNAL circumstances (family, work) are firmly established in the minds of a person dependent on EXTERNAL ones. They refuse to accept logical beliefs that prove otherwise. William James, the eminent philosopher and psychologist, said: «The greatest achievement of our time is that by changing the internal aspects of our thinking, we can change the EXTERNAL aspects of life.» There is a lot of truth in this short statement. And what will I say: «We are not what we think about ourselves, but what we think about all day – we are!»

You are not what you have, you are not what you have done in the past, and you are not what you consider to be luck or bad luck. You are not what you think about yourself, but what you think every time is you. We are not absolutely ideal and spiritually mature people and we should admit this.

We all want to go on an exciting journey that will help make our future brighter. We want to learn to eliminate the uncertainty that prevents us from moving forward. How to gain confidence in the future? If you feel stuck, consider yourself inferior to others, or cannot face life with confidence and enthusiasm, then you are dissatisfied with life, that is, not content (regret, resentment, revenge, guilt, etc. are negative emotions). And we know that feelings control a person. Emotion controls action. There is no better journey than being grateful for what may have been in your past life, spiritually enjoying the present, and being happy with the results that await you in the future. Boundless confidence is established only when you completely get rid of unpleasant, negative feelings (emotions). We are not victims of life (the world), we are the Merciful creation of God. And he (the Creator) is the main author of life, and we are co-authors. Therefore, fate (future) is written together.

Dependence on external property, on the environment, on deceitful popular people, etc. is a disease caused by the «Slave Consciousness» – it is also called personality disorders (loss of self). As a result of Addiction treatment, people become heroes who are not afraid to look inside themselves. Addiction is closely related to thinking. Some people are used to negative thinking and may not know how to deal with it. In order to distract from bad thoughts, people come up with different methods. But since all these attempts at self-deception are associated with EXTERNAL factors, their help is temporary, not permanent, only consolation. We don’t know how to use affirmations CORRECTLY because we haven’t learned how to use them effectively. That’s why they don’t help us. A person who fails to see the good in this says, «I will not return to the INNER world,» «All this is a lie,» and again becomes dependent on the EXTERNAL world. Understanding Affirmations (verbal thoughts) and Visualizations (imaginative thoughts) are needed primarily to teach a person to manage his thoughts. Thoughts are internal words that only you hear and internal images that only you see. Control of thoughts – control of life.

IDEAS THAT WILL HELP YOU

# Who am i?

Wise people often ask themselves this question in order to know themselves, but in order to find the answer to this question, they live a lonely life for many years and completely renounce the world. I don’t think this needs to be repeated, and I am convinced that the answer is within and will definitely be found.

# The whole problem is that our faith is erroneous and does not correspond to the truth. In this case, there is no limitless confidence, instead there is an imaginary life, a «Slave Mind» and dependence. Nobody will tell you about this. Today’s media, television, especially the Internet and social networks, do not tell you about the dangers and harms of negative information, but rather promote the benefits of lies sold for money. They will attack your brain with all their might to get your attention.

# The hardest thing for me is to believe that in the end I will win.

# If there is no virtue, where is honesty, if there is no evil, where is dishonesty.

# The best course of action is to eliminate the complexity factors.

# If the criticism is fair, you will get rid of your shortcomings, if the criticism is severe, you will be cured of your illness.

# Be original, be yourself – this is the motto of an intelligent person. My teacher said that you should seek wisdom without worrying about it, because everything in life is nonsense. This is a heresy that destroys religion. What else did he say… Ah… The life of a person without Truth is nonsense.

# The highest goal is to educate yourself correctly, to make yourself a useful person for society.

# Moral beliefs are morality for others. Moral beliefs produce only positive results. Therefore, morality must become a public interest.

# Real eye-catching beauty, beauty of character and speech is spiritual wealth.

# In the spiritual comfort zone, the soul is connected with God, there is no harm, no stress, no dispute with oneself and others.

# What is hell for? Until you are completely cured, until you pay the bill with pain.

# There is no sin, there is no guilt, there is illness, there is health.

# The human brain is filled with empty, useless and sometimes harmful thoughts. Therefore it is our duty to keep our mind pure.

# What’s the point of renovating your home if your soul doesn’t see the renovation.

# Balance between joy and sadness is the main reason for happiness.

# Try not to be God, but to please God. If you want to be on the path of God, be on the path of Truth.

# Man is not given complete free will and this is a great salvation for man.

# A goal is an illusion of the imagination, which at first is difficult to believe, difficult to imagine, difficult to understand. However, the correct goal set is a great power that is realized gradually, slowly but surely brings a person to the end point – the fulfillment of the desired dream, as a result of achieving the goal.

# Achieving a goal is not luck or fortune, it is hard work, the art of time management.

# A person cannot make mistakes, but repeating the same mistake a second time is a crime against oneself.

# It is necessary to prepare a child not only for school, but also for life.

# Correct upbringing consists of avoiding lies and deception, learning the whole truth about

yourself, and correcting with the truth.

# People could not build a civilization on their own (without the help of the Creator).

# Iman, who is not established in the heart during life, how will he be established at the time of death?

# True happiness is not in others, but in yourself. You deserve to be truly happy.

# What’s the point of being someone who causes waves of emotions if it affects others negatively.

# Science always wins, no matter how superior art is.

# Faith in God without science is a lost faith.

# Social media steals our time, due to which we do not have enough time to connect with God (salat).

# A place of worship is not a restaurant, worshiping God is not a show, song or dance.

# There is no time to wait for time.

# Self-sufficiency is the highest spiritual level of consciousness; in this case, a person does not need prayer, like Allah Almighty. But there is a lot to get right. As an example, a person will be able to climb to the top floor of a multi-story building. But the penthouse (the roof of a skyscraper) belongs only to Allah.

# Only people with a high spiritual level, a high level of consciousness and a strong will understood the meaning of devotion and worship of God.

# A bad thought comes from a thoughtless mind.

# Thinking that you alone are strong, educated and pious is deep inner arrogance.

# People with heavy «I» weight have a deep inner desire to bring their subordinates into the Slave Consciousness. After this, you wonder what happened to our good ones.

# Equality, Justice, Virtue, Unity, Peace are the enemies of Satan.

# The strongest virtue is endurance during trials and the ability to be an example to others. This is easier done than said.

# Good and evil do not come from God, but from man himself. Depending on how he used the Laws of Science, Nature and the Creator.

# Death is not from God, but from ignorance. If there is harakat (actions) and dua (prayer), if the disease is treated, the person (nafs) will not die, so blaming God for murder is not entirely rational.

# Slander of the world, slander of God. The fact that a person is bad is because of his dishonesty and the harmfulness of the environment.

# There are no mistakes in God’s creation, the chain of evil has no limit.

# If you are in a situation where you are truly happy, share it with others.

# Those who claim (in Islam) that the world (Dunya) is false and bad, seem to be taking revenge on their temporary place of residence, but never want to see these shortcomings in themselves.

# If by the will of God, then everything will be fine in the end, if only by the will of a person, there are continuous doubts about the future of this person.

# Being a simple person means silence in words and deeds, not pride.

# What is the use of science if a person does not harm himself? What is the use of prayer if one does not make mistakes?

# Bright light – freedom and liberty, dark fog – Slavery and Dependency.

# There should be no difference between the True Self and the False Show.

# Every step a person takes on a social network is his life story.

# The main reason for not achieving the goal is premature despair and a forced mask, internal disorder, as well as the negative influence of the environment.

# In life, no unproven nonsense should be an obstacle to faith in God.

# Children’s selfishness is all mine. Having matured, «My…» turns into the Egocenter. No one has yet said «Our…”, destroying «Mine».

# No one commits a sin intentionally, it is a symptom of mental illness, and if God wishes, He can cure it in this world or leave it for the hereafter, eternal life.

# What is true science? You cannot be sick even if you want to be sick. You cannot be unhappy even if you want to be unhappy.

# Money is not an ideal, but a tool. The first wealth is existence, the second wealth is the health of the body, the third wealth is the health of the soul, a person who has these three can achieve any success.

# Faith in God is caution and self-defense.

# The action of a sane person is to correct shortcomings, not hide them from anyone, understand that all the problems of life are a test.

# Blame, blame, gossip, boasting are not from Islam.

After Allah come the deputies (Caliphs) – the Ulama, then the Hakims, and after them the Hafiz.

# The lower class is suffering, and unless there is change, people will continue to be divided into upper and lower classes, denying the desired equality.

# The expression «should have been earlier…» (regrets) interfere with a bright future.

# There is no exorcism, there is acute psychosis.

# As the gadgets around us get smarter, we seem to get dumber.

# Be proud that you imitate God and not famous figures.

# Instead of making excuses, prove to yourself that you are a good person, and to do this, gain your advantages and the advantages of the people around you. Create your ideal personality.

# Deception, fun, consolation, eating each other, games, competition – the fashion of the world, is it right to give your life for this, to hope, to expect something good, to be diligent?

# Balance between soul and body gives a stable, good life.

# The health of the soul is threefold – Inner peace, purity, beauty.

# To be happy is to choose a direction, but this is not happiness, there is fog ahead, now find a way to happiness from this situation.

# Why are we not alike? Because the environment in which we grow and develop is different.

# Allah’s main desire is two things: to bring a person to a level where he can be independent, and secondly, to bring him to a level where he can be self-sufficient.

# The senses belong to us, but the heart belongs to God.

# Blind and deaf people are not treated, if they are treated, it is the grace of God.

# The world as a whole speaks the language of science. Therefore, it is necessary to learn this language.

# Prayer without action is like prayer without ablution.

# For Spiritual Revival, before the change of power, the people must be healed of Slave Consciousness.

# Well, I’ll leave the celebrities with their individuality, talent, wealth and honor, and today’s breeze is enough for me. Thank God I can breathe in and out!

# Hellfire – heals a sick soul by causing pain. Sins are cured by pain. Hell does not welcome a healthy person because he hates a healthy soul.

# There is no word luck or fortune, there is the word success.

# Gaining trust is achieved through tactics of deception and seduction. At this time, a person’s faith is tested.

# Guilt is not guilt, sin is not sin, I recognize only one truth – illness.

# Every thing, every being wants to say something. If we can see the power of God from this, we are happy.

# The world created by God is amazing for those who know its value.

# Where a thought comes to your mind and what kind of thought it is depends on the Unconscious.

# The difference between victory and defeat is just one thought.

# Brain programming means repeating verbal and visual thoughts until they become a habit.

# People have the wrong idea about Satan. Satan, one of the demons who became demons, whispers into our hearts from the inside, and not from the outside. But demons among people tempt outwardly. Both taught humanity many vices.

# Forgiveness is harmful to health if it does not hurt the heart, if tears do not flow from the eyes.

# Life is a teacher, but don’t learn from lies, find out the whole truth about yourself, learn to be the Truth.

# God’s love is realized through the love of parents. And orphans are under the direct care of God.

# The poor man who cannot make friends with himself becomes the enemy of others.

# There must be a balance between collecting and spending money.

# The most motivated person, the person who works as productively as possible every day.

# He did not send down the Quran so that we could only read and sing in Arabic, he sent it down so that we could read and understand it in our own language. Let’s not be fake Hafiz.

# Stopping in front of the monkey, Allah Almighty created the most important and reliable experiment, Adam.

# Who is the only one who does not make mistakes, does not go astray, does not get confused?

# When a person falls into evil, no one is to blame, he is simply a victim of the laws of Life (the Creator).

# A person can reduce his fear and make it disappear.

# Faith without doubt is ignorance.

# A head that is not full of good thoughts is full of bad thoughts.

# If we don’t throw out the trash on time, the brain will have a disgusting information smell, so let’s keep the brain clean.

# Life, tested by God’s laws, proven by science, what else is needed to be the Truth? # Don’t be a person who burns out quickly and goes out quickly.

# God waited until he created a creature similar to himself, after an experiment with a monkey, Adam appeared from water and soil. But, unfortunately, humanity failed to become a caliph (viceroy), people did not live up to God’s expectations, and as a result, God created hell.

# Don’t open your past, don’t close your future, don’t miss your present.

# Is man a slave to man, or is man a slave to fate, or is man a slave to his desires?

# «Don’t repeat this… mistake» I often heard from parents. Because they made the same mistake back in the day.

# More than a million people are engaged in science and creativity, and we are behind other nations because we think that the world is fake.

# Words are the most destructive weapon in the world. Words are the most incomparable medicine in the world.

# Anger limits the mind, but liberates after regaining consciousness.

# Words lead to the top of the hill, deeds lead to the top of the mountain.

# Everyone is looking for the meaning of life. I think it’s doing what you love, working hard and not being deceived by time.

In fact, you cannot achieve more than you are now because your current level of consciousness limits you.

# Words are the most destructive weapon in the world. Words are the most incomparable medicine in the world

# Anger limits the mind

# Words lead to the top of the hill, deeds lead to the top of the mountain.

# The doomsday program must be stopped.

# Young people think that life is a river without harm, without loss, without crocodiles.

# The joy of wealth does not disappear from the hands, it disappears from the spiritual world.

# If the money you earn is not honest, it will torment you when you grow old.

# A correctly read prayer invites you to knowledge and science. Invites you to study the Quran with love.

# The first wealth is to be, the second wealth is the health of the body, the third wealth is the health of the soul.

# No matter how much you criticize God, you will not find any fault.

# Where there is money, there is wisdom. Riches are not for fools.

# Selling words is like selling air.

# The umbilical cord must be cut at an early age to prevent death.

# God created nature and secured it with laws, then nature developed itself.

# The younger generation and the older generation are divided. Where is the bridge between them?

# Some people’s hearts are influenced by Iblis and not by God’s light. If we are strong, we must be able to distinguish between them. The Word of God or the Word of Satan?

# Remaining silent is one of the impossible actions of the 21st century.

# The doomsday program must be stopped.

# Heroes don’t cry, heroes are just sad.

# There are three evils – arrogance and disobedience to God. Self-deprecation and self-harm. Encouraging other people to do evil.

# Tempting other people to evil is from Satan, and calling to good is from the Merciful.

# There are only three reasons why all of humanity’s problems are not over. Harm to yourself, harm to others, harm to God.

# This is very difficult to understand or explain, everything is philosophy, therefore philosophy is the father of all sciences. A mysterious world full of mysteries. Let there be more people who can solve, explain or understand these mysteries.

# The implementation of the doomsday program is proceeding very intensively.

# A world without science will be poor, a world without faith in God will suffer, therefore without Truth there is no life.

# I will not judge the world without science, without faith in God.

# Suicide at the peak of depression is not a SIN, but a DISEASE, aggravated by random environmental influences.

# The solution to the problem is research, not hostility.

# Many imams confuse psychosis with demonic possession. We have nothing to do with demons who are not of the devil. Therefore there is no need to recite any Surah Jinn.

# Psychosis is treated in a psychiatric hospital. A psychiatrist treats people in this situation.

# God has the ability to cleanse. God throws people into the fire because He loves them. God’s principle is to treat diseases in this way.

# God has the ability to erase memories. Hell is not fatal for a person, but it is painful.

# A mentally ill person does not depend on the voice of God in the heart, but on external voices. That is, people want other people or things to solve their problems, not God within. This is spiritual death.

# Every day you have to deal with great responsibilities or get rid of them and rest.

# Happiness is like a game, sometimes you win and sometimes you lose. I don’t think everyone who doesn’t win is really happy.

# External beauty is a beautiful idea that hides internal evil.

# The hardest part of patience is when you rely on the finish line.

# We still have a chance to survive if our environment is not polluted.

# What is love for God? It is love that saves everything.

# It is depressing that the masses worship the Word of the People rather than the Word of God.

# Heroes of plays and films are our roles in life. Screenwriter, playwright, director, producer – there is only one God.

# I am not an imam who tries to extinguish the hope that the sinner is committing a sin intentionally.

# Due to environmental influences, many people were resurrected and many died.

# We call only a completely purified soul SPIRIT.

# It seems that someone sits inside and commands what to say and what to do. This is not our True Self. It is simply the truth about ourselves. At the level of being, we are all perfect and like God.

# We believe that the ideal self is the self that is imagined but never realized. I am the past, I am the present, I am the future, where is my Self?

# The best thing you can do for your parents is to dedicate your life to self-development.

# One scientist said that the fulfillment of desires is just a coincidence of the Laws of Life.

# Cleansing from the Lesser Hell in this life and the Greater Hell in the Hereafter is the mercy of God.

# Performances and films should show not only real life, but also ways to solve problems in this life.

# Every scientist should know that this life is only the first experiment.

# If science is based on truth, heaven will spread across the earth. If science is false, hell will spread across the earth.

# A day without science is fear, a day without faith is regret.

# There is no problem that science cannot solve. So science, let’s catch up with these problems.

# A person on the path of truth first believes in God, and then in Science. God is facts and evidence.

# I will be happy if others surpass me because the game of life goes on.

# Indecision is a war of opposing arguments within.

# The greatest achievement is not to lose hope until the last moment, of course this is easy

to say.

# Learn to give happiness, not receive it. And learn to enjoy it.

# I don’t want to play the «who is right» game.

# If the government does not consider its people as people, there will not be an equal and just society.

# There are scientific laws, to be happy you need to know them, obey these laws, use them not against yourself, but for your own happiness.

# There are two types of happiness – fake happiness and real happiness. The choice is yours.

# Gullible people are easy to deceive.

# In the world, according to the religion of Islam, it is not God’s creation that prevails, but man’s creation.

# Atheists would believe in God if religion penetrated their hearts.

# There is no limit, there is no evil in the Supreme Consciousness.

# The most painful thing for a person is not the death of the body, but the death of the soul

# What makes a person a king or a slave is the people around him, the environment.

# Are you tired of the hype that the world is fake?

# If a person’s root is honest, then no matter how many weeds surround him, he will still grow in an honest way.

# God gave everything, but humanity was unable to systematize it all. Religion without science is a serious problem. Everything bad is not a fault, it is not a sin, it is a disease, you can cure it and become happy.

# Music is a deceptive pastime, intoxicating or maddening.

# It is not necessary to prove something to someone, first of all, a person needs to prove himself to his inner world.

# Even the one who claims to be the wisest is mistaken.

# He who does not know how to forgive does not know how to ask for forgiveness

# Where does a bad child come from if parents think that they are raising correctly. Everyone needs a ready-made good child.

# If a child changes for the worse, the parents themselves bear responsibility. It’s not good to scold a child

# Parenting is about two things – setting a good example and being patient

# Forgiveness is like begging, we fall into despair, why don’t we prevent it, why don’t we deal with the consequences. The internal vibration of each regret is unique.

# For some, life is a drama, for some, life is a tragedy, for some, life is a comedy, for others, life is just a game

# People believe that forgiveness is beneficial. Forgiveness does not solve problems, but it softens the heart.

# Religion without science, Science without religion is useless.

# Until the living feel good, the dead will not feel comfortable.

# Looking at the people around me, I am afraid of myself.

# The worst emotions a person can experience in this world are insecurity and despair.

# I’m not against anyone, I’m with myself.

# If you say you know the truth, you will be hated, so it is better to write silently than to speak.

# God makes us healthy, and we make ourselves sick, what an injustice

# If you look carefully, there are ears without a brain, is this a mosque?

# Real vomiting is one thing, mental vomiting is another

# The curse of man has no effect on the Creator, because his love is thousands of times stronger than him. There is only one force that destroys evil, and that is creative love.

# God looks at the heart before possessions. God doesn’t look at what he created, he looks at our souls. Because we created it

# The responsibility of the government to the people is to distribute wealth in a uniform system.

# Evil is not from God, because God is pure, subhanallah. It is better to glorify Allah in any situation. Everything from us. A person has to go through a lot of trials before he realizes that he is himself.

# If you feel honest and pure, God will see himself.

# An ordinary person has no choice but to imitate famous people and repeat them like

parrots. In science this is called «total environmental control.»

# One praise for knowledge, a thousand praises for action.

# If everything is according to the will of God, if my own desires coincide, is there greater happiness for a person than this?

# If the result of religion is madness, it is not the truth.

# The hardest thing for me is to believe that in the end I will win.

# Man is the twin of the earth. When God created man, he likened him to our temporary abode, planet Earth. The giant planet Earth is just one of our cells.

# The responsibility for conveying the TRUTH to the people did not rest solely with the imams.

# Marketers know when to attack the brain when our emotional control is weak.

# Losing yourself is not losing yourself completely in the forest, but opening the way to new possibilities, but there are two types of people: some look at the earth and see dirt, and others look at the sky and see stars.

# Everyone wants to understand the concept of happiness based on their current situation. In fact, there is no such thing as my happiness and your happiness, just different beliefs and ideas. True happiness is not given to anyone in this world.

# It’s time to wake up, think about life, it’s not easy for us to get to heaven, we can’t get ahead of our time.

# Abundant money flows from the lower class into the accounts of the rich. This causes the lower classes to shout that they are poor again.

# Truth is the reason for everything, whoever finds it finds science and goes on a journey to the seventh heaven.

# For me, selling smart words is like selling air.

# He who understands the essence of the Quran understands the mystery of everything

# Thought does not die, thought can only hide

# Those who repeat the same mistake serve and become slaves of those who make fewer mistakes

# The most important wealth is well-being. Fighting the devil for survival is the law of nature.

# If a person repeats the same mistake, his soul is sick and needs treatment.

# Nobody goes to death intentionally, it’s not a sin, it’s a disease

# A masterpiece they say, what is the use of this masterpiece if it does not bring spiritual and moral benefit to humanity?

# Hell is the cure for lust that has not been completely purified.

# Laziness is not demotivation, but extreme depression.

# There is a biological age of a person, but this is not a spiritual and moral age.

# Loyalty to God, justice to yourself, satisfaction with your life, kindness to others.

# Pure blood has a pure soul. To cleanse the blood – a good example and patience. Match words and deeds.

# There are no gifted, talented people. There are only those who have learned to discover and develop their abilities.

# Ethical communication, understanding the soul of the student, directing him to the profession that his heart desires, explaining to the child the difference between freedom and decency, this is what modern pedagogy wants.

# You won’t be miserable forever, one day it will be your turn to raise the dead.

# I did not find the words «celebrate», «sing» and «dance» in the Koran.

# Responsibility for humanity rests with three great caliphs. These are alims, hakims, hafizs. But, unfortunately, when the three of them look in three directions, where can there be unity and mutual understanding.

# God does not take human life, man dies because of his pride and ignorance.

# It turns out that a person spends a lot of time making excuses rather than finding a solution.

# God gave everything to establish heaven on earth – the Holy Scriptures, the Prophets, and what we call SCIENCE. But unfortunately…

# Pedagogy should be based on three sacred values – Justice, Honesty, Kindness. Love comes from them. Dry knowledge chills the heart.

# It doesn’t matter what your past was, because those who delve into the past die today. No matter how perfect your past may be, if you continue to be proud of your past, your further spiritual and moral development will stop. Because yesterday’s achievements, yesterday’s achievements, and today’s achievements must be earned.

# There is no child who has not been brought up, there is a child who has not seen a good example.

# What do wrinkles on the face mean in old age? It means how much we tried to be human. # Every action has its own price. Some people are deeply in debt, and some are truly spiritually rich.

# Monkeys were God’s last experiment, then God learned to create Adam and boasted of this success to the angels. Because some cannot understand the difference between EVOLUTION and CREATION, Muslims cannot accept Darwin’s theory.

# If your level of consciousness increases, your level in life will also increase.

# There are people who are tired of both the external and internal environment. Don’t ask people to help you, help yourself. Ask the Creator for Independence and Self-Sufficiency.

# There are stimuli in the external environment that disrupt human consciousness, and the internal environment, which is their consequence.

# The best thing about a student is that he asks a lot of questions. The best thing about a teacher is that he listens to his student. The best thing about a teacher is that he always has an answer ready.

# I didn’t see the Hakims rushing, I didn’t see the Alims wasting time, I didn’t see the Hafizis closing their mouths.

# Don’t ask for forgiveness right away, ask after the anger has dissipated and the resentment has subsided. Then you will be forgiven.

# A person loses not because he lost, a person loses because he thinks that he lost.

# A society that does not take its scientists to the skies will be destroyed without knowledge.

# If there were more thinkers in society, if they recognized the truth and corrected it with the truth, humanity would be able to achieve complete success.

# Our consciousness needs to connect with the laws of the Creator. Before talking much, study the laws of Life (nature) created by God.

# We like to criticize each other instead of doing science, instead of increasing our devotion to God.

# Creativity is the unity of knowledge and practice, the integrity of word and deed – a useful model of education and upbringing.

# The word is the only food for the mind and the key to the mind

# Losing time or wasting time depends on the mood, because the bright mind finds useful things, the dark mind finds useless things.

# Religious fanaticism breeds fanatics. If a crowd of fanatics arises, this is the corruption of religion.

# Those who are together are better than those who are alone. In a problem solved together, everyone contributes.

# The body without outer clothing is cold, the soul without inner clothing is cold.

# To govern the people, rulers must fulfill all the demands of the people, because people are not stupid. He who does not know how to govern himself cannot be a ruler.

# There are many people who are afraid to speak and avoid people. It’s nonsense that they don’t know the communication style, they just need confidence and courage.

# Doing experimental science is not only about torturing animals, it is a responsibility to humanity.

# There are two relationships between people – unity or struggle.

# What I’ve noticed with some people is that they act like regular actors.

# The question I ask myself most often is: Am I who I appear to others, or am I different from who they think I am? Am I a masked performer or a real person?

# The disease that drives people to anger is to prove one’s innocence.

# Harmful digital information is fodder for predators (especially on social media) # Don’t be stupid, you’re not crazy, don’t be crazy, you’re not stupid.

# Our disease has been getting worse over the centuries and has now become an incurable disease. This disease does not cause pain – it gives endless pleasure and fun, and I also want to shine in the shining world. But why, for whom, what will happen next, I am primarily concerned about the consequences.

# If an idea is logical, everyone will accept it.

# I saw a man with a heavy sigh, I saw a man with a smile on his face, which means I saw death and life.

# Inhale and exhale – it is as if you took God’s wealth and gave it to charity.

# Don’t look for the author of the book, look for what’s inside.

# Don’t look for the famous, look for the needy.

# Even if I travel the world, I will not reach the Inner Realm.

# Global progress scares me because there is always a fear that the direction of humanity in science is not humane.

# What interesting people we are, we say that we were not created from monkeys, but are proud of religion without science.

# The culture of communication is not to block the path of other people.

# While some challenges get easier by the hour, others take years to complete. Everyone has their own limits. Happiness is poison for some people because so-called happiness is illusory.

# A person does not die by fate, he dies by his own ignorance.

# There is nothing with death, there are many interesting things with life.

# The mind of a soulless person is dead.

# If you don’t want to die, don’t say you’re human, don’t follow the crowd, benefit your surroundings and don’t ask anyone to help you.

# Thoughts are internal words that only you hear and internal images that only you see.

# For the world, every thought is a word, and every word is a rule for us.

# I did not find the island of happiness in the oceans. I didn’t smell the trees in the forest. I couldn’t benefit from underground wealth. Therefore, I am a poor, unsatisfied creature.

# Love life because God created it. Love people like you in life, because God created them too. Love what people have created, because God taught them to create. So why hate a person? It was Satan, the enemy of God, who whispered.

# A person who cannot understand what truth is is not a liar, but a false truth-teller who has not tried it to the end.

# Stopping suicide must begin with eliminating information that promotes suicide.

# Society is declining, people are deteriorating, if you come across such a time, do not forget about compassion.

# A maxim of custom means a clear and precise expression of thought. It’s a hard habit to break. This is the justification of a lost, dependent person without faith, without science, without love.

# The bird that lands on a fool is blind.

# Life without science has no meaning, Life without religion has no decoration.

# In general, people are divided into two types: passionate people who are driven by instinct, and disciplined people who are driven by reason.

# Doing good means making people happy, but not making them happy, but teaching them how to be happy.

# There is not a single person who has unraveled all the secrets of the universe. There is a line of sages that has been going on for several centuries to solve it.

# Man is the worst of creations. The reason they do not repent is because they tempt each other and wish each other harm. Man is the most perfect creation. People help each other, wish each other well. Hell seeks the poisoned heart. Paradise seeks a pure heart.

# The Koran says that people will have fear and panic when the end comes. In fact, life ends with love.

# Sages and scientists look at life differently than we do. They have a special ability to think.

# Non-use of material goods given to a person, sparing oneself and one’s health, carefully hoarding them, preserving them for a future life, thinking that a person will use them after death, is an evil caused by financial circulation.

# The art of being a good person is knowing what not to think about.

# Consciousness acts with Reason. The thought that moves a person. Fighting yourself, denying yourself, being against yourself are useless character disorders.

# Wild animals destroy a person, a holy poet destroys faith.

# Emotions that drive every action, if you give them freedom, you can lift your spirits, this is how we get out of depression in our own way.

If the inner atmosphere after each prayer is like fresh air after rain, this is a sign of a believer. Prayer nourishes a person as rain nourishes the earth.

# The purity of pleasure is in the laws of God, and His power is secured by love.

# The animal is forced to go into the cage for food, the parent is forced to go into hell for the child.

# If you need to be happy, try to forget about happiness, because that is also happiness.

# You need to be able to see the light in the dark, it doesn’t burn outside, it burns inside, but people still want to see the light outside. That is why all the sages say that «true happiness lies in man.»

# You won’t be lonely in the dark if you can turn on the light inside, you won’t be miserable in sorrow if you can cultivate happiness within.

# Every lucky person is cunning in his own way.

# There are scientific Laws of Life, to be happy you need to know them, obey these laws, use them not against yourself, but for your own happiness.

# If we want a joyful and happy life scenario, everyone can get it, the main thing is to know the canons and principles (basis) of existence – this is the most useful knowledge for us, these are the Laws of Life (the Creator) that need to be mastered.

# The Laws of Life are common to all of us, neutral, fair, they can apply to all people equally. Some people cannot feel love, warmth, mercy, kindness and compassion. Because most of them are hidden in ignorance and do not recognize the laws of the Creator. They force themselves to live in a limited consciousness of the mind and have a defect of vision.

YOU HAVE GOLD INSIDE YOU

What would you do if someone gave you a box of gold and told you to use it? you can express your admiration in different ways, with emotion, but in any case, you will not do one thing: you will not receive such a gift. You immediately open this chest, run to the bank and convert all the gold into money or deposit it in the bank as «my wealth». In fact, all wealth is not in the hand or outside, it is in the brain! A person does not get rich with his hands, he gets rich with his brain. And what would you do if someone told you that you have a chest full of gold inside (your brain)? Would you believe it? Maybe you will search your brain (soul) and find a box of gold and profit from it. However, have you ever thought that most of us have a treasure chest of gold in our minds all our lives, but never use it? Deep within the level of thinking lies a wonderful part of our mind (consciousness) called the ’unconscious’. A lot is said about it, but no one has yet been able to fully understand its true meaning and unlimited possibilities. One thing is known, there is a chest of gold distributed equally to everyone. All received information is unconscious, processed and stored. This is a storage place for memories, a memory storehouse, a hidden repository of knowledge (a place where any data and information is stored). In order to be successful, we must use it properly, otherwise knowing it will be of no use. Like beggars sheltering in the field or sitting in an empty house without light or water, sometimes we don’t know the value of the gold that is in our brain, and we are unaware that there is a chest of gold inside us. This is «Beysana» that represents who you are!

I hear the advice of many wise people: «Don’t say you’re poor», «Don’t say you don’t have a job», «Don’t say the government is bad» and use what God has given you. Honestly, I agree, use the gold inside you, there’s no point hoarding it just to use it later. What are those golds? «Health», «Time», «Opportunity», «Ability», «Will to choose and make decisions», «Mind and Heart» etc. concepts.

For example: he is healthy, his limbs are like a hammer, his senses are full, but money is not always enough for him, because he falls into such a situation not because he loves himself in the role of a poor man, but because he does not know that all wealth is in the brain. That is, the reason is ignorance.

Another example: You need to be able to see the light in the darkness, it’s not burning outside you, it’s burning inside you, and people still want to see the light from outside. That is why all sages say that «true happiness is within a person». Our unconscious can be put to good use in our everyday life. He will not get tired of working for you, working hard, doing business, doing business, if you can guide him in the right way. It can be done without any productive action for our honest benefit. You can be more efficient by doing the work of an experienced secretary with your mind, by remembering information that will only benefit you, not cost you. As with a computer, every fact (information) and impression (emotion) that your mind perceives always passes through the surface level of thinking and is stored at the bottom level (mind), the unconscious. How can you use, harness and develop this incredible power? How to own the hidden kingdom of the unconscious? Of course, this will not be done in a hurry. The hidden powers of the unconscious must be developed through a slow and systematic process of concentration (letting go of what is needed and removing what is superfluous) and directed at our will, mind and imagination.

You decide what you want from the unconscious and give it one task at a time, because it is not a robot and can process a lot of information at once. If you want to solve a real problem, take about five minutes each morning and evening to think, imagine, believe that the solution is taking shape at your unconscious level. Then suddenly the solution is ready. It can be called a different, internal signal. This is not accidental. It does not appear out of nothing. You gave a task – oral or written – and he suggested solutions. For these to be the right decisions, you must make the right choices, and for that the unconscious must be open to the wisdom of its source, the Universal Mind (Creator). If you want to be healthy, focus on your thoughts about your health, do not let thoughts of illness and weakness interfere. If you want to be a successful person, don’t set yourself up for failure. If you want to be happy, then you should not allow yourself to think about worries and disappointments. Information that constantly occupies your mind becomes thought (inner word + imaginary image), then further enters your unconscious and gradually becomes your experience, so you become positive, constructive, pragmatist (it is his life, every action and attitude towards himself/others, work you need to think about (in terms of actually getting useful results). Always remember that your unconscious must be open to the wisdom of its source, the Universal Mind. Trust this wisdom and you’ll make fewer mistakes and be healthier and happier. You will live a fruitful life.

«The best we have to believe is the truth.» (William James is the father of modern psychology).

WHO IS HOLDING YOUR LUCK?

Did you have big dreams and plans in your childhood, youth, writing books or painting, starting your own business or engaging in other creativity, art, science and education? probably most of us have. and if we are honest with ourselves, most of us dream about those dreams and goals without being able to realize them. but we can justify our sacrifice by saying that I have other jobs and chores. «I would be happy to write a novel, but I have to do my job, otherwise who will support the family?». «It would be good to draw a picture, but my eyesight is bad.» «You could do science, but nobody needs science in our country.»

«When I was a child, I used to play the tambourine strongly, then I gave it up, I forgot it when I grew up, my hand doesn’t work» we invent empty excuses to justify ourselves completely:

Think for a minute about Gaius Julius Caesar. Did you know that Caesar wrote his notes at night, under a tent, while the entire Roman army slept, he would sleep very little at night, write a lot, and the next morning he would lead his soldiers into battle.

Did you know that George Frideric Handel wrote some of his best music after the doctors told him he had a serious illness? And Beethoven continued to write music even after he became completely deaf.

Have you ever wondered how the three great poets – Homer, Milton, and Dante – were blind?

Think of Hannibal Barca and Lord Nelson: the greatest commanders in history, they had only one eye. Well, Francis Joseph Campbell, blind in both eyes, was an outstanding mathematician and musician.

Do not feel that you are bound by something and do not limit yourself: «No, not only with my capabilities, but also with my circumstances.» I will never be like them.» I’m not telling you to be like them, but you have to untangle the strings of your brain and go beyond the limitations of your mind.

Think of daniel defoe, author of the world famous robinson crusoe: he wrote his book while in prison. John Bunyan, while behind bars for his religious activities, wrote The Pilgrim’s Journey, one of the most important works of English religious literature. Luther translated the «Bible» while sitting in the Wartburg Castle. The Italian poet, thinker, theologian Dante continued his works even though he was in exile for twenty years and died there, and «Don Quixote», one of the most famous and great works of world literature, was written by the Spanish writer Cervantes in Madrid prison.

You might say, «That’s all great, but I have to work.» Here is some more useful news for you:

Can you imagine the bride of Gone with the Wind? Margaret Mitchell, an American writer and journalist, wrote it while working at the Atlanta Journal, where she worked sixteen hours a day instead of eight.

Think of William Shakespeare, who said, «I learned nothing at school but to read and write, and the teachers were all rascals,» but he continued to explore on his own and became a great writer. English poet and playwright, considered one of the greatest playwrights.

Have you ever lost your health and felt like you lost yourself due to some shortcomings or defects? You immediately say, «God forbid.» There have been many people in history who had a good reputation despite being weak and disabled.

Franklin Roosevelt, the 32nd president of the United States, who was crippled by polio, once said: «The only obstacle to our plans for tomorrow can be our present doubts.»

Soviet and Latvian chess player, eighth world champion, grandmaster, Mikhail Tal, was born with a rare pathology – he had only three fingers. This did not prevent him from becoming the youngest world champion in history and learning to play the piano.

Hero of the Soviet Union, fighter pilot Alexei Maresyev, was seriously wounded during the Great Patriotic War, as a result of which he lost both legs. but then he did not lag behind the others and again flew into the sky with prostheses. in total, during the war, he fought 86 times, shot down 10 enemy planes: three before being wounded and seven after. Boris Polevoy, a writer without two legs, but amazed by his zest for life, wrote a book about the exploits of a Soviet pilot, which he called «The Story of a Real Man.»

The life of the British musician Rick Allen did not start out tragically. But in 1984, while he was driving his car, another driver began to threaten him on the road. Rick was young, angry and loved racing. So he gets into a car accident and loses his arm. Doctors tell Allen (at age 21) «Forget the drum, thank God you’re alive.» But he did not want to give up music no matter what. Rick was soon fitted with a custom prosthesis to hold the cane. In addition, he learned to use his legs. Since then, he always went barefoot at concerts. Allen returns to the stage as the drum tunes to his liking. Since his return in 1986, he released 8 albums. In 2001, he and his wife founded the Raven Drum Foundation, an organization that promotes healing through active participation in art music therapy. He is one of the TOP drummers on UK Gigwise. Fans call him «Thor», the god of thunder.

«I will never agree to turn back the time I lost my hand. Without him, I wouldn’t know how strong I am,» he says.

I won’t talk about Nick Vujicic, who I think you know better than I do. Now let’s focus on one more special person:

Did you know that the richest man in the world (in 2021) Elon Musk, an American entrepreneur, engineer and billionaire, was very withdrawn as a child? His classmates at school beat him several times in the toilet, abused him and did whatever he wanted. Elon’s peers at school beat him and broke his nose many times. He saw the divorce of his parents due to daily quarrels and fights.

Think once more about your desires, dreams, goals, and plans stored in your soul, heart, and inside (brain). Re-evaluate the arguments you’ve made up, don’t support excuses like «it’s impossible», you’re doing yourself a disservice, destroy their eyes. Revisit the arguments you’ve come up with as to why you can’t make your dreams come true. Realize that these excuses are false. Put them aside and make sure that your wishes come true and realize that their fulfillment depends on your brain alone. remember: The only person holding us together is ourselves. We are the only ones who are turning the face of our dreams and goals. It is we who are tying our fate, limiting our consciousness, creating an artificial handicap. The only obstacle to happiness in both lives is ourselves.

«I CONFESS»

Many years ago, the Viceroy of Naples, the Duke, visited Barcelona, Spain. At that time, there was a galley (a warship or boat in Europe that was rowed by slaves, convicts, or prisoners) in the harbor (a convenient place for ships to stop and come and go by the sea), where the oarsmen (rowers of the boat) were convicts. The duke went on board this galley and went through all the prisoners, asking each about the crimes that had brought him to the galley, and listening to their sad stories.

The first man said that he was only here because the judge had taken bribes from his enemies and sentenced him unjustly. Another, his enemies, said he paid off a witness and gave false testimony against him in court. To the third one, his best friend betrayed him, escaped from justice and sacrificed him for money. Finally the duke listened to the confessor: «Sir, I am here because I deserve it. I wanted to get a lot of money and stole a wallet. I deserve and am ready for what I have to endure.»

The duke was surprised. He turned to the captain of the galley and said, «All these people are innocent and have come here for an unfair trial, but there is one criminal among them. Everyone else is white, innocent, innocent, and this criminal came here with his corruption, so let’s release him as soon as possible before he infects others with his sin.» The person who confessed his guilt and mistake, agreed, was released and pardoned, and those who tried to justify themselves and chose excuses remained in the galley.

This is a story that actually happened, and interestingly, it reflects exactly what is happening in our lives. We make mistakes and instead of admitting the mistake, we spend our whole lives making excuses. We blame others (the environment), the situation, why don’t we say instead: «I have led my own life.» I am the only one in control of the thoughts in my head, and who I am right now, what I am, is what I have created for myself.»» The moment we understand this truth, we will be freed from the slavery of this life in the galley and will be able to return our life to our will and live a different, truthful and worthy life. look at your own life. understand yourself and life, regulate, discipline. learn to forgive and love yourself despite your mistakes. accept your mistakes. forgive and love yourself for these mistakes, and then you will be released from the lifeof slavery in the galley. you will be able to live the way you are meant to live: happiness, peace, and excellent health. It all starts with taking responsibility for your past, present and future.

THE BOOK OF LIFE

Is there a book where you are sitting or standing right now, whatever it is? If «yes», if you find it, I have one request for you – pick up the book. It doesn’t matter what the book is about: just pick it up and look at it. Now try to see it from a different point of view than yours. Imagine that this book, which you are holding in your hand, has been washed ashore by the waves of the sea on an unknown island. Do not think that the book is water-water. It is still dry. The inhabitants of this island are intelligent and culturally developed, but they have no idea about the alphabet and letters.

What do they do now? They pick up the book and see the beautifully crafted paper. They look at print and see the complex structure of letters and punctuation. They think it’s a very interesting art form and appreciate the book from that point of view.

Do they understand the book? Will they really benefit from this book? I think not. Of course, the paper and printing marks are only a small shadow of the actual content of the book. And the actual content depends on how well you understand it. The inside of the book is important, not the outside, because the inside of the book is a world full of ideas.

Isn’t it the same in our lives? We look at the paper and ink of life: breathing, eating, working, sleeping. We look at the ordinary scenes of life and say «this is life». It’s like looking at the paper and the labels and saying «this is a book». But our life, like a book, has a meaning, and of course we all know that the purpose of life is not in paper and ink, but in its meaning.

Our life should first of all be meaningful. Take another look at the ink and paper of your life. Today you send the children to school or go to work, which is very good. Without paper and ink, we would not be able to express the idea of the book, try to look beyond the known, surface meaning of everyday little things in your life, understand their real content, otherwise you will not see anything beyond your nose for the rest of your life. Feel the real meaning of what you are doing. Are you dealing with the meaning of life? you came into this world to learn to realize your purpose. every person does not come to this life in vain, a mission is assigned from above, but unfortunately, many people are unable to fulfill their mission and die. destiny is in your brain. You have the right to imagine your brain as paper and write your own destiny. make this your goal. this is your life book.

Apply this purpose, beyond the surface meaning of your life, look further and see the meaning of the past that you have lived before, see the meaning of the future plan.

Everyone talks about happiness, but few understand its meaning, because it is an abstract concept. only with this idea will you seek to understand the whole book of life. you cannot interfere with the general book of life, but remember that the book of your life is in your own brain. when you find a little meaning in life, it prompts you to search for a deeper meaning. this search will never be fruitless: it will lead you to more detailed answers to the questions that bother you, to a deeper and more meaningful life.

WHITE ELEPHANTS

What do you say when you see someone make stupid decisions, act erratically, run wild and gradually lead to emotional and mental breakdown or financial ruin? Are you one of those people who, when you’re stressed or down, turn around and say: All I can say is, he dug himself a hole, he’s to blame, of course, then…”? I think we all say that, and the funny thing is, we think it’s true because we’re digging ourselves a hole. Why all the troubles in our life? Because we asked them. Sometimes this can be very difficult to understand, but it is true.

Prayer, a deep desire, is a much more powerful force than most of us realize. We want something very much, and the intensity of our desire brings us closer to its realization. But if we wish badly, then this intensity will bring us despair and pain. Evil is not human, and we tend to cling to it instead of avoiding it.

I think it’s dangerous to focus too much on getting certain things out of life.

Emmett Fox once said, «Be careful of your desires, for you have all the freedom to make them come true!» said.

I think he was right. the desire of our heart moves in mysterious ways that no one can fully understand and sooner or later manifests itself in real life. therefore, we must be careful and understand what we are getting into. you see, our wishes can be a white elephant with the theme!

When rajas (rulers) in ancient India wanted to impoverish one of their subjects, they would give him a white elephant. the need to feed him, wash him and dress him every day would reduce him to poverty, because he would have absolutely no time to earn money. they do it for fun and it’s the same in our lives. many elements of our desires become white elephants, under the influence of evil. and against it, I think that life itself hides many of our unreasonable, bad, negative, negative, negative prayers and desires, because it (Allah) wants to protect us from white elephants (trials of poverty, disease, etc.).

Maybe instead of how to give anything away, we should be looking for more wisdom. It is much safer to seek wisdom because you have the equipment to look at other people and their problems intelligently and humanely. having reason (useful, necessary, necessary information), you are not in a hurry to make an unreasonable decision, such a decision will inevitably lead to people turning away from you and saying: «All I can say is that he did not get what he wanted, he wished for himself received.»

Most people give up on the pursuit if they can’t get it right away or achieve it. Many people want what they decide to pursue, but do not pursue what is really useful, necessary, necessary, because they do not know what is useful, what is necessary, what is necessary, no one taught them and no one is forced to, one must learn by himself, learn what someone else taught him. no, because your life is your own business.

There is a big difference between what is really useful, what you need, what you need and what you want. Imagine if, as a child, your parents told you to do whatever they wanted: drink a bottle of insecticide or touch the beautiful flame that «dances» on the gas stove. b. You thought you wanted it, but your parents knew it was dangerous for you, that it could hurt you, so they stopped it to save your life.

Here is the difference between our unhealthy wants and our healthy needs. If we pursue the wisdom of what is right for us – the understanding of truth – and not lust and worldliness, then we will have all our useful desires, and we will know with certainty what we should want and need throughout our lives. The most important thing is that our will coincides with God’s will.

ACTION WITHOUT ACTION

Are you a proactive, entrepreneurial person? I guess it depends on how you understand the word «action». Maybe you are always «in the same place with your brain» and that’s why you consider yourself to be an active, business person? Is that so? I believe that action does not always require action. There are times when our actions serve as excuses for not knowing what is truly beneficial. A lot of time and energy is often spent on trifles and harmful practices. But we cannot afford to waste our time and energy. Sooner or later you have to make a decision, whether it’s important or not, because if we try to do everything at once, we won’t get to what’s really important. The human mind is a very delicate and complex tool. It is stressful both internally and externally, and too much pressure can often lead to backsliding, failure to plan, and stalling.

Mental overwork can be as debilitating and exhausting as physical. There is only one way to support yourself – your inner Self – and always return to the silent conversation. You will rest peacefully near the source and source of life, which will increase your resistance to negative influences, allowing you to live a happy life. Surprisingly, it is a higher level of activity than mental or physical. In the world of time, which turns like a cartwheel, there is a point of inactivity and stillness. We must learn to return to this point again and again, if we do not want to be crushed by the wheels or cast aside. The stillness of inaction in the heart is the only place where we can communicate with our Inner Self. If we want this peace, we must consciously (voluntarily) put ourselves in a position to achieve it. The secret of the renewal of these forces is mental, physical and spiritual, all of which are the «I» of man. Once you find this truth, you will feel the confidence of the mind, which has recognized its essence.

Activity does not always mean movement. the action of the inner «I» is often in absolute inaction, immobility. when recharging the car battery, it sits on the rack with two wires coming from it, and looks completely dead. nothing happens on the outside, but inside this battery there is even more active activity than before.

Edward Arnold wrote: «You are in trouble by yourself, no one pushes you or holds you in one place, you are free to live and die, to turn with the wheel and kiss its spokes, that is what pain, suffering, and suffering are all about.»». Indeed, we are not bound by the need to constantly rotate in the direction of action. Sometimes we are most active and active when we allow ourselves to work with our Inner Self without moving completely.

This is what I call action without action, and I do not deny real movement and action, because it is the final point, without a point, the sentence does not end, there is no proof of the spoken word. However, unless we consider action without internal action as work, we may remain one of many and perhaps unhappy.

ERRORS AND SINS

Are you afraid of making mistakes and sins? Many people are afraid of making mistakes, sometimes not only people, but also entire governments. I once read that the Government of Uganda has banned radio broadcasting of weather forecasts. Ancient local residents mistook meteorological reports and data for government decrees and decrees and completely obeyed and worshiped the weather. When the forecast (weather) turns out to be inaccurate, they blame the weather, they blame the government, and because of that, people stop believing everything they say on the radio. They used to say that this whole government is a lie, like a weather forecast.

The Ugandan government found an easy way out of this situation. They simply banned weather forecasting on the radio. But I doubt that it was really the right and fair decision. And what do you think? However, this was a mistake made by the Ugandan government…

What is the point of stopping an action because we have made mistakes or because we can make mistakes, or what is the point of hating yourself and life because we have already sinned? We wouldn’t achieve anything if we kept stopping every time we started, even if we made a mistake at least once, right? We wouldn’t learn to love ourselves, love life, if we didn’t learn the lesson after sin and face trials, right? Of course, all this can be avoided, this is the best way. But is it possible?

Let’s say that when you were a little kid, you tripped for the first time and fell to the floor and thought, «This is a complete failure.» It’s nothing». maybe you would never have learned to walk if you hadn’t stumbled. Let’s say that after making the first mistake in an example of simple arithmetic (the branch of mathematics that studies numbers), you completely give up arithmetic, then you will never count money, buy things in stores, etc. b. you wouldn’t learn.

I believe that the ability to make mistakes is an important part of our life experience, and if we fear making mistakes and avoid them because of that fear, then we gradually lose all the good and useful things in life. Of course, you can push this argument to the point of absurdity. if we can learn from our mistakes, then we should not be afraid to make many mistakes, because the more mistakes we make, the more we learn. I do not propose to continue such an argument, to take it as advice, I simply say: you have the right to make mistakes, without mistakes and sins no one can be completely happy, to deny this is ignorance.

Whatever mistakes you made in the past, they have become an important part of your experience. Use them as an opportunity to move your brain and start life again: don’t give up on your dream goal because you failed the first time, and don’t stop what you started, don’t give up. Every mistake in your life has shaped your current perception. Bless your mistakes, they made you human. Thank them for their teaching. Remember: the main purpose of mistakes and sins is to stir your brain and give you another chance to start a new life.

Of course, even after reading my book, you will make mistakes, but you will learn and experience in each one.

There are no predestined, irreversible, irreversible, insurmountable mistakes and sins, unless you yourself give them the opportunity to do so. Repeated mistakes and sins will not happen, unless you allow them to happen. You will not be a slave to fatalism, if you can write your own destiny according to the truth.

SUCCESS OR FAILURE

Do you judge your actions as successes or failures in your opinion? I believe that most of the failures in our life are the result of our attitudes and thoughts towards ourselves, towards the world, towards other people, towards the creator. A person cannot achieve success if a person does not believe in it and is not confident. because for those who have courage and faith, the way always seems open. this means the correct attitude and thinking towards victory, success, success, increases his spiritual strength, internal dominance and superiority, and contributes to the creation of miracles and miracles in this life. If you don’t have the right attitude and mindset, why not start building it today?

In our ever-changing life, formed by a complex system, there are various external factors acting around us, and sometimes we want to shout that these external factors control our life, our situation. but in reality, we chose that life and situation as we like, and as a result we only do what we choose, because life is all about choice, success and failure. even if we don’t want to choose a certain path, we ultimately choose it because it seems to us the path of least internal resistance. we want to take the easy and easy way, even though we know that it may cause us inconvenience and trouble in the future. we will always have to make decisions: in business matters, in family relationships, in everyday life activities. We always have the need to choose, so it is very important to be able to make the right choice.

This is very important: when we realize that the strength that allows us to overcome any obstacle is within us, we stop calling for help. When the inner self begins to speak quietly (internal dialogue), we tune into the internal resources of that mind (mental power) (brain food information). The secret of this power is to understand our behavior, to increase our thinking resources (to feel how much it is limited by the slavish mind, to expand its boundaries). Only when we begin to understand that the power to do anything, to achieve what we want, is within us, success in life will come to us, this is our main success in life!

I think great people, people in history, believed that they had a great power inside them and with that power they were able to overcome all obstacles and difficulties. this force is stronger than any situation, internal or external factors. there is no power greater than it and they were able to use it and became conquerors of the world. I think that those who do not believe in internal power, but only in external power, cannot do anything great in this world, they come like animals and go like animals.

I’m sure the people who believed this were ridiculed by their friends and family, maybe thought a little crazy. they considered it vanity and stupidity, and they returned to the millstones of their ordinary, everyday life, turning it until they died, and at last they lived as friends with a sense of failure and exhaustion. but they, even if they felt it and knew it, did not tell anyone, because it is a problem of the inner world. in their opinion, this daily hustle and bustle, aimless action, unplanned movement relieves and relieves their inner restlessness, anxiety, fear, and general depression. do you want to be one of these people or listen to your inner strength? this is a warning, not a threat!

Start using the creative power of your mind. use the power of foresight, use it, because your thinking is a force (foresight), a swift current that makes you work. connect your mental powers with the universal unconscious that does everything for you and you become a super person. try to you will know that you have found the key to solving any problem in your life. In simple terms, this means: you can do anything you put your mind to if you put your mind to it enough to think you can! Let me say that again: you can do anything you set your mind to if you put your mind to it enough to think you can. In any situation, success and victory starts with your mind first. Everyone has the ability to clearly and clearly see the goal in their imagination before it is realized in real life, but only one out of ten of them uses it, and if you can develop that ability, any of your goals will come true and you can reach them easily and easily.

ROAD OR A WALL?

Do you see yourself as a road builder or a wall builder? each of us will either build roads or build walls throughout our lives. how do you perceive yourself? I found a short poem that explains this theme simply and beautifully:

«Great roads were built by sovereign Rome, To connect people, At the same time, walls were built, To separate, separate and protect, Over the centuries, due to human passion, All walls fell, But roads remained.»

Do you build ways, ways of communication, where you can meet other people and share ideas with them? Or do you build walls in your mind that separate, separate, protect you from others? I think all the materials and effort that goes into building a wall is a waste, it’s all a waste of labor and time because those walls will fall anyway.

The truth is that we are Creatures who must strive for spiritual unity with all humanity, and weak walls built to separate and separate from other people will never last long. But different in ways. Do you build paths that connect you with people? Just like the two arteries to the brain in the human body, you need them in your daily business and spiritual and social life. Do you have this relationship? How often do you talk to people? I would like to say that spiritual, family and kinship ties are higher than usual business ties.

Have you heard of empathic listening and the empathic method? Have you ever heard of the quiet boulevards of empathy? Do you want to be an empath? This is a person who has developed the ability to empathize. Do you build a path from heart to heart, paths of mutual understanding, paths of compassion for misfortune and sorrow. Does your spirituality begin with cooperation? Will you build such streets or quiet alleys of love and understanding, full of fragrant, white-flowered tree acacias (lookers)? There is no need to overwhelm them with words. They are smiling, comforting and these scenes are covered with tree leaves: «I know. I understand everything. I love you». Build streets and alleys like this, because they will last forever. Nothing can destroy them.

Take some time today to decide whether you want to spend energy, mental and spiritual energy building walls to separate yourself from your loved ones, or whether you want to build intellectual arteries of collective thinking, wide boulevards of empathy and silent alleys of spiritual unity. By deciding what to build, you determine the nature of your life. It can be a world of walls that keep you out, or a world of paths that you can travel to endless joy. The choice is up to you.

FATE IS NOT TO BLAME

Do you consider yourself happy or unhappy? Do you think your life is full of success or failure? When we think about our unfulfilled hopes and dreams, our failed grand plans, people often blame fate or so-called luck or bad luck. But this is nonsense (absurd)? Some people say: «This is my lucky (or unlucky) star» or «Today is a new life for me, a new day, a new me» on the contrary «I wonder when I will get rid of school, work or family again». Why do we say this? We speak to hide our shortcomings, mistakes, and sins from ourselves. We want to deceive ourselves with words, but in reality the life we want is not happening, or it is happening, but still there is a feeling of emptiness inside, as if something is always missing. Remember: We succeed or fail depending on the nature (level) of our consciousness.

I think Shakespeare said it best in Julius Caesar, where he says, «Sometimes men are masters of their own destiny. Blame for mistakes, dear Brutus, not from the stars, but from us alone.»

We die at the bottom, but in reality, we can be the masters of our destiny if we can bring our thoughts and actions into alignment with the creative purpose of our lives. If we can «attach» our thoughts to our purpose, then we become the masters of our destiny. But how willing are most of us to trust our inner guide? No, we prefer to rely on our judgments, our old habits, and when things go wrong, we are ready to blame God, fate, the stars, or anything else that has not lived up to our hopes and beliefs.

if it were possible to show all the details of the past, our past complaint, then we could see where and when we recently went wrong, and identify the point where we strayed from the right path to the wrong star. we would see where we had made an irreparable mistake. you see, we could have made a choice. And that choice was ours, but we can’t turn back that time, but we can fix all of our past, because we have the present moment and the future.

God gave us life as a gift and a test because he gave us free will. only we, as human beings, choose what will improve or destroy our lives. we can change our choices at any time and start a new life. do not blame the stars, anything, anyone for your problems, remember that you are created in the image and likeness of the «great truth», if you want to blame yourself, blame only for something, blame only for acting as a slave to the stars or some other matter.

Only our mistakes and failures hinder our destiny and there is no written destiny that tries to hurt or harm us. The «great truth» seeks one thing: to add to the absolute good (the little paradise) that is not yet formed in our lives. But the «Holy Book» with its seal, so to speak, the great paradise (the abode of absolute peace, purity, goodness, goodness) will not be established in the first life, although this does not mean that one should not strive for it. Therefore, the Creator uses various methods to save us from hell (the place of absolute purification and healing) in the first life: hunger, war, disease, etc. b. Consider the word hell a severe trial. In general, not everyone can enter the big paradise without going through a small or big hell, that person either passes through the small hell of this world or passes through the big hell of the hereafter and enters the big paradise. The abstract concept that people think of as happiness in this world is a small paradise, the Bible says that the small paradise, that is, the paradise of the world, has nothing to do with the big paradise. True happiness is based only on truth. Truth is useful knowledge and proven science for the will, spiritual light for the mind and light of faith for the heart.

In any situation we keep the elements of goodness, if you accept the truth of your situation, then suddenly the written fate is behind you and you know that everything will be fine in both lives. why? because we have joined the path of «common sense» which always leads to the right decision. everything we need is within us, we just need to be open, responsive and ready to receive the guidance of truth. the world wrapped in beautiful packaging

Do you like beautiful packaging (the outer shape of each item)? most of us like it. I had an interesting idea about beautiful packaging during a trip to a large store. I was looking at the goods I needed, and a lady was looking for a special fashionable soap on the next shelf. this was not a soap I would buy for regular use. The soap is wrapped in transparent paper, packed in a cardboard box, wrapped in transparent paper with a non-glossy and tight fit. these small soap boxes are packed in a large cardboard box and covered with a beautifully painted transparent film. it was all held together by a small paper ribbon with a bouquet of artificial violets. an impressive package of three bars of soap, and it occurred to me that its purpose is only to clean your exterior. then when I heard the seller smiling politely at the buyer and asking him a question, it really shook me, I experienced a great excitement. she said, «Shall I wrap your purchases (three trendy soaps) in nice paper like a gift?» said. I couldn’t believe what I heard. To be honest, at first I didn’t believe how to make it more beautiful, I couldn’t figure it out, but then I realized that whatever you buy in that store, they wrap it in a beautiful package and make a mouth-watering masterpiece.

Are there not many such situations in our life? For example, soap, a completely normal, healthy soap, but many times it is so beautifully packaged that we begin to lose the idea of its original purpose. The primary purpose of this packaging is to provide a person with soap for washing clothes. However, the soap was repackaged and repackaged several times, and as a result, the concept of its main function was lost. We seem to be more concerned with packaging than our own cleanliness. We seem to be looking for beauty rather than soap, but it’s all just a false, deceptive appearance, advertising, so to speak! Nowadays, our world has also become advertising, external form, beautiful packaging, without meaning, and the worst consequences – most of them end in seduction and deception. Nowadays (online) Internet is full of advertising, social networks are full of advertising, (offline) if you go out on the street, you will not find a place where there is no advertisement.

In our life, we often deal only with the external form, packaging (packaging), deception of advertising, wrapped in several layers, just like beautiful gifts, as a result of which we forget to have our eyes on the spiritual inner form, essence and content of the main world.

I want to talk about the meaning of life. We are very often busy with work, possessions, family, financial pursuits, and we can’t even stop ourselves, because of such excessive activities, we begin to lose the meaning of real life. Under the hustle and bustle of everyday life, we begin to lose sight of the true meaning of life. you are the true reflection of life, not external factors. it means that you are the true manifestation of the «universal mind», the divine power. don’t allow yourself to get wrapped up in the world of red-green, glittering, flashing, and then wrap yourself up again, so you lose the meaning of life and you yourself forget this basic concept called «the meaning of life». Don’t overlook this basic concept.

When you realize that you are the true manifestation of the «universal mind», you begin to live the destiny you want to write, and that life will exceed all your wildest dreams. remember: you are alive, the world is dead, because it turns to ashes at the bottom, and you were created to live forever.

LET GO OF THE PAST

I will tell you about a legend, because no one knows whether it is true or not. Once upon a time there were two men, famous or, more precisely, famous characters. These two discovered that they could make good money digging up the bodies of the recently buried and selling them to medical schools, and they did just that. It is said to have happened many years ago. It’s certainly a scary thing, but ask yourself: don’t you sometimes steal corpses from graves? I don’t mean to scare you, I respect you, but most of us do this without even realizing it.

And when you think of past, outdated, sorrows or sins, and you keep reminding them over and over, or worse, telling others about them, you are just digging an old, past, dead grave.

You know exactly what to expect from the past, don’t you? You think that you will correct yourself because always your unconscious wants to control you by reminding you of the past.

Live in the present, in the present moment, focus only on present problems, make plans for the future and leave the past alone, it is not your child, but you still don’t cut it, you keep coming back. leave it alone. be cool with the past tense.

The great philosopher once said: «let the dead bury the dead», I did not understand it immediately, after thinking for a while I understood that he was talking about the «past». Thinking about the past and living in the past means death. The more you think about the past, the more you will believe that time is limited and you will be deceived by time. In this way you will age and weaken yourself, you will bring your own death closer.

Allah: «Even if my servants ask you (Muhammad a.s.) about Me, I am close to them.» said, and God knows better than we do. So I think you know exactly who to ask for help in letting go of the past.

Make it a rule for yourself not to return to bad memories of what happened up to this minute, and stick to that rule. Don’t forget that stealing in the graveyard will cost you too much life. The past is gone, it’s gone, it’s gone: let it go. Here is the great secret to all our sorrows, disappointments, and failures: get rid of them (the past). Remove them from your mind, clear the debris of the past, leaving an empty space for a happy life, and let go of the idea that they are with you in the present. You see, the only place they can live is in your mind.

The present time, the present moment is full of interesting and amazing things, it is a great opportunity for everyone to use their time properly. Man, it is foolishness to spend all of your spiritual energy and all of your life on something dead right now, in this moment. Leave the past behind. Release it. Set yourself free. Don’t go robbing graves, reliving old mistakes, failures, and the like. There is a new day, which means there is a future. Learn to be happy and be happy that it will be okay. Leave the past in the past.

You were created for today and now, you have no other time, you live in the chain of «today» and «now», the past is late, the future is closed.

Today is the happiest day, the most successful day, the most successful day of your life. If you are freed from the past, know that you are one step closer to the truth!

EFFECTIVE WEAPON OF MIND

Are you trying to mow your lawn with a pair of clippers or open cans with a pry bar? Of course not. You can only do housework effectively with the most effective tools you can find or buy.

But how is all this implemented in life? What tools do you use in your life? Have you noticed that our every thought, every word and every action affects our physical condition (our health), affects the environment and people we choose, affects who we talk to and with whom we build relationships. If as a result of this we bring ourselves to things called unhappiness, failure, disease, poverty (etc.), then it is because we have not made the right choice and decision. Inevitably, this is a testament to how you use your mind.

Each of us has a huge mechanism of creativity. You can call it the palace of thought and imagination. It contains the materials we use to create what we want. One of the most effective weapons we use to shape our thoughts in the right way is the power of imagination, or as we commonly call it, just imagination. It is the power of imagination, the sum total of all God-given abilities, most importantly under our control and control. Sometimes it seems that our imagination, the creator of our images, is playing cruel tricks on us because it cannot observe our words and actions and relate them to our desires, so we abandon our dreams and goals, because most of us do not match our words or our words outstrip our actions.

But the rule is that personal improvement and success in business are always related to the picture of our imaginary image. Stress, illness and poverty (etc.) are symptoms of something broken in our mind mechanism. We form images of poverty or disease under the influence of external factors, these thoughts of poverty and disease become the power of imagination and hold them in our minds until the unconscious brings them into real life, and we are unable to get rid of those thoughts and images. In short, psychological proof of how a person makes himself poor or sick.

The best time to deal with any negative thought is when it first appears in your mind. This is the time when the enemy (evil thought, image) is at its weakest. But rather than fighting it after it appears, it is better to prevent it from entering the unconscious. (You can read more about how to do this in books one and two). Be a watchful guard of thoughts, let only thoughts of a creative and useful nature into the palace of imagination.

It is very important to «exercise control» by writing down your thoughts, you will learn to protect and control your mind. every thought is related to our character and actions, so by writing each of them, you will begin to know yourself, remember: every thought is an inner word, so it is not difficult to write a thought into a word, and most importantly, do not be afraid of yourself, no matter how bad the thought or word is, because you have to rise above it.

The only way to change your destiny is to change your habitual way of thinking. What do you often think about? At the right time, we take on great responsibility. We must always remember that our thoughts and words can affect the world we live in, either creatively or destructively. Do you constantly say, «I can’t take it anymore, I’m sick, I don’t have enough money, I’m so tired»? So, you are giving up your strength, health and prosperity in this way.

Don’t give up the happiness that belongs to you because of laziness.

Jealousy, anger, narrow-mindedness, hypocrisy, pride (etc.) and thoughts and emotions filled with sadness and grief and fear will cause your body to respond with disorder and disease.

Use the tools of imagination wisely and say to yourself: «I can endure every hardship of life, I fear no disease, I always have enough money, I do not tire and I have unlimited energy, I am in good and right relations with all people and myself.» You pave the way for health, happiness and prosperity. If you are an open and kind person, if you are loyal and caring towards your loved ones, then you will soon know that you are in the «Kingdom of Goodness». Every good thing you do to yourself, to others, life will return to you a hundredfold.

«ME» OR «WE»?

Have you ever wondered about the weight of the letters of the alphabet? Did you know that letters have weight? For example, what is the weight of the uppercase letter «I» compared to the lowercase letter «I»? In the first case, a person is speaking without confidence, in the second case, a person is speaking too confidently. Sometimes the difference in weight is like the difference between earth and sky. Examples for you: the «I» of a famous star is not the same as the «I» of a person who no one knows, who picks up garbage. Similarly, rich and poor, healthy and sick, etc.

I don’t know if you’ve noticed, but English is the only one of all European languages that capitalizes «I» in the middle of a sentence. they put a lot of emphasis on the word «I» when they speak. sometimes we give too much weight to this word in our life, but it prevents us from living properly. the weight of our self often limits our horizons instead of expanding our minds. I think you know what I mean. Someone sits in a restaurant and first complains, then angrily warns and scolds: «I’m so tired. I shopped for two hours. Where did this waiter disappear to? Otherwise, I will go and eat elsewhere.» My point is: the waiter has been working on his feet for more than two hours, maybe he should be a little more understanding and wait without getting angry or fighting. If visitors ask the waiter: «How do you handle so many tables at the same time and even in such bad weather?»

Have you ever noticed how we start to resist when someone’s «I» weight is bigger than ours?

A woman was angry with her husband because of her weight: «My shoulder hurt this morning.» Her husband told her, «My hand hurts worse than yours.» No one likes when someone else is in pain, because our «I» is very painful. If you expect someone to pity me, he will expect it from you.

There is an episode in the Bible where the Master decided to go to temporary freedom. Although his «I» demanded intimacy and solitude, people were against it. About five thousand people gathered, and those who were behind tried to see him. How disappointed he must have been! He could say that he came here for peace and tranquility. But he didn’t say that. He did not think about his comfort and privacy. He said, «Sit them all down.» He said: «Now what, am I going to be in the middle of this crowd?» No, he said: «Sit them all down,» and then he fed them all.

A characteristic characteristic of a great person is obedience to what is given. But I’m not talking about flattery. Although there are probably such among them. I’m talking about something else. You should know that the weight of «I» is equal to the weight of «We», and «I» should not overwhelm «We». As you move forward in life, try to find out how much time you spend putting «me» first. After that, you will notice that you have made many friends because you have managed to balance the weight of «I» and «We».

NEGATIVE EMOTIONS AND STRESS

Do you often feel anxious? are you worried are you afraid are you scared All these are called stress or negative emotions in one word. I like the story of a man who went to a psychiatrist because of constant anxiety. With the help of hypnosis, the psychiatrist was able to remove all his worries from this man’s memory and he went home very happy and cured. the next day he came to the doctor again and was very upset. «Doctor, doctor, I’m so scared,» she said. «what could scare you?» wondered the doctor. «Doctor, I don’t remember what bothered me yesterday, that’s why I’m afraid,» he answered. anxiety and worry still cling.

I think most of us are like that. we live in such a crazy and busy world. We have many diseases, arising from negative emotions, some of which we are ready to admit, and some of which we even want to hide from ourselves. negative emotions, stress lowers brain tone and destroys the ability to resist diseases and life problems. they kill without telling. make no mistake about it: negative emotions, stress are real killers. So why don’t we avoid them?

A simple way to avoid them is to not waste time on them.

You may protest and say that there is nothing you can do about it. Negative emotions and stress have become a habit, and a long-standing habit cannot be overcome in a few minutes. That’s right. I am ready to accept such arguments. But if you want to stop negative emotions and stress, then you have to start sometime, right? If you need to start, why not now? Even if you can’t beat your stress in two minutes, you have to start, and now is the best time. Try to make sure that you don’t worry about anything on this day. If you are worried about a certain future event, try to understand if you are afraid, what may or may not happen. This is a very simple life, and you have no reason to be worried or afraid. You have found the reasons yourself and if you continue to do so, it will only affect your life negatively and you will not be able to make any good decisions. If you want to overcome fear, then change your thinking: for example, you expect something, but it turns out not as you thought. That is, worry and fear are waiting for something bad. The reasons that create that feeling of anticipation should be removed from the mind and those reasons should not be visited again. For example, don’t think that by watching a scary movie, I will become brave and overcome my fear. fear affects your spiritual resources so negatively that you end up ruining your life. but if you can completely eliminate negative emotions and stress, even if the worst happens, you will notice that you will have enough strength and courage. you can face any negative emotions head on and resolve the problem through internal negotiation. a two-way internal dialogue – one is a negative emotion, and the other is an intention, desire, and effort to overcome that emotion.

Remember: fear, anxiety, and worry are about the future, and worry and anxiety are about the past, and all of this is happening in the present, in the present moment, in your brain.

Let go of the thoughts that everything went wrong in your life, if you feel a lot of anxiety about the past, stop worrying, just like you let go of them when you learned to swim without extra equipment, it’s time to overcome the anxiety of the past and stop worrying. If you’ve ever learned to swim, don’t forget that you almost got into the water first. You made a lot of effort, it didn’t work, and then suddenly you were amazed at yourself, a bright light appeared inside you, you swam the first meters. Especially when kids say «I got it!» he shouts. «I can swim!» It’s not just about learning to swim, it’s about cycling, motorcycling, etc. thousands of examples can be given. You know, in this life, you have to learn everything, nothing will be subject to you without learning. That is why you need to learn and develop psycho-emotional relaxation techniques. «I get it,» you say – «I can swim in the sea of life without stress.» When you worry about yourself or others, you are drowning in the water of life. But if you can relieve anxiety, if you can live even one day without anxiety, then this is the beginning of your training. You will learn to swim carefree in the sea of life and you will see that your life is much better.

FAVOR AND PRIDE

Are you flattered? Most of us like to reward our friends with compliments, but there is a fine line between flattery and genuine compliments. Saying sincerely good things about other people is a good habit that can completely improve our lives. But as always, for example, in the case of money, along with truth and honesty, lie and dishonesty appear, and flattery in our subject is a false, false form of praise, compliment.

There are many degrees of flattery, and there are many motives for flattery. sometimes it is nothing more than self-deception, like a student who hopes that a few praises and compliments to the teacher will replace hard work and honest study, it is not about pocketing money or buying a diploma. the easiest and easiest way is flattery. sometimes we find ourselves in an atmosphere of false flattery, where everyone competes with each other with false praise, there is no sincerity, no criticism, only flattery. flattering someone in the hope of kindness, flattering someone in the hope that it will benefit or help them in the future is a very difficult and unworthy work, much more difficult work than sincere, sincere praise, sincere compliments.

You see, people who want to be praised work for recognition and wait for flatterers, and flatterers don’t work, they only do flattery, but it’s the hardest part of the job… and dirty.

Basically, the desire to be praised or complimented is very much like a drug: you begin to expect compliments from others, many of whom are flatterers and flatterers, and you find the process of bragging fun, and eventually you find it hard to stop. Of course, there are those who give sincere, heartfelt compliments, but for your brain, this is just an internal, empty feeling. Increasing the dose of pride leads to a decrease in the positive effect, and the overall result of such a life turns out to be completely negative.

Back to flattery, they are people who live by flattery and not by their own merits, they are in a dangerous situation. Such people should understand that while there is still time, the time and energy spent on it should be directed to achieving a worthy, noble goal, and they should choose an honest path, so that such people will achieve what they want faster and more safely. The most dangerous flattery is the flattery used with the purpose of confusing someone.

Pride weakens a person’s courage and ability to make decisions, it makes him dishonorable in order to make himself dignified. He considers it reasonable and suitable work for him. The more he does it, the more he enjoys it, and as a result, he forces himself to violate the principles of truth.

This is also mentioned in the Psalms, where it says: «Their tongues are proud, and their hearts are hypocrites.» With such pride and hypocrisy, we cannot achieve constructive living (creation of a creative lifestyle) and correct thinking. Arrogants are never to be trusted. There is no friendship with pride, because it is too much self-love, which creates spiritual relationship problems for a person. True gratitude to others lies in the abyss. As you walk through life, seek only the good. discern what is truly good, and praise only those who are worthy of praise, but do not try to buy peace of mind, social status, or financial well-being through flattery. it is fake money or fame and over time it will take over your life.

ALWAYS READY TO HELP

I’m sure you remember the tragic story of the Titanic, but did you know that the story of the California is closely related to the first story?

In 1912, the «Titanic» ship (liner) left the coast of Great Britain for a cruise across the Atlantic Ocean. Titanic was the largest ship built at that time. at that time, everyone was sure that it would not sink at all, but in the middle of the Atlantic Ocean, the ship ran into an underwater iceberg and quickly sank. 1517 of 2000 passengers died. Of course, this tragic event caused a great protest. detailed investigations were carried out and the causes of the incident were determined: the speed of the ship was too high, the number of lifeboats was insufficient and they were poorly equipped, but most importantly – there was no information about icebergs. After this incident, the International Iceberg Patrol was established and strict regulations were introduced. Another fact was revealed during this research, which not many people know about.

When the Titanic was sinking, another ship, the California, was only thirty kilometers away! Of course, no movie was made about him, but that’s not the problem. At that time, radio communication was not so efficient and there were few radio operators. That evening, the only radio operator of «California» turned off the walkie-talkie at half past ten and went to sleep. An hour later, a desperate plea for help came from the Titanic, but the California radio was off. In fact, the reason for the sinking of the «Titanic» was that the «California» did not come to the aid of another ship, not knowing what was going on, even though it was an hour away from it. For me, the main tragedy of «Titanic» is that help was possible, but the ship that could help did not know about it! this is a great lesson for all of us. As you sail the seas of life, someone else’s ship may hit an iceberg and may be calling for help. but the saddest thing is that people don’t cry «sos» or «i need help», i’m not talking about begging, i’m talking about mental help. for example, maybe you will save a person from going to hell, that is, I am talking about spiritual help and unity. many people need help, many people need advice, many people need support, in fact, many people need primarily non-material moral help, because the first one is just a consequence. Many people need direction, many people need guidance, but many people need nothing but money, and what about guidance, isn’t that help? but some people say «I am on the right path, I pray five times a day, I fast… I don’t need help.» we all need help, whether we are the most pious or the most educated person in the world. getting help, giving help, this is the only way to unite humanity.

Many people react to spiritual help with anger, detachment, sarcasm, or otherwise. take the time to listen to other people’s sos. which means «save my soul» in English. Try not to say, «I can’t help you.» listen to the desperate pleas: «Please love me. I am suffering and alone.» Don’t say «I don’t have time, I have work to do», the work will not run away, and the reward for the help may run away. However, such calls for help can be heard any day, so don’t miss the opportunity. I mean, don’t be a California ship, don’t fall asleep. Find out how many Titanics are sinking around you and you can call «SOS» and come to the rescue. Such a wonderful quality should be written in your destiny.

IMPAIRED IMAGINATION

Have you ever wondered how many people create empty fantasies in their minds and then live in constant fear. In their minds, wonderful fantasies are depicted: the fantasy of «fun moment», the fantasy of the so-called «personal happiness». In this fantasy world they live their lives, they are never satisfied with the fantasy world. There is a fantasy of a happy life where people do amazing things, do great work, avoid stupid mistakes, and feel like they’ve achieved something truly worthwhile. They also have fantasies about meeting others, they see themselves as a nice person surrounded by many friends, they feel that they are needed by society.

In these fantasies, they see themselves as they are, imagine as much as they want, and really feel free. this is a fantasy world where you can achieve any goal. but when they leave the fantasy world… and move into the everyday world of real life, then they become depressed and they say that it is «impossible» to create true happiness. and others say that life is a wonderful gift and that it is «full of possibilities.» How can you be sad in life given the ability to understand and love. these people have marble, granite, and shiny oak trees out of which to build a wonderful world of life, and some people have only wood chips and mud out of which to build a shack.

But this is not true. we are never pushed by life into trifles. we are constantly pushed by life

To seek great prospects from the little things, and if we open our eyes, we see what we see: there is everything but the determination to create a happy life. It is necessary to admit that the images of our imagination can be created in reality, can be transformed into our daily life, but there is no need to waste especially unpleasant, negative, negative time on empty imagination.

THE BEST IS YET TO COME

How old do you think we are? I mean all of humanity. Do you think humanity is at the beginning or the end of its development? Do you think that humanity has reached its aging phase? Maybe our first life is preparing for the apocalypse?

My prediction (where we are short of Nostradamus and Vanga) … don’t think I’m a fortuneteller, but if it’s true, you’ll be checking it out in the future. A maximum of 7 centuries before the apocalypse, which is too much in my opinion, I think there are 2—3 centuries left. I estimate this in 2021. I am doing. That is, the maximum planet Earth, nature, humanity in the 28th century. can only live up to, this is a prediction of the mind, not a psychic prediction.

And now, I am sure that humanity is just passing from childhood to adulthood. Today’s humanity, according to the chronology of Islam, is a thirteen-fourteen-year-old child. Humanity is now finishing the period of digitization, automation and preparing to move to the period of robotization and modification, of course, if people can accept this and adapt to it.

Scientists have found that man has been living on earth for at least a million years. but I think humans appeared much earlier. it has built civilizations for tens of thousands of years. most of these civilizations are now forgotten, their remains buried at the bottom of oceans, in the sands of deserts, under mountain ranges, or in great mounds. However, despite all the previous civilizations that preceded us, humanity is now only experiencing its transition period (transitional age).

I am sure that great achievements of mankind in science and technology are still ahead. because we have not yet invented self-driving, flying machines, our houses have not moved from the earth to the air. Of course I have gone too far, but the greatest days of mankind are yet to come.

All the truly great achievements of mankind have not yet appeared in the world. The music of the future surpasses the works of the great composers of today or the past. surpasses Mozart, Bach and Beethoven because they too once surpassed their predecessors.

The literature of the future will produce such masterpieces that the works of Shakespeare, Milton, and other great poets will be children’s fairy tales compared to it.

Ancient Greek culture is unmatched to this day, and new waves of spiritual striving will knock this culture off its pedestal, which will surely happen in the future. the greatest achievements of modern engineering – bridges, dams, airplanes, electronics, and nuclear power – will be like children’s toys compared to the technology of the future.

But the most important thing is that man’s understanding of his spiritual essence and his spiritual world will grow to fantastic proportions. The religious sages of the past appear pygmy (poor) compared to the spiritual leaders of the future. I send God’s greetings to Shamil Myrza.

Perhaps humanity’s greatest achievement is the discovery of great sources of energy, untapped sources of courage and wisdom. Conquer the sky, planets, galaxies.

So don’t worry about the future of humanity. Then look to your future, because the best is yet to come.

REACTION OR INTENT?

Do you respond to the situation with a negative reaction or a positive response? let me explain what i mean. I was thinking and thinking deeply and writing this book when suddenly my smartphone rang. the first reaction was: «Oh, I forgot my last thought.» «Don’t people understand that they shouldn’t disturb me while I’m working?» If I wasn’t angry, I would pick up the phone and at least answer. In this case, the reaction is anger. I reacted to the phone call but did not answer. But after my anger dissipated, I immediately noticed that he called me again and it was a very kind and polite person who could help me. He is my best friend! I really enjoyed our conversation then. The conversation warmed my soul, and I returned to work with great inspiration.

Why did I react the way I did to the phone call? The caller responded to my exasperated greeting with a kind word, and it encouraged me to be kind, not to provoke a negative reaction. Do you feel the difference, do you understand the contagious effect of negativity and favoritism on our lives?

Stepping into a new day, you meet other people, answer phone calls or doorbells.

When you rush out of the house, a seller stands at the door offering his goods, if you rush into work, someone will enter your office, while you are doing household chores, someone will invite you to tea. Remember one thing: no one enters your life without a purpose! Everyone comes to give you something! If you limit yourself to a negative reaction in these situations, you risk losing the meritorious action. You are the only one who will lose from this. If you respond with love and warmth to everyone who comes to you, then you can expect them to respond to you with kindness and receive your share of love and warmth – this is a reward, a great opportunity for everyone.

Don’t slam the door on good deeds that come into your daily life. Answer each person’s call as their path crosses your path, knowing that it will bring you reward. Respond with love, this is called Ikhlas, and the reward is multiplied by the reward. This day will be joyful for you, not painful, if you learn to understand the difference between reaction and intention.

RISE ABOVE INJUSTICE

What would you do if you were treated unfairly? if cheated? has someone treated you unfairly? do you try to maintain friendships with people because of this? Can you find the strength to forgive and forget? Can you get over the bitterness? say to yourself: «Okay, I like friendship, no matter what, I don’t want to hate someone because of injustice and I don’t want to get a stomach ulcer (ulcer) because of my resentment and anger.» «But if I forgive and forget everything, then what does that mean?» I can be fair!»

Do you feel this feeling? Does it sound like your life? Do you know how to solve the problem of injustice? The only way to solve this problem is to hold onto your resentment for it and not let it go, does it protect against injustice? If you think about it, of course not. Such a «revenge complex» is more harmful to you than to the person who has wronged you. And such a complex does not really solve anything.

If you think a little about justice, then I think you will understand that true justice is based on the «Law of Love». The more we are attuned to the law of love, the more likely we are to live righteously. When we know that we can cleanse our hearts of resentment, we become more true to ourselves, and we feel closer to goodness. The more we focus on love, the more we forgive, the stronger our inner sense of freedom and agency.

By harboring hatred, grudges, grudges and grudges, by refusing to forgive, we misdirect our internal energy and external time, we lose much of our productivity and peace of mind, because of the injustice done to us. Suppose you measure it in monetary terms and say: «This is unfair, it costs a million, but because of my hatred and resentment, I will get a stomach ulcer, and I spent ten million to treat this disease.» In which case did you win a lot of money and agree with the result?

Not financially viable, right? If you can stand up to injustice, you will find that your gains will outweigh your losses. Think about it! If you can really get out of injustice and you find the will to say: «I have forgiven and forgotten everything, it’s just water under the bridge» – you will gain more than the loss due to injustice and write a new book of life without resentment and only with love.

JUMPING FROM SHADOWS

When we were kids, we used to play a game called «shadow jumping» with our friends – a game in which each person had to try to jump from the shadow of the next person. we used to notice our shadows very well in those days. and when was the last time you looked at your shadow?

When you sit down to read or write, you can notice it unconsciously (involuntarily): you see that you are in the wrong position, because the effect of your head casts a shadow, covering the incoming light. You either move the chair or move the table lamp so that the shadow doesn’t fall on the book. Often we ignore our shadow altogether. However, in life, we often notice the shadow side of it, but we don’t notice the light that shines above it.

If you look at your shadow right now, then you will see, the only way to see it is to turn your back to the light. Look into the shadow right now and you will see that you are turning your back on the source of light.

That’s how you live. You notice the dark side of your life, or you look for situations that you consider dark: it can be health problems, financial problems, family divorces. You only notice them when you turn to the source of light in your life. The light of the «Universal Mind» (Creator) moves around you and reaches your heart. Through your body, through your life and daily activities – the light that guides you to health, happiness and purity of thought. If you turn your back on this light, you will see only the shadow of your life.

You think about it. Look at the dark side of your life and ask yourself, «Is this all because I can’t see the good in my life?» that. It’s easy to identify with the hardships of life, but how much thought and time do we spend on the beauty of our lives? But shadows are visible only in light. If you were lit from all sides, you wouldn’t notice any shadows.

Only our refusal to turn to the light makes us waste time thinking about the shadows. Turn to the good (the light) in your life with respect and gratitude, and the shadow will not rule over you.

YOUR EVERY WORD IS WHO YOU ARE

Do you know how to communicate with people? I don’t mean if you can get on the podium and speak to a large audience. I am asking for your normal daily routine. let me answer for you. Of course you can speak and communicate. Everything you say affects your listeners. What impression do you make on others when you speak? If you have a sense of humor, people will probably laugh. if you are an angry person, you can instill fear and resentment in others. if you are kind and well-intentioned, maybe other people will feel warmth in their souls after talking to you. If you complain all the time, you may be helping other people to make judgments about you.

Every word you say affects the listener. I’m sure you believe that. you think about all the people you interact with, and you have to agree that words have an effect, no matter how small or large the effect of your words. I want to expand on this idea: there is only one person who will hear everything you say, and that person is you! Others hear only part of what you say, but you hear every word you say. Therefore, no matter how you affect others, it will only be a part of the effect, the whole effect, from what you say, will be received by yourself. Think about it: the power of your words and their impact on your life is immense.

If you want to be successful, don’t make cheap promises. Otherwise, people listening to you will sooner or later feel deceived, and your words and false promises will have a negative effect on you. If you don’t feel well, don’t bother others by constantly talking about your health. Everyone you talk to will feel a small part of the shock, but your body will get a full shock from what you say. We have already agreed that our words affect people, so if you want to, you can improve someone’s life with a kind word. If you speak from the heart, you will surely improve your life because you will take everything you say. In this way, you will make your life much more useful than the lives of your listeners. Whether you say it to your children, coworkers, or guests at your house, you affect everyone, but you also get a share of every word you say. can you see a greater truth than this? influencing others with your help, with your words, will change you too. Do you understand that the way you treat others is how you are treated? As you shape your life, you influence your life with the power of words, so remember to listen to every word you say. because every internal word is a thought. and the external word is language.

THE DUEL OF LIFE

Centuries ago, people used dueling contests to resolve the issue of honor, and dueling scars (scars) on a man’s face increased his attractiveness in the eyes of women. if he had many scars on his face, he was considered beautiful. The great statesman of the 19th century, Bismarck, was an outstanding duelist: he could solve any problem with a duel. Once he was very angry because the scientist, professor Vikhrov insulted him. Bismarck was furious and challenged the professor to a duel. The eminent scientist was a little surprised by this, because even if scientists were duelists, they were usually not in the military sense. But after Bismarck called Vikhrov, the professor had only to choose a weapon. The gray morning of the appointed day came, and the duelists arrived in two crews (chariots), their seconds (companions of the duelist) and doctors to the place of the duel. They got off the carriage and met in the middle of the dueling arena. Bismarck: «The choice of weapon was your choice, sir. What did you choose?» he asked. Professor Vikhrov produced two delicious juicy sausages, and explained to Bismarck that, being a scientist, he chose these sausages as weapons. The first sausage is filled with deadly germs, the second is edible. The professor turned to Bismarck and said, «Choose your weapon, and we’ll have breakfast together.» Bismarck looked at the two sausages, realized that one of them meant a painful death, turned in anger and left the duel field with a red face, admitting defeat. I always laugh when I think about it. Duel with sausages! The duel was resolved not by violence, but by offering a choice between life and death.

On this day, you will also be invited to a duel. Today you will fight a thousand times, most of them with yourself. Today you will have many choices – what to say, what to answer, how to act, and in front of you there will be two sausages: poisonous and harmless. Your thoughts can be negative and toxic, leading you slowly into the mire of disease, loneliness and poverty, or they can be kind, positive, uplifting, and lead you to eternal life, love and happiness.

Whenever you are faced with a choice, what to do today and what to say etc. – remember Professor Vikhrov and think about those two sausages. Choose good, choose good thoughts, let go of jealousy, anger, rejection, doubt, fear and guilt. Think of a happy life, love and happiness. Speak words of love, cheerful life and happiness – and all this will fill your day and life.

ISLAND OF HAPPINESS

Have you ever wanted to get away from it all? Did you want to give it all up? Have you ever dreamed of an isolated island of bliss in a distant ocean? Or have you dreamed of a mountain cave where you can hide from all the troubles of everyday life? I think we all want it (island of happiness). Conflicting desires seem to eat away at us all the time. On the one hand, we want to be in the center of success and achievements, and on the other hand, we want to retreat to peace and solitude. Maybe it’s because we’ve lost our inner sense of balance? Or have we turned against the river of life that flows with us? You know, our arrogance and the need to get the job done at all costs takes a toll on our minds and health until we feel the need to rest and heal. Periodically, we need to take a break from the hustle and bustle of everyday life. Have you ever seen an old pendulum clock? The pendulum swings back and forth, the same distance in each direction. This is necessary for it to perform the task well and it is the balance that we need in our lives. We push ourselves too hard, not giving the mind and body time to rest and recover. We need time to «recharge» mentally, spiritually and physically. We need a state of balance that evolves with our inner being. A few minutes of solitude and peace of mind with ourselves, with our true selves, restores our strength and will.

You don’t need to go to America to get an education or buy a house in Turkey to achieve a happy life. I believe that if you cannot achieve peace and harmony (balance) within yourself, then you will be unhappy wherever you are.

Due to our busy daily life, we think that we don’t have time to relax and take care of ourselves, but if we want to be like successful, happy and successful people, we need to find time. you know, we are not completely self-sufficient creatures. so we are always dependent on the creator. with an «infinite power» and patience that is absolutely superior to us, we can learn to keep our minds open – so that our everyday souls are freed from stress and enter into inner peace. It doesn’t require much effort or time from you. we just need to come to our senses, solve the conflict between the soul and the body, and achieve balance and peace. because the passions of the soul (say/do not) and the passions of the body (eating, sleeping) are always fighting for power inside you. even today you can find a mountain cave to hide in or an island of false happiness.

Remember: the true happiness you need is within you. And the key to it is maintaining the balance of self (soul + body).

DON’T LET IT BREAK

What do you do when you take the food you want to eat out of the fridge, reheat it, and suddenly someone invites you to lunch somewhere else? You’re unlikely to go back and put food in the fridge again, you’ll skip lunch and eat the food from the fridge because you’ve reheated it and don’t want to waste it. I think we should keep these things in mind even when we think about our own lives.

Mark Twain made this point very clearly and succinctly with a little humor, which he himself liked to talk about. A man came to his house twice a day, offering fish, but Mark Twain refused: «No thanks, I don’t need fish.» After a while it occurred to him that «this man’s perseverance deserves a reward» and he said to his wife, «I will buy fish from him.» He eventually does. When the fish was ready for lunch, it turned out to be completely inedible. The next day, Mark Twain, who saw the merchant, called him and said: «Listen, this fish turned out to be inedible, it was spoiled.» «Sir, I am not guilty,» the merchant simply replied. «I’ve come to you every day this week and offered you fish twice a day, and if you delay it will of course spoil, you should have bought it before it spoils, it’s your fault.»

Think about it. there is only «today» and «now» in front of you: there is an eternity called «all day», which is taken out of the refrigerator, heated and ready for your use, just do not waste it and do not let it spoil. You can’t live this day tomorrow or the next day, you can only live it today.

What day are you going to live with? Are you longing for a happier time that never happens? Do you wait until the fish spoils? Are you having a bad day, or are you saying, «Today is a priceless gift from God»? I will buy fish today. I live this day to the fullest as possible. No one has the right to refuse such a gift. It should be received with a warm heart, open mind and gratitude.

This day, this very day, is the most precious gift of your life and don’t let it be ruined. Don’t fill it with feelings of apathy, defeat, and loneliness, but rather awaken your enthusiasm. Accept the idea that this day will be filled with success, happiness, love and joy. All this can happen only in «today» and «now». Don’t let today go to waste: go out into the real world and seek and find success, happiness, love and joy today. It all has to start today. Because you can’t live today tomorrow and this opportunity will never come again.

YOUR THOUGHTS MAKE YOU

Have you ever tried to build something? I believe that each of us builds something every day in our lives. During our waking hours, we are constantly engaged in constructing our minds. We build a structure of behavior, actions and reactions. We don’t try to see or hear the building we are building, so most of us probably don’t even notice it.

Nevertheless, it is the most fundamental and far-reaching activity of our entire lives – the formation of consciousness and behavior. Each of us is doing this all the time, even if we don’t think about it. Minute by minute, hour by hour, we create good or bad, success or failure, happiness or unhappiness. We create all this with the help of thoughts (inner words) stored in our minds, we create based on beliefs, we create scenes, events and stories, and we rehearse all this in the hidden studio inside our mind.

Actors in the secret studio of our minds enact the drama of our lives. The drama of life is rehearsed in the studio of your mind, and what emerges outside is a dramatic performance, which you have unconsciously rehearsed every day and put the script into your mind. This edifice you are constantly constructing is nothing but your Self, your true Self, your identity in life, your life story as a human being, your core.

If you are experienced, intelligent, act rationally, then based on what you know now, you can construct your life constructively. You begin to feel responsible for the information in your mind. You worry about your thoughts and attitudes, which are the actors in the drama of your life.

Let’s say you are going to put on a play. You don’t go out and pick up random people. You choose the most capable actors you can find. May it be the same in your studio of consciousness. Gather actors who can play a good part – love, kindness, loyalty, courage and wisdom. Give them space in your studio, because what you focus on determines your destiny. Your thoughts shape your life through your focus.

THE REAL MAGIC OF PRAISE

What kind of people do you want to meet in life? Will they be happy people who will bring youhappiness or will they be tired, closed and desperate people who will try to paint your life gray? Would you be happy to surround yourself with people who make your life happy and bring you joy? There is an easy way to do this. Only a sincere compliment is needed. I mean deep and fair praise, not lies.

I really like the story of one person. This is a thirteen-year-old boy, Italian, living in New York. He could get severe punishment from the teachers because he was always fighting and disorderly. As he continued to show rudeness to the teachers and received severe punishments, his behavior worsened.

In the sixth grade, he met a teacher who was quiet, patient and restrained. one day during recess he asked her to come into the class. He sat down on his chair and pushed the boy next to him. the teacher was silent. The boy who did not feel the first punishment felt strange. «and now let’s start the lesson…". After the lesson, the teacher leaned on the child and said: «I am sure that you are a good child, so if you don’t say bad words and don’t disturb other children anymore, I will take you from my subject without teaching. I’ll give you five, okay?» The boy doesn’t know what to say.

The next day in class, the Teacher looked at her and said with genuine warmth: «You look so beautiful today in your clean dress.» He shrugged and sat up straight. The next day, the collar of the shirt he praised was tied with a worn black tie. The teacher immediately noticed the tie and praised the boy’s shabby tie. A day later, his torn shoes were replaced with new ones, and the shoes themselves were shining. The new Teacher turned to those who had previously taught this child and said, «Praise him and he will change. «Just praise him, and if he doesn’t even obey, cheat him.» When I read this story, I thought, «This is one of the weirdest pieces of advice ever.»

Interestingly, after he grew up, he became the chancellor of Harvard University. Perhaps the fate of this child would have been different, would he have been poor, would he have lived in the slums (the poor dark side of the city) or the brothel (a hidden den of perverts and debauchery), or would it have been worse. But he became a famous academician, because once a teacher tricked him with mere words and showered him with praise.

In the light of «True Praise» everything blooms and flourishes. «True Praise» gives moisture to this life, otherwise all of our hearts would be dry. By praising good deeds, you will be an instrument of goodness in this world. Look at everyone you meet, appreciate their work and show them respect. A simple word of genuine compliment can completely change the personality of the person you come into contact with. Give Praise, for when you do, you act as the «Spirit of Love» in God’s favor.

Brethren, we are called to serve the world as instruments of God’s love. The easiest way to fulfill this destiny is to strive for goodness and praise it, be satisfied with it.

IT IS IMPOSSIPLE TO PLEASE EVERYONE

Do you sometimes feel frustrated because you can’t please, please, or please other people? Do you feel like you’ve spent your life trying to help and please other people, and instead you get harsh reprimands and false explanations for your actions? If so, then let me share with you a short sentence (sentence) by Montaigne (a French Renaissance writer and philosopher): «A man needs a strong ear to speak freely about himself.»

No matter how careful and conscientious we are, there will always be someone who misinterprets our actions and principles. When someone spends their money easily, there will always be someone who thinks that person is mot (wasteful) or extravagant (strange). Conversely, if you are careful with your finances, someone will call you stingy. Someone with a more liberal (libertarian) view than yours will accuse you of being inert (backward) and conservative (anti-progressive). If his views are more conservative than yours, he will call you a hopeless liberal. Again, if someone disagrees with our position, we call that person «misunderstood.» To be honest, we often blame others more than ourselves.

If a person does not do something, then he is accused of inaction. If a person does something, then he is blamed for this action. The same people may praise us for our actions or criticize us every now and then. When we try to please others, we must remember that no one person can please everyone, because everyone is different. I doubt that anyone, including me, has ever made at least one person, including themselves, truly happy in their lifetime. That’s why I write books about happiness.

Are you always happy with yourself? I’m ready to argue. No matter what you pursue, there will always be someone who asks why you don’t do something else. Therefore, the best thing we can do is to understand ourselves, others, life, the Creator with our mind and heart, and act according to our beliefs based on real truth. We should always be willing to admit that we are wrong, but hope that others will forgive us for our mistakes. If we expect tolerance from other people, then we must be tolerant ourselves. And we should always remember the words of the wise Montaigne: «a man needs strong ears to hear a free opinion about himself.» If your loved one tries to judge your actions, remember these simple words: «I can’t please everyone.» If you try to «blend» into the crowd, you’ll never have a chance to be your true self to everyone.

Go ahead and know who you are, know and fully understand that some people will definitely criticize you (criticism). Keep praying for them and doing your best. If you live authentically, you will always be criticized.

IGNITION TICKET

Have you ever had to replace your car’s ignition switch? It’s very easy. You come to the garage, the mechanic opens the hood of your car, leans over, disconnects the electrical wire, unscrews the ignition key with a wrench, plugs in a new one, connects the electrical wire – and within five minutes you can drive. Replacing the ignition switch is pretty easy, isn’t it? Let’s say you walk into the garage, ask the mechanic to change the ignition coil, and he immediately starts to remove the right front wheel from your car. You might think he’s a little out of his mind. You get angry and protest and say that only the ignition coil needs to be replaced, not the wheel.

One day my friend came to see me. He has a new sports car and he explained to me that he had to remove the right front wheel to replace the ignition coil! And it turned out to be true. Can you imagine the owner of such a car coming to the mechanic for the first time and asking to replace the ignition switch, and the mechanic calmly begins to remove the front right wheel and his reaction? As I said, the owner of the car may protest angrily. However, my friend assured me that the procedure for removing the wheel (dismantling) takes no more than two minutes, and when it is removed, it turns out that it is very easy to remove and replace the ignition coil.

This is a lesson for all of us. We see things like removing the front wheel (dismantling) and wonder why our lives are the way they are. We solve the problem, but the solution begins to take shape in a way that is completely incomprehensible to us. We expect the solution to come into our lives in the most obvious way, like someone lifting the hood and removing the ignition key, but sometimes the solution is quite different.

We are looking for a way out of family problems, but the way is, for example, to change jobs. we start taking care of our health, but basically we just need to change the way we think and act. The point of the spark plug and the front tire is that we shouldn’t judge the solution to our problems or how good things come into our lives because we don’t know the easy way, and we need to learn it. The universe is a large and complex system. We can never understand the complexity of the paths of universal causes in our universe, and so is our life.

We can say, «Great, I accept that life is on my side. I embrace all the good things in life, no matter where they come from, and I look forward to the end result.» Here, my brothers and sisters, is a great and vital Truth in a nutshell: Do not expect YOUR PROBLEMS TO BE SOLVED IN ANY WAY YOU KNOW. It is best if you let go of your preconceived notions and open up to the inspiration of the Universal Mind. It may mean disassembling your front wheel of your life to get a faulty ignition switch, but the result will be better than you think. Trust your inner guidance, let the solution come in any form – and your problems will be solved simply and without difficulty.

HAPPY TO BE UNHAPPY

Are you happy or do you consider yourself an unhappy person? I think that each of us can decide for ourselves which category we belong to, without paying attention to the opinions of others.

History knows many examples of people who achieved great success on the outside, but were complete failures on the inside. For example, Alexander the Great, who conquered the entire known world at that time, but he could not cope with his harshness, and because he wanted it so badly, he considered himself an unfortunate person.

Napoleon was loved by millions of subjects, but the only person he really wanted to win was his wife, Josephine, who denied him this feeling. Although Napoleon loved Josephine very much, his wife never truly loved him. That is why Napoleon considered himself unhappy.

Think of Goethe: he was one of the great poets and writers, but his desire to be an artist was greater than anything else. At the beginning of his life, he was engaged in painting for many years, but never achieved the results he wanted. In the end, he considered himself a miserable person. Imagine: Goethe considered himself unhappy!

In turn, the great artist Whistler wanted to become a poet, but, as luck would have it, he realized that he had no poetic talent and returned to painting. but in the field of poetry, from his point of view, he remained unhappy.

Finally, think of Hans Christian Andersen. his fairy tales were respected in the world of children’s literature, but he could only communicate with children through his books. in personal meetings, children did not like him, and in this sense, Andersen considered himself an unhappy person.

I gave you an example of unhappy people, now look at yourself again and ask: are you a happy person or an unhappy person? If you’re honest with yourself, you think you’ll only find happiness in those areas where your God-given talents are displayed. However, talent is different, ability is different. Talent is just a person’s belief, and ability is learning. When you deliberately try to challenge your ability, you will be unlucky (or so you feel). There are many opportunities to express ourselves in this world, so many people are fighting for it. You are not given a talent that no one else has, everyone is given the same abilities, so you can discover your abilities without looking for talent. Why do you turn your life into a struggle for self-expression? Everyone will see you, but do not chase this goal, remember that there are higher goals. Abilities only unlock if you learn, so you need to learn, not fight. Most people don’t know how much hard work and time goes into each side of the fake word called «talent». They are just amazed by the results.

Don’t think, «If I use my God-given talents, I’ll always be happy.» All this is a false belief of your own invention or acquired from the outside, and it also prevents you from discovering your abilities. You can achieve great success in life only when you discover your abilities.

All you need is the ability to recognize your abilities and follow them wherever they lead you.

But don’t let the initial setbacks hold you back. Say, «This is not for me. I’ll get over it and move on.»» Free yourself, move forward, and you will discover all your abilities.

HUT OR PALACE?

in what environment, in what situation do you spend today? Will this environment be bright and rewarding or dull and boring?

Once Charles Kingsley was visited by a friend who lived in the Himalayas. when he entered Kingsley’s cottage in a small village, his friend, Charles Kingsley, who lived at home, felt sorry for him and said to him: «How sad it is to live in this small house, in a lonely place, when there is so much fun going on in the world around us, such as hunting,» etc. b. Kingsley looked at him with a calm smile, «You know my friend, I’ve realized for a long time that my house can either be a dungeon or my castle. Thank God, I made the right decision, and it turned my house into a palace.»

Think about this as you prepare for today. Do you want to work in a workplace where you work every day? Do you go to the same office or shop that you go to every day? Look at your other life. Open your eyes. Understand that they do not exist by themselves. You and only you have the power to make them that way.

Do you think that your home is ordinary and simple? Today is the time to think differently. Turn it into a castle with the power of your mind. Wash, scrub and polish it and treat it like a shed. Your office? Has it become a dull and boring place for you? Take another look. You should see your office not only as a place where you spend part of your life, but also as a palace worthy of a precious life. You create your own life and environment. You decide what the environment will be. To me, this two-line poem is very simple:

When two people looked out of the dungeon at night, one saw mud, the other saw stars.

What would you like to see in your home, office, classroom, store today? You can turn them into a shed, as it is only up to you to turn them into a hut or a shed. Use the power of your creative imagination. Use the infinite power of the mind constructively, and you will live in a palace fit for a king or queen today.

PATIENCE AND ENDURANCE

When I was sick, I was taught that the first thing I needed was patience, and to be honest, that thought made me angry at the time. it seemed to me that this really means: you have to wait for what you want (healing) until Destiny (Creator) allows you to write. But it wasn’t until I got sick that I began to understand the value of patience, and especially what the opposite of impatience is. I believe patience is important because impatience is costly. Imagine a person who comes to you saying he bought a new car. You know very well that he is lying. This is because he will pay a small amount for the car loan at the beginning, and then he will have to pay it over a long period of time. He drives the car until it wears out or he stops enjoying it, or until he gets a new one, he forgets about his old car and is interested in it and borrows it again. That’s a steep price to pay for your impatience. Maybe we need to get to the point where we can buy a car with cash, we teach ourselves not to get rich like that.

One day I was talking to a man who was not rich. She bought an electric guitar for her son, signed the loan documents, and was very worried that he would not approve the loan. «Why are you so worried?» I asked. «My son can’t wait!» he answered. What a price: while a young man strums his electric guitar, his mother is scared to death a thousand times because of his impatience! The saddest example I could find, before coronovirus, was in a local newspaper article. It told about a boy who was sent to a penitentiary for stealing. The judge asked him «will you give money or not?» he asked. The boy answered yes. Then the judge said, «Why did you steal when the judge will give you the money?» he asks. «Mom doesn’t come home until half past six, and the movie starts at six exactly, and I feel like I’m going to die if I miss the premiere of this movie,» answered the boy. Within thirty minutes this boy had ruined his life. Impatience is often very costly.

We need the greatest patience when dealing with other people. It is not always easy. When something goes wrong with people, they become angry and angry, and then their loved ones have to summon all their patience. Harsh words are spoken, but we have to admit that this is not the wonderful person we used to know, but the person who speaks to us, who is sick inside. As you can see, impatience costs us, and patience sets us free.

Prophet Jesus had the greatest endurance. even in court, he did not rebel, although he was unjustly convicted. When he nailed it to the curb, he said, «God, forgive them, for they know not what they do.» This is a tolerance that you and I cannot achieve. But at least we try to achieve such tolerance and patience.

A word for young people and children. When you are impatient with your parents, when they keep asking you where you are and what you are doing, watching you, showing you distrust, when you find it difficult to behave yourself, remember: it is not because they want to know everything about you, but because they care about you. Remember, the cost of impatience is huge, but if you stop and think differently, you won’t have to pay for it and you won’t owe anyone anything.

PAINFUL VAND BORING LIFE

Are you trying to improve the work you need and successfully tackle the challenges ahead?

Or do you just work as hard as you can to get things done?

My father thought about this a long time ago when he was walking down the street. Odd saw a man painting a wall on the stairs. He moves his brush back and forth: right-left, right-left. He wasn’t paying attention to his work and it was obvious that he was thinking about something else. He thought, «Oh, what a painful and boring job.»

A few minutes later he walked into an office where a woman was sitting and pounding on an old address machine where you had to press keys and turn the handle up and down. He hummed softly to the sound of a metronome-like machine that brought the rhythm to his singing. He realized that his work rhythm is not a metronome, but a heart rhythm that regulates the work of the machine. He wisely returned to the artist who painted the column with a brush and thought: «He is gone now, and it is a pity that he did not see the work of this woman.» The woman really enjoyed her work.

I think that we get from work only what we invest in it, and if we want to get something, we should do it with interest, especially if we want to achieve something good and useful. Good and useful things should be done with passion and interest. if work is done as slavery, then those who use its fruits will feel our destructive coldness. I thought about this artist, he probably worked to feed his wife and children, I’m sure his lifestyle «naugad» will be passed on to his family.

Many people, especially in churches, mosques, spend a lot of time and money on organized charities, giving or collecting money on a schedule, so that they allow acts of love and goodness to arise spontaneously from within. whatever you do, do it with passion, care, and love – even if you’re polishing silverware. polish your silver fit for kings. do your daily work with joy, satisfaction and gratitude. when you give a gift, give it with love. When praying, do not use words whose meaning has long been lost. pray earnestly and fervently. your prayers should be full of life and dynamism (proof by action). it must be a part of you.

We will never emerge from the pit of our existence until we return to the truth that exists outside of ourselves. I believe that the sense of hopelessness that surrounds our world today is like a fog that has emerged from our weakness and our lives.

Whether you live as a «naugad» or whether it will be full of inner joy and happiness – it depends only on you. you have to make your own choices and decide what will happen in your life and affairs.

BETWEEN VICTORY AND DEFEAT

I’m sure you’ve seen a micrometer at least once. it’s a very melodious name for a very simple instrument. A micrometer is a device that can measure very small distances with an accuracy of one-thousandth of an inch (2.54 cm). When I first saw a micrometer, I asked myself, «Why on earth do you need to measure such small distances?» But then I read about a building that collapsed, killing many people and causing hundreds of thousands of dollars in damage. An investigation into the accident revealed that it was caused by a calculation error of a thousandth of an inch. As a result of temperature fluctuations and errors of thousandths of an inch, the building collapsed, killing many people.

Such a narrow margin, such a small distance between stability and disaster! I wonder how it looks like in our life. sometimes there is a very narrow line between winning and losing. We all know of people who have worked for years to achieve their goals, and when they get close to achieving their goals, they lose faith, hope, and strength, stop everything, and say, «I’m defeated.»

Henry wrote a wonderful poem that beautifully illustrates these points:

The difference between defeat and victory is so small that people unfortunately do not know how to take it…

Giving up does not mean giving up. There is only one step between defeat and victory, and only our perseverance allows us to pass through the thousandth of an inch with ease and ease. Another thing is that apparent defeat turns into real success.

Yes, brethren, a micrometer measures distances of one-thousandth of an inch, and you may be making the greatest success of one-thousandth of an inch at this very moment. It requires more research and work. The distance between Victory and Defeat is like between Ekinti and Aksham.

LIFE MEASURED IN STEPS

Pomegranate is one of my favorite fruits. It is also called «Indian apple». One of my favorite things to do as a child was to go to the grocery store and buy pomegranates, which I thought were very healthy.

This wonderful fruit has one interesting feature. Although the seeds are tasty, juicy and sweet, they have a very bitter taste, and are separated into small clusters with thin yellow flesh. If you try to bite into a pomegranate, you will get a piece of bitterness instead of pleasure.

However, if you eat your own pomegranate from a single seed, it is a real delicacy. That’s how it is in life. You can’t live life in one fell swoop – you can live it day by day. If you get a cut, the cut won’t heal for a second. Your recovery begins the moment you cut yourself and continues every day, every minute. You can’t learn all at once – one school day followed by another.

Losing a loved one in one day is impossible to overcome. Getting over a loss is a long-term process, and if you learn to live anew each day, you will survive the loss and start a new life.

So the simple truth is that life cannot be lived in one moment. you live day by day, which means you need patience and diligence in building a life. If you have a broken arm, try to move it a little today. if you are sick, try to feel a little better today. tell yourself that today you have moved a little further, and gradually everything you want in your life will come true and will never end (resurrection).

If you face a big problem today, don’t try to solve it in one day. try to find the root cause today and you will be much closer to solving the overall problem. If you look at all your problems at once, life may seem very difficult to you. if you have sick children to take care of or elderly/sick parents and other responsibilities that require responsibility, then life may feel like you are living in hell. basically everything is the opposite. you are in the paradise of life right now, even if it doesn’t feel like it.

But you don’t have to deal with all of life’s problems at once. you just have to deal with today’s problems. I can leave you with one simple thought to help you: «To live by running is punishment, but to live by walking is happiness.» It is not necessary to solve all the problems of life at once, but only the problems of today. You just have to face the challenge of the moment.

LOBSTER TRAP

Do you like lobster? Most people in England love lobster. Do you know how these crabs are caught? They catch the scorpion with a very simple device that allows it to easily enter, and then the scorpion cannot get out. There are many such traps in our life.

We humans often face life’s problems without even thinking about them and what a heavy burden they put on us. Most of us are ready to put our signature on any page without thinking. It’s getting easier to fool us these days.

I believe that a big reason for family discord and people being stockpile is the refusal to think about responsibility. This applies to all aspects of our life: loans, signing documents, any contracts. Many people like to follow the crowd. They become puppets for others and are easily deceived.

It’s easy to sign, easy to fall into a trap, easy to say yes, easy to promise – but then it’s very difficult to follow through, to pay, and it takes a lot of stress and regret. responsibility is easy to accept but hard to keep, and sometimes we find that the confidence we gain from fulfilling that responsibility turns into stress. we follow the crowd rather than in front of it, follow fashion, trends, stereotypes, fixed ideas, obey our personal pride and make short-sighted, quick decisions to keep up with others. we must at any rate seek to satisfy our desires, and in the days to come, the coming of the day of repayment, and the desire to repay the payment required of us. the responsibility, the energy expended, the time expended – everything we have to pay must be weighed carefully.

We must avoid dubious responsibility. you need to look carefully at your life, consider all responsibilities reasonably and do not rush to sign your name or fall into a scorpion’s trap. Responsibilities are easy to assume, difficult to fulfill, and sometimes impossible to avoid. guidance or punishment? once when the great gautama buddha (the founder of buddhism) was teaching people in a small village, he took out a brown pebble from his robe and said, «Here is my teacher!» said. He then explained that he was walking along the road that day and didn’t notice the beauty of the world around him until a small pebble landed on his sandal. He had to stop on the road and take it down, so that he suddenly saw the blue sky, the beauty of the trees, smelled the flowers growing along the road, and even saw the bright colors on the wings of a butterfly. «I passed by the beauty but didn’t notice until this little pebble stopped me,» he said. Unfortunately, this is true, and we learn more easily through punishment than instruction. As we journey through life, two paths are always open to us: the path of free choice and the path of compulsion. We can consciously choose to cooperate with the Universal Mind. We can choose to evolve, to improve, to change for the better. But if we do not choose it ourselves, then it is forced upon us. We obey the «law of progressive motion». If we don’t choose to grow, we force it through practice lessons, and as some know, practice (testing) can be a very harsh teacher.

Many people believe that there is a struggle between the forces of good and evil in the world. There is no evidence in the world of two forces colliding. then what is the cause of human suffering and panic? its reason is a misunderstanding of the truth. when man’s understanding rises to new heights, his world rises from chaos and destruction.

Behind every success, healing, miracle, there is a simple reason – an idea. idea will make a million dollars, it will cure an incurable disease. it can restore all life! if you are open to new ideas, they will come to you. sometimes they come as sudden insights, sometimes they take a detour and come to you by faith from the pages of a book, from a conversation with a friend, from the voice of a mentor. ideas are our way out of self-imposed limitations that can become our prison and hell. All you need is an idea to cure any situation in your life. that’s why prayer and meditation are such an important part of a successful life – they open you up to inspiration and insight. if you pray and meditate regularly, you will never stop getting new ideas. Although new ideas may not come during prayer and meditation, they will eventually.

An idea can enliven anyone’s life if it becomes an effective force of consciousness. it can confidently lift you up: you will reach a higher standard of living, increase your strength and achieve success. This idea consists in understanding that everything in the world works for good, goodness, good. Live with this idea, this belief, and you will overcome any challenge in life. When you look at your experiences in light of this idea, you will know that you are a better person than you thought. Any life experience becomes a trait of your character.

YESTERDAY’S ACHIEVEMENTS

Do you sometimes think that you are not happy enough in life? Maybe you sometimes look around and think: «Everything should have been different, everything is wrong, why did I do this?» you say Are you the kind of person who tries to live off yesterday’s achievements? Trust me, it’s a closed minded way of thinking. No one eats yesterday’s rotten potatoes, and no one can live off yesterday’s achievements. You probably know people who have done something serious in their lives, written a thick book about it, then a thin book, then a pamphlet, and finally spent the rest of their lives trying to remind people of how great it once was. When we try to live by yesterday’s victories, we die today. Think about it!

Several high-ranking military leaders once came to Napoleon to elect a young captain. Napoleon: «Why do you choose him, is there no one else?» he asked. He was told that a few days earlier he had won an important victory thanks to extraordinary courage and military prowess. Napoleon thought for a moment, then said, «That’s fine, but what will he do next time?» No one knows the answer, indeed this young captain is not mentioned anywhere in history. You see, there are two kinds of people in our world: those who rarely have inspiration and those who work hard every day and give their best to the end. In other words, there are «small butterflies» and «pahars». Trust me, your life will turn to dust if you live with the idea that one concept can provide you with enough, carefree days. Today’s rewards are for today’s work, today’s love is for today’s love. You say, «Oh, how I loved him yesterday, why doesn’t he love me the same way today?» you can’t say. If you want to love today, you must love today, tomorrow’s love is not yet, yesterday’s is gone. TODAY’S HAPPINESS IS EARNED FOR TODAY’S WORK. You cannot live a meaningful life if you rejoice in yesterday’s victories.

Yes, there were yesterday’s achievements, but don’t feed them the mind, pride, image – it’s like feeding them rotten potatoes. Take one small success today and prepare for tomorrow’s success. If you can achieve a significant success – well, great, but only feed on today’s achievements.

Live, rejoice, love, share and help today. Accept the rewards of today’s efforts, and you will live on today’s spiritual food, not on the rotten potatoes of yesterday’s achievements.

WATCH YOUR WORDS

Are you careful with your choice of words? Let’s stop for a moment and think about the importance of every word we say.

You see, words have more power than simple letters and sounds. It’s a magnet! The brain is full of thoughts it wants to express, i.e. inner words. He is alive with the power of these ideas. So constantly using words that contain the idea of lie, denial, and destruction will keep the idea of lie, denial, and destruction in your mind. For situations we often want to overcome with our words, we feed our brains with associated words and store them. Remember to think before you say words out loud, and the thoughts that fill your mind become the images that fill your life.

Almost all people talk a lot. If you check the appropriateness of your words by passing through three narrow gates, you can avoid many misfortunes:

First, is this word necessary?

Second, is this statement true?

Third: Is it polite?

If you use this simple method, many words will be left unsaid. Are they necessary? Are they true? Are they polite?

Talk to others only constructively. Speak with understanding and sincerity. Be honest. Soften your friend’s heart with kind words, enlighten his mind with useful words, try to raise his spirit with motivating words.

We don’t realize how deep our words go and reach their ears. It can be difficult to constantly control your words, but with practice, you can develop thinking and speaking skills. A simple removal process can help you. Do you remember how you learned arithmetic? You already know that crossing out is a quick and easy way to solve many problems. Cross out rude comments and replace them with polite ones. Whenever you come up with negative thoughts, cross them out and replace them with positive thoughts. Repeat this several times – a thousand times a day if necessary. Saying to yourself in the evening: «Today I lived, thought and spoke as well as possible» will be a good conclusion of your day.

Your words have power. After all, your words are the clothing of your thoughts, and the quality of your thoughts determines what goes into your experience. This is because the unconscious mind plays the role of an involuntary servant. It accepts the causes of both good and bad: the unconscious does not care. Then he brings the reasons to a logical view of human life. Thought is the first logical step in the brain’s creative activity. The next step is the spoken word. We always think. When we put thoughts into words, their creative influence on our lives becomes stronger. Therefore, thoughts, words and the situation of our life are arranged one after the other in a logical sequence. Remember: thoughts, words, and then the circumstances in which you live. It’s definitely a sequence!

According to the laws of the material world, everything is constantly changing. if we speak true words of truth, positive words, constructive words, it will create a perfect situation for our life. the only reason these terms are not fully used is that we use too many contradictory words. like a saw, our words first go up and then down: first constructive, then destructive.

You must decide now to watch your words – they are important to you and your life.

A TREE THAT CAN RESIST HURRICANE

Most of us take a test at one point or another. In our time, all young people and children go through this. Anyone who wants to get a job is thoroughly vetted with appropriate tests.

I once read an interesting post about a leading expert in human engineering, Dr. Stevens Institute. He was once asked if a person who passed all series of tests with negative results had at least once in his experience. He objected that there are so many tests and exams that it is impossible for anyone not to pass at least one test. But he laughed and replied, «No, we have people who fail all our tests. One in 8,000 people could not pass any of them at all.» He replied: «What are you going to do with such people?», «We will accept them to the institute.» We don’t worry about them. They are not a problem for us. Usually these are the manager or president of the future firm.

The interviewer did not understand the meaning of such an answer and continued to ask the doctor: «How can a person with no natural talent become the president of the company in the future?» He gave a very simple explanation. «Such a person is tested a lot, he gets used to long and hard work from a young age,» he says. «Long and hard work gives him great inner strength, courage and experience, this is real education, and it gives him the opportunity to succeed in the future.»

I thought, «Lord, don’t we have to learn this in our lives?» When the winds of adversity blow around us, when we feel that we cannot handle the situation, we must realize that the winds of adversity will intensify. Think about what would happen if you planted a seedling in a greenhouse, grew it, transplanted it to the top of a mountain. He would not survive even one winter. If the tree is strengthened during the first winter of its life, it will grow strong and hardy.

Same with man. we overcome challenges by facing them. Isn’t it very important for our children? if we save them from the difficulties of growth and development, if we constantly make their tasks easier, they will not miss the opportunity to learn the secret of which the doctor speaks: the secret, the secret of hard and long work. Just always learning, gaining experience instead of being spoon fed.

Personal growth is achieved only in a life open to challenges, and if nothing comes easy, you are happy. Then you become a tree that weathers the storm. Only a life ready to overcome trials and difficulties becomes a real life.

FEATHERS TO WORMS

Do you understand the importance of any choice? Do you realize how much every decision you make affects you? An interesting thought: we do not know the nuances of our behavior, and our behavior determines our fate. When you make negative decisions, they develop negative thoughts that make it easier for you to make negative decisions. Making positive decisions creates a positive attitude, which makes it easier to make positive decisions in the future.

Each choice leads to a natural outcome, which leads to a further fate, similar in nature to the previous one. Luther Burbank, an experimental magician, once told a wonderful story about a young chick that illustrates the importance of our choices. A young sparrow flew with his father and listened to his stories about what wonderful birds they were. He heard that birds can fly higher and sing better than other birds. The father never tired of repeating to his son that to be gray means that he comes from a very good family, that he comes from an ancient dynasty and that he lives a great and high life. But the young sparrow listened with only one ear and the other to the ground, for there was a man on the road with a handcart and a small silver bell. He was ringing the bell. The little woodpecker could not overcome his passion, and suddenly he flew to the ground like a woodpecker: they flew up in a spiral with a song, and then quickly flew to the ground with folded wings. They appear to be falling, reminiscent of a person who climbs a high mountain with great strength, but can slide down at a moment’s notice.

The little grayling flew away with his father and listened to the stories of his glorious lineage, but he also heard the ringing of the bell. when he came down, the man offered him a worm instead of a feather. This seemed strange to the grayling, but he considered earthworms to be special food, so he asked: «How many worms will you give me for one feather?» he asked. «A couple of worms for a feather,» replied the man. Then the sparrow plucked a feather from its wing, exchanged it for two worms, and ate it with great pleasure. Then he flew back to his father without anyone noticing. And so it happened: the father did not notice anything. But day after day the little sparrow did so. It wasn’t until one morning that he realized he couldn’t trade feathers for caterpillars, spread his wings and fly. He gave so many feathers from his wings that they could no longer lift him into the sky. During the long months of growing feathers, the little sparrow had time to regret and repented of changing its feathers to a caterpillar.

The same is true of our daily choices. Either we exchange a good experience for an even better one, or we exchange feathers for worms. Every decision you make, every choice you make will lift you higher and higher, or on the contrary, it will lower you, lower and lower.

YOU ARE NOT ALONE

Sometimes we feel powerless to change our environment. Do you feel incapable of improving your life, your home, your city, your family, and the world even just a little bit? If so, let me tell you about an incident that changed my mind on this subject.

I went to the apiary once. It was the middle of summer, and as I walked from nest to nest, I heard a strange sound, like the rustle of sea waves lapping at the sandy shore. I asked the beekeepers what that meant, and they said «the bees are flying.» Yes, that’s right «bees are flying». There were thousands of bees in the hive, working with their wings with all their might. They were busy exhausting stale air from one side of the entrance and bringing in fresh air from the other side. The entire hive was ventilated, with the power of tens of thousands of bees. They just let the air out of the hive to preserve the honey and preserve its wonderful aroma. I wanted to know what a single fan bee could do. Working alone has no effect: what can a small bee do alone? But when his efforts are combined with those of thousands of other bees, the result is a perfectly functioning air conditioning system for the entire hive. I kept thinking, «Isn’t that what happens in human life? I can’t do anything on my own, but if there are many of us, we can solve any problem.»

You may be thinking right now, «Yes, it would be nice if the hatred, the poverty, the fear and doubt, and the wind were blown out of our stagnant world. But I am alone – what can I do?» You are not alone. A lot of people feel the same way you do. By uniting our minds, we become a formidable force that can combine their efforts like bees.

Therefore, do not think about your helplessness. Imagine how many people think like you, decide right now to join your efforts with theirs. We need to ventilate our world of fear, doubt, dislike, cowardice and all negative thoughts. Instead, we send the joy of love, light, happiness and knowledge into our world.

Each of us can add our wings to the wings of the angels who glorify the Creator, and together we are a great force that can cleanse the world and do good!

SEE THE REAL MEANING

Did you know about one man’s ear that caused a war?

Strange, but true. There was a time when one ear of a man could cause a great war between nations. The ear belonged to Jenkins, an English sea captain. The Spaniards decided that Jenkins was dishonest. In fact, they considered him a pirate, and when he fell into their hands, they simply cut off his ears. Enraged by the injustice, Jenkins returns to England and complains to the monarch. At that time, the British were waiting for an excuse to go to war with the Spanish, so they used this incident to declare a big war called «Voina iz-za uha Jenkinsa». If you don’t believe me, read it online and see for yourself. Once upon a time, there really was a war between England and Spain, called the War of Jenkins.

What I want to ask is, isn’t there going to be a war for your ears today? How often have you been drawn into war by your ears? You see, the sensitive ear is a sensitive organ. Not only does it pick up on someone’s voice vibrations, but it picks up on shades of emotion: stress, anger, doubt, joy, love, and whatever lies behind the words. A sensitive ear allows you to avoid many wars.

When you go out today, ask yourself, «How sensitive are my ears?» ask. If someone meets you and interrupts the conversation: «When I’m busy with my own business, you’ve spoiled my brain, go away!» he said. Do you hear anger, resentment, hatred, complaints? Or another person is talking to you normally, but his inner soul says: «I have a hole in my soul.» I don’t know how to get it out. I don’t want to talk about it because I’m ashamed. Please help me overcome my inner turmoil.» Whether you can hear it, the soul of a person, or your ear doesn’t have that ability, maybe you like the wordplay. If they declare war on you? And you will keep silent? An undeclared war is a rare occurrence, and silence is an art, especially when you are badmouthed. Or, let’s say, someone on the street asks you, «Why don’t you get out of the way, don’t you just walk, are you a giant?» he said. You can feel him getting angry. Are you feeling angry at this moment? Or can you feel the depression or loneliness lurking deep behind those words? Do you see the wounded, abused soul behind these words? After hearing these words, are your ears ready not to declare war?

If you (in the highest sense of the word) are going to serve the Creator and other people, then you should listen carefully to the words of other people, be able to see their true meaning, understand their soul. In this way, you will bring peace and harmony to the world around you and not cause a «war for Jenkins’ ear».

A VERY NARROW VIEW AND PERSPECTIVE

Do you sometimes think that your life is hopelessly tangled, its threads are tied in tight knots, you don’t see a way out, and your situation has become so difficult, it’s time to ask the question: «is it worth continuing?» This is a very narrow view, despair. Do you hear people say things like, «I’d rather die, then you’d know my worth»? This is also a very narrow view, bullying.

When life’s difficulties and apparent contradictions confuse us, we must remember that at any given moment we only have a narrow view (of ourselves, of others) that never reflects the truth, the truth as a whole.

We cannot see the big thing as a whole, we see it in a limited way. We can only look at things from the front. We cannot see what is happening behind us with our limited narrow vision.

Let’s say you had to show pictures of camel body parts to Eskimos. the Eskimos have never seen a camel; you can show him the head, the hump, the hind legs, but he will not fully understand what a camel actually looks like, because until they see it in real life, they have a very narrow view.

Another example that shows the complexity of life situations is a carpet. if you look only at the back of the carpet, it looks like a mixture of lines and colors: there is no symmetry and logic. But since you can’t see the whole carpet, you won’t have the right idea. If you turn the carpet upside down and look at it properly, you will realize that it is a beautiful and complete carpet because you only looked at the back of the carpet.

The same is true in our lives. One day, when we grow spiritually, to leave the kindergarten, we will see that there are many threads that make up a human life: a collection of scenes, events and events that at first seem unrelated – we will discover that they are actually part of a beautiful and precise pattern of a magnificent carpet, which we always walk with our Creator. and we knit for Him.

If life seems to you like a meaningless collection of events, it means that your perspective only allows you to see a fragment of the whole. If we can step back a little, we will see much of it, but in this case, we will understand that the error of these events is necessary – to understand that it is a carpet woven into the pattern of Perfection, to grow spiritually. The Creator is never wrong. No matter what is happening in your life, know that you are moving towards Perfection on a creaturely level.

DO NOT BREAK THE KEY

Have you ever broken a key while turning it in a lock? I once looked at the keys belonging to a sportsman friend and found that only the core of one key was left. The key is badly broken. I was like, «How did that happen?» I asked my friend. «The key was stuck in the lock, and I tried to turn it, and then I broke it,» he answered. I think most of us do that sometimes. Even if we put the wrong key in the lock, we want everything to be the way we want it to be. We want the key to turn. We act without realizing our desires and eventually we break the key. In my friend’s case, the lock that my friend was trying to open had the right key, and if he had picked that key, the door would have opened without a problem. It will be the same with us. When we interact with people, we want to turn the keys in our direction, but the doors don’t open. And if the right key is selected, it will open. In this life, imagine people’s mind as a door and their character as a lock.

Have you ever noticed how nervous we get when someone does something different from us or makes decisions that are different from ours, in other words, outdoing us?

If someone doesn’t have time, if we miss an opportunity, if we are always fighting, if we can’t understand what we need to understand, we get angry. We all learn to insert our keys into the locks of other people’s lives. Admittedly, it’s not easy to sit next to someone and see them doing a better job than you thought possible. This is especially evident when dealing with children. Children don’t know how to do everything like we do. Their fingers are not as flexible and nimble as ours, so we have a great bad habit of trying to rip off what they can do and do it ourselves. We try to put the key to our understanding in the lock of their mind, and it does not help them to be human in the future.

Everyone has to learn how to live happily, and beware of other keys, give them the lock of your mind with caution. If only the most able and qualified were allowed to speak, then it would not be possible for the rest of the people to develop their skills and abilities. Almost everyone can learn on their own, and all successful leaders are those who have learned early on that there is no point in putting a key in other people’s locks or having the wrong key broken. We should accept people as they are, help them in our way, not in our own way. We will never find another person who does exactly what we do. When we understand this, we stop getting angry over petty things, stop trying to lock the key to our lives in someone else’s lock, and allow others to develop in their own way. To open the door to happiness, a person needs not a ready-made key, but a way to search and learn it.

When you value yourself, you think your work is great. God has gifted you with generosity, so be generous to the less fortunate. These examples and more. good deeds are a ray of light for people to follow, so improve yourself today and help others improve themselves tomorrow.

Do this and you will be a better person, and you will have better friends or better children.

THE ART OF SELF-DISCIPLINE

In the desert of Egypt, in its center, several kilometers from water and any living thing, an almond tree grows. yes, the almond tree is in the middle of the harshest and most desolate desert you can imagine. this tree is the fruit of self-discipline.

In 346, an old monk prayed in the desert with one of his disciples. he tried to teach him to understand what the fruits of self-discipline are, but the student could not understand his instructions. then the monk took a staff carved from the branch of an almond tree, and planted it in the sand, and then he turned to his youngest disciple and said: «Water this staff,» said he, «until the water bears fruit, and you will understand what I mean.»

The place was several kilometers away from the nearest well, but at night, when it was cold, the disciple went to the well, filled a pitcher with water, returned and poured water on his staff. He repeated this every night for three years, and after this period the sprouting rod began to bear fruit. Then the disciple brought the almond seed to a nearby monastery and told the monks, «Look at the fruit of self-discipline!» said.

Do you currently live in the desert? Are you facing illness, loneliness, family and business problems, financial difficulties, do you feel like you are in the middle of the wilderness? Then let me tell you that this desert will blossom like an almond tree and bear any fruit by self-discipline. By self-discipline I mean discipline and manners of your mind.

Do as the master’s disciple. Always watch your thoughts and train them to think only of the good. Let go of defeatist thoughts and any negative thoughts. Water your mind with thoughts of love, health, joy, peace and harmony, and you will reap the fruits of the flowers of self-discipline, and the desert of your former life will become a wonderful garden.

HUMAN LIFE IS LIKE AN ESCALATOR

If you’re like most Americans, you find yourself rushing through the day and constantly berating yourself. I doubt that speed and fuss are necessary for the most useful work.

I remember when I was a child, my parents used to take me to a big department store. there was an escalator. I always played with it, I would run forward and the ladder would move down. I’m sure many of you have tried this as a child. this is an interesting procedure. I run at a fast speed, and other people do not run anywhere, they just stand, but in the end, both me and the people, we come to the same place. human life is like that. you should neither lag behind nor outpace the pace of life. you will still be adapted to the speed of the escalator life. There are no concepts of «early» or «late» for life, for life you exist or you don’t.

Stop for a moment, let go of the hustle and bustle, and ask yourself, «Am I running up an escalator going down?» Often, instead of moving at the pace of life of our own free will, we run as if someone is chasing us. If you find yourself running down an escalator, get off quickly and throw up like a normal person on the escalator going up.

If you want to get high fast, keep this in mind. What really lifts us up is our composure and self-confidence.

Basically, you should not play with the escalator, no matter how fun it is, you will probably injure yourself somewhere, the same with life, no matter how fun it is, because we were warned.

SIN OF FORGOTTEN

Here is a beautiful poem by Margaret Sangster. It is called «sin of forgetfulness».

What we didn’t do hurts us, we forgot why. At the end of our days, why does the heart ache? Forgotten gentle word, unwritten letter and book. Why do we silently yearn for flowers that have not yet opened? Does anyone have a heavy burden that we can lighten? Do you remember the advice you were given? Just hand-holding and encouraging advice. But everything is in a hurry in life, you see, time has passed. These are small gestures of care and kindness. These are immortal possibilities beyond the eternal hustle and bustle. All of them go through a bad, sad circuit in the night when they are desperate and greedy, like the loud voice of the wind, Because life is so fleeting, and sorrow is so great. Until the last call, it would be a sin not to show compassion. What is not done hurts us, the disease of forgetfulness hurts us more. At the end of our days, does the heart ache for that?

Why can’t you make someone’s life happy today, if the opportunity is lost soon, the memory of him will fall on your heart with a heavy burden? maybe the cure for this disease (forgetfulness) is the love you want to share with your parent, child or loved one, or ending a conflict that has gone too far.

Life is too short. make sure you don’t miss out on this day. do today what you say you will do tomorrow.

VOICE OR ECHO?

Are you a voice or an echo? I think that with the growth of human knowledge and the emergence of great inventions, through the Internet (smartphone, tablet, laptop, computer), this knowledge is distributed, so we are all in danger of becoming a parrot, you will just be an echo of someone else’s opinion.

Daily from the pages of newspapers (I think there are still people who read newspapers), from cinemas and television screens, from books and street advertising, from the Internet, from social networks, we hear the voices of other people, who tell us what to think, how to live and what to believe. I am one of those hypocrites. I have tried to share my ideas with you throughout this book. I think: «There is a great danger that my way of thinking will become your way of thinking.» I don’t want to turn you into a parrot. So I realized that I’m not trying to make you think what I think because I’m not the truth. For three books, I have struggled with what the truth is (I am writing the third book).

My goal is to encourage you to think for yourself. What kind of ideas do you have that you have learned from life? Please share if you have. Take the ideas I’ve given you and test their benefits in your own practice. Test ideas relentlessly.

So will you remain an echo, your voice should be important for yourself if not for humanity, the choice is yours – to be one of the many, or to be a person, (better to be human,) but better to be happy with everyone!

I hope you got enough motivation with these ideas and made some adjustments in your brain. But remember that you will forget everything you read after a few days, so keep coming back to these ideas!

SUBJECTIVE WELL-BEING

Happiness is a concept that each of us strives to understand and achieve. a state that meets living conditions, completeness and meaningfulness of life, fulfillment of one’s dream goal, self-realization and maximum internal satisfaction. however, it can mean different things to different people. we call him a lucky lucky man. on the contrary, we believe that he failed and became unhappy. Happiness is essentially a state of inner harmony and balance. happiness is a state of contentment, joy, well-being. it can be associated with achieving goals, satisfying relationships, and the simple pleasures of life. Each person has their own definition of happiness, and what makes one person happy may not be important to another. happiness begins within us. Our attitudes, positive thinking, and self-perception play an important role in achieving happiness. relationships with others – close and supportive relationships with family, friends or partners can significantly increase happiness levels. Whether it’s a career, education or hobby, success and achievement in various areas of life can bring joy and satisfaction. concerns about physical and emotional well-being: Health and stress levels can also affect our happiness. Taking care of your body and mind can help you achieve a higher level of happiness. Gratitude Experience: Take time each day to consciously express your gratitude. it helps to see the positive side of life and get into a positive mood. accept yourself and those around you: Accept your flaws and mistakes and accept others for who they are (not what they are). This helps to create harmonious communication and reduce conflicts.

Set goals and work towards them: Determine what is important to you and break big goals into smaller steps. Gradually moving towards your goals will bring you joy and satisfaction. Take care of your well-being: Take time to exercise, eat well, and rest.

Also, do not forget to take care of your emotional state – communicate with loved ones and engage in hobbies that bring you joy.

Don’t compare yourself to others: Everyone is unique and happiness can come in different forms for everyone. Focus on your accomplishments, celebrate them, and praise yourself and the Lord for it. Happiness is a personal concept that each of us defines for ourselves. It depends on our inner world. Happiness can be experienced only at certain moments («Pleasant moments»), and experiencing it often is called subjective well-being in psychology. There are Myths about happiness in psychology:

Myth 1: Happiness is not permanent

Happiness does not mean:

– Meeting all needs

– Enjoy life forever

– A constant sense of fun

– Complete absence of negative emotions 5) Having a universal recipe that suits everyone.

If happiness is a process rather than an object, then we can talk about its intensity and its frequency (how often you feel so happy). We can afford to experience it more often. That is, the highest goal is constant happiness. What can be done about the fact that it takes negative experiences to have positive experiences? Basic theory of happiness: suggests that there is some fixed level of happiness that is determined by our personality.

Although we experience some fluctuations in happiness throughout our lives, according to this theory, we eventually return to our baseline level. This leads to two conclusions: First, by working on «enhancement of happiness,» we are actually experiencing an experience similar to how musicians transpose a composition to another pitch.

We also experience ’ups’ and ’downs’. secondly, negative experiences are normal and natural because they do not move our base constitution downwards. Realize that everyone has pain, sadness, frustration (a state of mind that arises when certain needs are not met or not, or more precisely, in a state of inadequacy), even illness, and that these symptoms are part of you, not something sent from the outside to punish and relieve pain. is important. they help us move forward. these practices appear to be the result of the evolution of survival and growth mechanisms.

Myth 2: Money is not the source of happiness

Research has shown that income levels affect the perception of happiness, but up to a certain point (in the US it’s about $70,000 a year), after which money plays a much smaller role.

Myth 3: You can predict your level of happiness/unhappiness when you reach an event

Emotional forecasting is «the process by which people predict what they will like and dislike about the future.» A study conducted by Dan Gilbert focused on the topic of emotional forecasting. He surveyed 571 college students, some of whom were romantically involved and some of whom were single. He also categorized them by how long they had been in a relationship and how long they had been apart. The purpose of the study was to see if people could predict their own emotional response to a disruptive experience. He then asked those in a relationship to predict their level of subjective happiness 2 months after the breakup if they broke up. Unbroken people predicted a significant deterioration in their happiness within 2 months. After a while, some of the people who participated in the survey eventually broke. When Dan asked them how happy they were 2 months after their breakup, they found that their level of happiness was the same as those who had never broken up. Dan theorized that our psychological immune system allows us to recover from traumatic events much more quickly than we realize. And such assumptions, unfortunately, prevent us from thinking that happiness is real and attainable.

Happiness is a state that corresponds to the greatest inner satisfaction with the conditions of a person’s life. Fullness and meaning of life, fulfillment of one’s duties, self-realization. The phenomenon of happiness is studied by psychology, philosophy, sociology and economic theory (happiness economics), as well as theology. The physiology of happiness can be closely related to endorphins, serotonin and dopamine, the so-called «happy hormones». Their synthesis and circulation in the body are disturbed during endocrine, bacterial and viral diseases. Serotonin is a neurotransmitter in the brain and central nervous system (CNS), produced in the gastrointestinal tract and parts of the central nervous system. If endorphins mainly affect the state of short-term euphoria and joy, serotonin, its constant production and absorption processes in neurons often create the background of happiness and long-term satisfaction. Another hormone and neurotransmitter closely related to serotonin is dopamine. Dopamine is one of the chemical factors of internal reinforcement and functions as part of the «reward system» of the brain. The serotonin system is responsible for inhibitory (protective), sleep, memory processing, integration of experience, reducing pain sensitivity, controlling and suppressing negative emotions, and obtaining satisfaction from relaxation., focused on learning, new ways of interacting, getting satisfaction from activity physical, mental or emotional. dopamine and the dopaminergic system are also responsible for the formation of attachments, emotional empathy (a conscious experience of the current emotional state of another person), and feelings of love. the reward system and pleasure centers are a common part of the human motivational feedback loop called «cortex – basal ganglia – thalamus – cortex». happiness is in the health of a person’s body and soul:

– Healthy lifestyle

– Regular physical activity

– Nutritious and balanced nutrition,

– Positive relationships with people

In ancient ethics, the question of happiness was a central category. Aristotle studied it for the first time and defined happiness as «virtue is the function of a complete soul»

(Nicomachean ethics). Virtue is defined as that which leads to happiness. In the Hellenistic era, in Epicurean philosophy, happiness was defined as joy. The ancient Greek word for happiness – «eudaimonia» (eudaimonia, eu – good, daimonia – god) – literally means the fate of a person under the protection of God.

Eastern philosophy teaches a practical way to achieve a happy life of an individual, announcing the impossibility of achieving happiness in the material world in its biological, physiological, social, economic and logical aspects. In this regard, the following quote is indicative: luckily, you can have it both ways. the first line is external. By getting a better house, better clothes, nicer friends, we can find some measure of happiness and contentment. the second path is the path of spiritual development and it leads to inner happiness. however, these two views are not equal. external happiness does not last long without internal happiness. if life is dark for you, if something is missing in your heart, no matter how much luxury you surround yourself with, you will not be happy. but if you achieve inner peace, you can find happiness even in the most difficult situations.

– Dalai Lama xiv

From the point of view of yoga, happiness is a natural state of a person, a characteristic of his nature. however, in everyday life, a person’s true nature is hidden beneath layers of habitual anxiety. this anxiety can be overcome through meditation and then one discovers one’s true self and one can experience a deep sense of happiness. Aristotle also believed that «having friends means being happy.» The following quote is also indicative:

Material well-being and physical health are not enough for a person to live a full life, which is called happiness. The highest joys of life are the joys of spiritual life. But the perception and understanding of the latter is directly proportional to the degree of development of consciousness. The improvement of the material condition of the masses should go hand in hand with the development of their consciousness and spiritual life. (Tugarinov). «Adeptionem perfecti boni» consists of accepting the perfect good, «this life» (in hac vita), but believed that it is not always possible to reach it. (Thomas Aquinas). Many philosophers and psychologists (Viktor Frankl, Erich Fromm, etc.) point out that joy and happiness are not completely identical concepts. In positive psychology, in particular, the following formula of happiness is used (Magomedova):

Happiness = deep satisfaction with life + maximum positive emotions + minimal negative emotions.

Positive emotions are associated with immediate happiness, and deep satisfaction with long-term happiness. then happiness is the joy we feel when we lovingly strive to reach our creative potential. Martin Seligman, one of the founders of this field of psychology, claims that the skills of happiness can be taught like the skills of playing a musical instrument. According to the concept of humanistic psychology representative K. Rogers, self-knowledge gives a person the ability to grow personally, improve himself, and express himself, which is a necessary condition for achieving the fullness of life and feeling joy. happiness is living to understand the meaning of life. Special means of self-awareness include various modern forms of psychologist’s work: personal counseling, solving problems together, working in a social-psychological training group, in which the psychologist opens work with the patient as much as possible, understands his problems and finds internal resources. According to renowned psychologist John Gottman, success and happiness in all areas of life, including family relationships, is determined by knowing your emotions and being able to handle them.

And this feature is called «emotional intelligence»[23]. BG Kuznetsov in his book «Philosophy of Optimism» explains the psychological law of Weber Fechtner: a person feels happy only when the factors that make a person happy increase. Otherwise, the feeling of happiness will disappear. American psychologist Lawrence Howells believes that happiness is the most important of emotions, because people make many important decisions based on whether these decisions will lead to happiness now or in the future. Economists and sociologists who study the relationship between happiness and money note that at the macro level, people in rich countries with high GDP levels are on average happier than people in poorer countries.

At the micro level, most economists conclude that happiness depends on money, but the more money there is, the less it affects happiness. Psychologists note that a certain minimum amount of money is necessary for happiness. However, once the underlying problems are resolved, the bond quickly weakens. thus, the famous American psychologist Daniel Kahneman, together with the famous economist Angus Deaton, discovered the nonlinear dependence of subjective happiness on the amount of income. According to Kahneman and Deaton, Americans want an increase in their level of happiness from an increase in income to $75,000 a year. after this level, the effect of increased well-being on happiness ceases.

According to orthodox interpretation, professor of the Moscow Theological Academy, theologian A.I.Osipov, happiness is the inner state of a person and does not depend on the degree of his being provided with material goods. To confirm his words, he cites the story of Abbot Nikon (Vorobiev), who «in his youth united the ideas of progress, freedom, equality, brotherhood.» Nikon was once shocked by news published in the newspapers that the twenty-year-old rich son of a millionaire committed suicide due to an unhappy love. Osipov: «Then what is happiness?» He asks the question. He said, «It’s a joy!» he answers. And he recalls two cases, the first of which involved Nikon Optina, the last monk of the Optina monastery, who was arrested in 1929. He says: «They shaved him, cut off his hair, took off all his monastic clothes, completely humiliated him, put him in prison, where he got tuberculosis… They managed to send a letter. Last letters: «My happiness knows no bounds, I finally know, what does ’the kingdom of God is within you’ mean?» The second story is Armenian

Taken from the life of Eustratius the Great Martyr of Sebastia, the city ruler and military commander who suffered for Christ under Emperor Diocletian in Cappadocia. The theologian says that «when they removed the skin from him [Eustracius] … suddenly his face became unusually radiant, and he says: „This suffering is joy for your servants.“ The tormentors were so shocked that some of them threw down the instruments of execution and immediately exclaimed, „I am a Christian!“ – said. Their heads immediately flew off, of course» [1385 days]. According to A.I. Osipov, «To achieve true happiness for a Christian person allows.» In another public lecture, theologian-professor Osipov gave a short and concise definition: «Happiness is satisfaction, satisfaction with fate. To be godly and contented is a great benefit.» Dmitry Smirnov, archpriest of the Russian Orthodox Church, church and public figure, former chairman of the patriarchal commission on family issues, mother and child protection, has repeatedly said that happiness can only be found in the family. «raise them in such a way that they consider their family to be the most important value on earth.» because if a person does not have a family, no matter how successful he is, he cannot be happy. because the creator himself did not create man as an individual with any rights: He created man and woman and said to them: «Be fruitful and multiply.» The Creator himself created us as a family, so we can live on earth and find harmony and happiness only in the family. And only the family can teach a person true Christianity. This is our salvation… I had to interact with many rich people, but I did not meet a happy soul among them…

I have noticed that truly happy couples are only in large families who love each other; when children grow up in an atmosphere of family love and not on the streets. This atmosphere increases and becomes denser with the birth of each child. If two people – a man and a woman – have good, faithful, hardworking children, then they will have happiness that surpasses all other happiness on earth. This happiness is not dependent on any external circumstances. Family and children who radiate happiness always burden you with this happiness. You bathe in it… I came to the conclusion that if a person wants to create his own happiness, he should create a family.» In the humorous story «Monday Begins on Saturday» by the Strugatskybrothers, the following definitions of happiness are given: … the simplest negative definitions («Money does not buy happiness»), the simplest positive definitions («The highest satisfaction, complete satisfaction, success»), casuistic definitions («Happiness is the absence of unhappiness») and paradoxical («The happiest are jokers, fools, they are stupid and indifferent, because they do not know conscience, they are not afraid of ghosts and other immortal things, they do not suffer from fear of future disasters»).

Happiness is a positive emotion that ranges from contentment to intense joy. happy moments can be triggered by positive life experiences or thoughts, but sometimes they can appear for no reason. levels of long-term happiness are more closely related to levels of life satisfaction, subjective well-being, flourishing, and eudaimonia. in common usage, the word «happy» may be shorthand for the self-evaluation of these indicators or the «source» of happiness (eg, «finding happiness in life», finding meaning in life). As with any emotion, the exact definition of happiness has always been a topic of debate in philosophy. happiness is a topic of debate about possible differences in understanding between cultures. the word is used mainly in connection with two factors: the present experience of an emotion (affect), such as pleasure or joy, or the general feeling of a «general emotional state». For example, Daniel Kahneman defined happiness as «what I feel here and now.» In dictionary definitions of happiness, this usage refers to the evaluation of life satisfaction, such as quality of life. For example, Ruth Veenhoven said that happiness «determines the quality of a person’s overall life.» Kahneman said that it is more important to people than current experience. Some use cases may involve both of these factors. Subjective well-being includes measures of current experience (emotions, moods, and feelings) and life satisfaction. Sonya Lubomirsky described happiness as «the experience of joy, satisfaction, or positive well-being combined with the feeling that one’s life is good, meaningful, and valuable.» Eudaimonism is an ethical orientation that recognizes prosperity, happiness, the pursuit of happiness as the criterion of morality and the basis of human behavior. Xavier Landes proposed that happiness includes indicators such as subjective well-being, mood, and eudaimonia. Using the precious values in our life can lead to different results. one of them is happiness. Scandinavian countries are said to be the happiest countries. every thinker turns happiness into a multifaceted concept. In the US Declaration of Independence, the right to pursue happiness is considered as a political right of the people. and if this political right really belongs to the people, then every citizen must have the right to pursue happiness and the opportunity to realize it through political means.

People have tried to measure happiness for centuries. In 1780, the English utilitarian (the moral value of behavior or action is determined by its utility) philosopher Jeremy Bentham suggested that since happiness is the primary goal of people, it should be measured as a way of determining how well a government works. Today, happiness is usually measured using self-report questionnaires. Self-reports should be aware of cognitive biases and sources of error such as rule deviation. however, research shows that memories of experienced emotions can be inaccurate. Research on affective forecasting shows that people are poor at predicting their future emotions, including how happy they will be. happiness economists are not overly concerned with philosophical and methodological issues and do not use surveys to measure the average level of population happiness.

Several scales can be used to measure happiness: assessing the relationship between personality traits and positive or negative affect, to describe people as happy or unhappy. Respondents are asked to imagine a scale where their best life is 10 and their worst life is 0. They are then asked to rate their current life on a scale of 0 to 10. People are asked if they enjoyed their day, laughed a lot or were happy, breathed well, were treated with respect, and learned or did something interesting. Nine of the top 10 countries in 2018 were from South America, led by Paraguay and Panama. Country scores range from 85 to 43.

Among the happiest countries, Kazakhstan in 2023 is in 45th place out of 138 countries. We are in the first place in the CIS. Excellent result. All because of the peace, peace and cooperation of the country.

The World Happiness Report has been published since 2012. «How satisfied are you with your life in general?» evaluated by «How happy are you now?» people are asked verbally. Using these indicators, the authors of the report determine the countries with the highest levels of happiness. In subjective measures of well-being, the main difference lies in cognitive evaluation of life and emotional reports. Economists and international economic organizations are advocating and developing multidimensional dashboards that combine subjective and objective measures to provide a more direct and accurate assessment of human well-being. There are many different factors that affect the well-being of adults, for example, judgments about happiness partly reflect the presence of important limitations and fairness, autonomy (a person’s ability to self-actualize, self-regulate and self-determine, act independently, make decisions and independence, understood as the quality of a person that characterizes the desire to discover the abilities of independence), community and inclusiveness (the process of real integration of people with physical development difficulties, including those with disabilities or mental characteristics into the active life of society) are the main aspects of happiness and well-being throughout life. Although these factors play a role in happiness, they all need to improve at the same time to help a person achieve happiness. Over time, happiness has been found to be stable.

There is a philosophical science about the essence, nature and achievement of happiness.

Some philosophers argue that happiness can be understood as the moral purpose of life or as an aspect of chance; Indeed, in many European languages, the term «happiness» is synonymous with success.

Thus, philosophers usually explain that happiness is a good state of mind, a life that gives good results to a person. Research in psychology has guided many modern philosophers in the development of their theories, given the pragmatic (philosophical current based on practice as a criterion of truth and semantic meaning) concern with happiness. Democritus (ca. 460 – 370 BC) is known as the «philosopher of laughter» because of his emphasis on the value of «fun».

The best plan for a happy life has been chosen by the person who makes everything that leads to happiness depend on himself and not on other people. – Plato, The Republic

Plato (ca. 428 – 347 BC) taught that in the Republic, a life devoted to knowledge and virtue leads to happiness and self-realization. To attain happiness, one must become immune to changes in the material world and seek to know the eternal, unchanging forms that exist in the realm of ideas. The Chariot Allegory of the Phaedrus is probably Plato’s most important teaching on how to achieve inner happiness. Plato believes that social happiness arises from the fair treatment of citizens to each other, the virtuous life, and the honest performance of each of his social functions. Aristotle (384 – 322 BC) was considered an ancient Greek scientist in ethics, metaphysics, biology and botany. Aristotle eudaimonia described as the goal of human thought and action. Eudaimonia is often translated as «happiness,» but some scholars believe that «human flourishing» may be a more accurate translation. More specifically, eudaimonia refers to a positive and divine state of being that humanity can actively strive for and achieve. Given that this state is the most pleasant for a person, often simplifies the word happiness. However, Aristotle’s use of the term in the Nicomachean Ethics goes beyond the general concept of happiness. In the Nicomachean Ethics, Aristotle points out that many ends are really only intermediate ends and are desired only because they enable the attainment of higher ends. Thus, things like wealth, intelligence, and courage are valued only in relation to other things, and eudaimonia is the only valuable thing in itself. Aristotle believed that virtue is necessary for human happiness, and without virtue, contentment is the most important thing. In Aristotelian ethics, the pursuit of virtue involves asking the question «what ought I to be» rather than «what ought I to do.» A fully virtuous person is described as one who has achieved eudaimonia, so that he is inevitably happy. Cynicism (Cynicism is an open, indifferent and contemptuous attitude towards moral norms, cultural values and ideas about decency, a negative, nihilistic attitude towards what is generally accepted) advocated an ascetic life consistent with virtue. Xenophon says that Antisthenes appreciated the joy «from the soul», and Diogenes Laertius likes Antisthenes’ saying: «I’d rather be mad than enjoy.» He believed that virtue alone was sufficient to provide happiness, which required only the power of Socrates. He, like all later Cynics, rejected any conventional ideas of happiness associated with money, power and fame in order to live a completely virtuous and happy life. Thus, he believed that happiness can be achieved by living an ascetic life, rejecting all conditioned desires, preferring a simple life, and being free from all possessions.

Diogenes of Sinope (c. 412 – 323 BC) is often regarded as the epitome of philosophy. Even the Stoics considered him one of the few who reached the level of genius.

As a result, the sage is happy even if he has his own problems and little pleasures.

– On Diogenes Laertius Anniceris

Aristippus of Cyrene (ca. 435 – 356 BC) of the Cyrenaica school of philosophy founded. The school argued that the only good is pleasant pleasure, and pain is the only evil. They assert that every sensation is transitory, and therefore all past and future pleasures have no real existence for the individual, and that there is no material difference between present pleasures. Claudius Aelian writes about Aristippus in his «Historical Compendium»: He proposed to clarify even today the part of man who acts and thinks. For we have only the present, not the past or what we expect, because one thing is gone and finished with it, and it is not known how the other will come to pass.»» Some momentary pleasures can make you forget about the pain. A wise man should not own pleasure and become a slave to it, otherwise it will lead to suffering, which requires foresight to appreciate the various pleasures of life. Pyrrho (ca. 360 – 270 BC) founded Pyrrhonism, the first school of philosophical skepticism in the West. The goal of Pyrrhonic practice is to attain a state of ataraxia (peace of mind) – freedom from disturbance. Pyrrho discovered that what prevents people from achieving ataraxia is their beliefs about things that are not clear, that is, dogma. The ancient Pyrrhonians made many dubious arguments to dissuade people from faith.

«Of all the tools to gain wisdom for lifelong happiness, friendship is the most important». – Epicurus

Epicurus (ca. 341 – 270 BC), the founder of Epicureanism, taught that the goal of life is peace (ataraksia) and freedom from fear, as well as the absence of physical pain (aponia, Greek). to this end, Epicurus recommended an ascetic lifestyle, noble friendship, and avoidance of politics. One of the remedies for happiness is tetrapharmacos, or four kinds of treatment:

«Fear God, and do not worry about death; It is easy to take what is good, and easy to bear what is terrible.»

You should be a person who relies on common sense, is serious, energetic, serious, and does not allow himself to be distracted by anything. If you are content to live in the present without waiting for anything, if you speak heroic truth in every word, you will live happily.

And there is no one to stop it.

– Marcus Aurelius, Meditation

Stoicism is a school of philosophy founded by Zeno of Citi (ca. 334 – 262 BC). Although

Zeno was a syncretist in thought, his main influence was the Cynics, and his mentor was the Thebans (ca. 365 – 285 BC). Stoicism is a personal ethical philosophy that provides a system of logic and views about the natural world. Modern usage of the term «Stoic» generally refers to people who are indifferent to the experience of the world around them or who generally suppress their feelings, rather than those who practice Stoicism. Given Stoicism’s emphasis on ignoring the negative, it is seen as the path to happiness. The Stoics believe that «virtue is sufficient for happiness.»

A person who attains this sense of virtue becomes a sage. According to Epictetus, this sage «sick but happy, happy in danger, dies but happy, banished and happy, shamed but happy.» So the Stoics spent their time in pursuit of virtue. This can only be achieved if one devotes his life to the study of Stoic logic, Stoic physics and Stoic ethics. Stoics describe themselves as «living in harmony with nature.» Some schools of Stoicism cite Aristotle’s concept of eudaimonia as the goal of the practice of Stoic philosophy.

The Sextian school was founded by Quintus Sextius the Elder (50 BC). It has been described as a philosophical and medical school, combining mainly Pythagorean, Platonic, Cynic and Stoic elements. They argued that in order to achieve happiness, one must become a vegetarian, undergo an examination of conscience at night, abstain from both consumerism and politics, and believe that unattainable physical power will enter the body.

Augustine of Hippo

A happy life is a joy based on truth. It is a joy based on you, O God, truth. – Hail Augustine, confession.

Saint Augustine of Hippo (354—430 AD) was an early Christian theologian and philosopher whose works influenced the development of Western Christianity and Western philosophy. According to St. Augustine, all human activities revolve around love, and the main problem people face is a wrong understanding of love.

Happiness can only be found in God because He is the source of happiness. Since mankind was created by God, but has since fallen, the human soul remembers the bliss of being with God. Thus, if a person is directed towards the love of God, all other loves will be properly arranged. Thus, St. Augustine, relying on the Neoplatonic (syncretic philosophical and religious doctrine, which arose as a result of the activities of the ancient philosopher Plato, who wrote in his works) tradition, argues that happiness lies in the contemplation of a purely intelligible world.

One common concern of mortals is death. They work for it, strive for several goals, follow different paths, but do not strive to achieve one goal – happiness. – Boethius, Philosophy of Consolation.

Boethius (ca. 480–524) was a philosopher best known as the author of The Philosophy of Consolation. This work had the greatest influence on Christianity in the Middle Ages and early Renaissance, and has been described as the last great work of the Classical period. The book covers many topics, but among them it discusses happiness and the nature of God, discussing how to achieve happiness despite the vicissitudes of fate. He proves that by attaining happiness, the perfect good, and that perfect good is God. He then concludes that since God rules the universe through Love, praying to God and practicing Love leads to true happiness. Avicenna (ca. 980–1037), known as Ibn Sina, polymath and jurist; He is considered one of the most important thinkers of the Golden Age of Islam. according to him, happiness is the goal of man, and true happiness is free from worldly interests. ultimately, happiness is the development of the human intelligence through the integration of the general active intelligence. al-Ghazali (ca. 1058–1111) was a Persian Muslim theologian, jurist, philosopher, and mystic. al-Ghazali, who wrote towards the end of his life, wrote «alchemy of happiness» (kimiya-yi saadat, (in Persian). In his work, he emphasizes the importance of observing ritual requirements. Islamic religion, actions that lead to salvation and avoiding sin. According to al-Ghazali, happiness is four has the main components: self-knowledge, knowledge of God, knowledge of the world in reality, knowledge of life after death.

It is only through the use of one’s mental faculties – the faculties given by God – that one can transform from worldliness to complete devotion to God, the highest happiness. Maimonides (ca. 1135–1204) was a Jewish philosopher and astronomer who was one of the most prolific and influential Torah scholars and physicians. He writes that happiness is ultimate and essentially intellectual.

A person is not completely happy if he has only desires and things to look for.

– Thomas Aquinas, Summa Theologica

Saint Thomas Aquinas (1225 – 1274) was a philosopher and theologian, in 1323 he became a Doctor of the Church. He syncretized Aristotelianism and Catholic theology in his major work Summa Theologica. According to Thomas Aquinas, perfect happiness is not to be found in any physical pleasure, in any worldly power, in any degree of worldly fame and honor, or in any ultimate reality. It can only exist in something infinite and perfect, which is God. And since God is not a material thing, but pure spirit, we are united by knowing and loving God. Therefore, union with God is the most perfect person and the ultimate goal of human life. Michel de Montaigne (1533–1592) was a French philosopher. Influenced by Hellenistic philosophy and Christianity, with a belief in the separation of the public and private spheres of life, Montaigne writes that happiness is a subjective state of mind and that satisfaction varies from person to person. He further admits that belief in truth is necessary to perform concrete actions to achieve happiness without the interference of society. Jeremy Bentham (1748—1832) was a British philosopher, jurist and social reformer. He is considered the founder of modern utilitarianism (a direction in ethics (ethical theory), according to which the moral value of behavior or action is determined by its usefulness). According to Jeremy Bentham, a right action is the course that produces the greatest amount of utility, where utility is defined as the total pleasure (happiness) minus any pain (pain) to each individual affected by the action. To calculate the utility of a given action, he created the Felisif calculus. According to this calculation, for example, ascetic sacrifice is morally wrong.

Arthur Schopenhauer (1788—1860) is a German philosopher. His philosophy implies that selfish actions are the pursuit of self-interest, pleasure, or happiness, while compassion can only be a moral action. Schopenhauer interprets happiness as a satisfied desire, which in turn creates new desires. And dissatisfaction is the suffering that leads to empty melancholy. It also relates happiness to the movement of time, as we feel happy when time passes quickly and sad when time slows down. Friedrich Nietzsche (1844—1900) was a German philosopher, poet, cultural historian, and philologist whose work greatly influenced modern philosophy. Nietzsche criticized the English utilitarians’ pursuit of the greatest happiness, saying that making happiness the ultimate goal of life, in his words, «makes man despicable.» Instead, Nietzsche sought a culture with higher and more difficult goals than «mere happiness.» He introduced the figure of the «last man» as a kind of thought experiment against utilitarians and happiness seekers. These «little people» who avoid all dangers, difficulties, trials and struggles and seek only their own happiness and health deserve to be despised. Instead, Nietzsche prefers to think about the value of the difficult, that which can only be earned through struggle, difficulty, and suffering. He wants us to think not of everything of great value in life, including philosophy, but of the positive value of suffering and unhappiness that produces all the high achievements of human culture. Władysław Tatarkiewicz (1886—1980) is a Polish philosopher and historian. For Tatarkevich, happiness is the main ethical category, and true happiness requires complete satisfaction, that is, satisfaction with a whole life. Herbert Marcuse (1898–1979) was a German-American philosopher, sociologist, and political theorist associated with the Frankfurt School of Critical Theory. In his 1937 essay, «The Positive Character of Culture,» he argues that culture fosters tension in the fabric of society, and that it can challenge the social order established during this tension. If separated from the everyday world, the demand for happiness ceases to be external and becomes the object of spiritual excitement. In One Dimensional Man, his critique of consumerism shows that the current system is democratizing but authoritarian in nature, as few people insist on the perception of freedom that allows them to purchase certain versions of happiness. He goes on to say that the concept of «happiness can be bought» is psychologically destructive.

It is a characteristic of American culture that people are told to be happy over and over again. But you cannot pursue happiness; This should be done. A person must have a reason to be «happy».

– Viktor Frankl

Viktor Frankl (1905–1997) was an Austrian neurologist, psychiatrist, Holocaust survivor, and founder of logotherapy. His philosophy revolved around an emphasis on meaning, the value of suffering, and responsibility for something greater than oneself; Only one who faces these questions can be happy. Robert Nozick (1938—2002) is an American philosopher, professor at Harvard University. He is known for his political philosophy and thought experiments. «Experiment Machine» (1974) thought. In his experiment, he proposed a hedonistic theory of happiness by imagining a choice between everyday reality and a simulated reality that gives endless pleasure.

Axiological theory, according to which pleasure is the highest good and meaning of life, the only ultimate value (and all other values are instrumental, that is, a means of achieving pleasure), criticizes the notions. The Utility Monster (1974) is a thought experiment designed by Robert Nozick to test the concept of total pleasure utilitarianism (an approach in ethics (ethical theory) according to which the moral worth of a behavior or action is determined by its utility). Michel Onfray (born 1959) is a French writer and philosopher with a hedonistic, epicurean, and atheist worldview.

Onfray argues that the political dimension of hedonism extends from Epicurus to John Stuart Mill, Jeremy Bentham, and Claude Adrien Helvetis. Political hedonism aims to create the greatest happiness for the greatest number of people. Onfrey defines hedonism as «an introspective view of life based on self-pleasure and the pleasure of others, without harming oneself or others.» David Pearce (born 1959) is a British transhumanist (a social order, political position, and philosophical concept that promotes the use of science and technology to improve human mental and physical capabilities) who takes a lexical, negative, utilitarian approach to ethical issues. eliminating aspects – suffering, disease, aging and death. Transhumanists study the possibilities and consequences of using such technologies, the dangers and benefits of their use, including the idea of convergence of biological, informational, cognitive and nanotechnologies) philosopher.

Moral Approach – The philosophy of happiness is often discussed together with ethics. Traditional European societies, inherited from the Greeks and Christianity, often associated happiness with morality. In this sense, morality was the fulfillment of a certain role in a certain form of social life. Happiness remains a difficult term for moral philosophy. Throughout the history of moral philosophy, there has been an oscillation between attempts to define morality in terms of its consequences for happiness or to define it as unrelated to happiness at all. In psychology, the relationship between happiness and morality has been studied in various ways. Empirical research shows that laypeople’s judgments of a person’s happiness depend in part on their perceptions of that person’s moral qualities, suggesting that judgments of others’ happiness involve moral evaluations. Many studies also show that engaging in prosocial behaviors can increase happiness.

Eudaimonia is a classical Greek word, derived from «eu» («good» or «well-being») and «daimon» («spirit» or «little god»). In this sense, a happy life is a good life, that is, a life in which a person has a better sense of his human nature. In particular, Aristotle argued that the good life is a life of highly conscious action. He arrived at this statement through the «function argument». Basically, if this is true, then every living thing has a unique function to perform. for aristotle the human function is reason because it is the only thing that humans do unilaterally. and it is up to you to perform your function well or perfectly. According to Aristotle, a life consisting of perfect rational action is a happy life. Aristotle argued that the second best life for people incapable of higher conscious action is a life of moral virtue. The main question that Aristotle tries to answer is: «What is the ultimate goal of human life?» Many people seek pleasure, health and a good reputation. It is true that they have value, but none of them can take the place of the great good to which mankind aspires. All good things may appear to be means to happiness, but Aristotle said that happiness is always an end in itself.

Theories on how to achieve happiness include «encountering positive unexpected events», «seeing the importance of others,» and «seeing acceptance and praise from others.» Some believe that happiness is not only about external, momentary pleasures. The theories of positive psychology, well-being, eudaimonia, and happiness researchers Diener, Riff, Case, and Seligman cover a wide range of levels and topics, including «biological, personal, relational, institutional, cultural, and global aspects of life.»

Psychiatrist George Vaillant and Adult Development at Harvard University, The director of the study, Robert Waldinger, said that happy and healthy people have stronger interpersonal relationships. studies have shown that adequate sleep contributes to well-being. good mental health and good relationships contribute to happiness more than success. In 2018, Lori r. Santos’ course, Psychology and the Good Life, was the most popular course in Yale history and was available online for free to non-Yale students. some commentators have drawn a distinction between the hedonic tradition of seeking pleasure and avoiding unpleasant experiences and the eudaimonic tradition of living a full and deeply satisfying life. Kahneman: «When you look at what people want for themselves, how they pursue their goals, they seem to be more motivated to seek satisfaction than to seek happiness,» he said. A similar observation was made by the psychiatrist Viktor Frankl, who had the opportunity to observe his own and other prisoners’ experiences in Nazi concentration camps during World War II. He noted that those who lose hope die quickly, and those who have strong faith and purpose tend to live. As Frankl pointed out, happiness and misery depend more on one’s attitudes and choices than on one’s environment. He believed that not only positive situations, but also positive meaning bring the greatest satisfaction in life. The three main sources of meaning he identifies in his work are:

1. Doing meaningful work or doing an action.

2. Love expressed in a profound encounter with another person or experience.

3. Finding meaning in inevitable suffering, for example, understanding it as healing from the Creator and seeing it as an opportunity for learning.

Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs is a pyramid depicting the levels of human psychological and physical needs. When a person climbs the pyramid steps, self-realization occurs. In addition to the order of satisfaction of needs, Maslow imagines special moments of experience called peak experiences, deep moments of love, understanding, happiness or pleasure, during which a person feels complete, alive, self-sufficient and at the same time a part of the world. this is similar to Mihaly Csikszentmihalij’s concept of flow. The concept of flow is the idea that by having our basic needs met, we can achieve greater happiness without ever wasting time by changing our mindset. our intense focus makes us forget about any other problems, which in turn promotes positive emotions. Erich Fromm said: «Happiness is a sign that a person has found an answer to the problem of human existence: the productive realization of his potential and, thus, at the same time unity with the world and preservation of the integrity of his «I». Increasing energy by using energy effectively, energy «burns out if it is not used honestly». Self-determination theory links intrinsic motivation to three needs: competence, autonomy, and relatedness. Competence is a person’s effectiveness in interacting with the environment, autonomy is flexibility in making choices and decisions, and relatedness is the need to establish warm, close personal relationships. Using data from the World Values Survey, Ronald Inglehart identified cross-national differences in happiness. He believes that the degree to which a society allows free choice has a major impact on happiness. Satisfying basic needs depends on economic and cultural factors that ensure free choice of lifestyle. In countries with limited freedom of choice, happiness also depends on religion. Sigmund Freud said that all people strive for happiness, but the possibilities of achieving it are limited, because we «enjoy intensely only the contrast, and very little the state of things.» The idea of motivational hedonism is the theory that pleasure is the goal of human life. Positive Psychology Since 2000, the field of positive psychology, which focuses on the study of human happiness and flourishing rather than maladaptive behavior or disease, has expanded dramatically in terms of scientific publications. It has given rise to many different views on the factors associated with happiness, such as positive social interactions with family and friends, which are the causes of happiness. included six key strengths in these factors:

– Wisdom and knowledge, including creativity, inquisitiveness, love of learning, and open-mindedness.

– Courage, which includes courage, determination, loyalty and vitality.

– Morality, which includes love, kindness, and social intelligence.

– Virtue, which includes leadership, integrity, and justice.

– Temperance, which includes self-control, prudence, forgiveness, humility and modesty.

– Transcendence, including religiosity/spirituality, hope, gratitude, appreciation of beauty and perfection, and humor (philosophical concept indicating that experimental knowledge is fundamentally inaccessible, beyond the limits of sensory experience).

Many authors, including Camus and Tolle, have written that the pursuit of happiness is incompatible with being happy. John Stuart Mill believes that for the vast majority of people, happiness is a matter of chance, something they can achieve. It means a lack of self-awareness, introspection, thinking about imagining or doubting one’s own happiness. Then, under favorable conditions, a person «inhales happiness from the air he breathes and calls it Happiness.» William Inge: «In general, those who have no reason to be happy are the happiest creatures.» Orison Swett Marden said «some people are born happy». Cognitive behavioral therapy is a popular therapeutic method used to change habits by changing thoughts and problem behaviors. It focuses on emotional regulation and uses many positive psychological practices. It is often used for people suffering from depression, anxiety or addiction and works towards a happier life. Common processes in cognitive-behavioral therapy are reframing problematic thought patterns by replacing thoughts with helpful or supportive ones, finding helpful coping skills, and choosing new activities that support desired behaviors and discourage undesired behaviors. Happiness is a topic studied in health psychology, especially positive psychology. Related concepts: eudaimonia, joy, prosperity, quality of life, satisfaction and meaningful life, meaning of life. Central theories include Diener’s three-factor model of subjective well-being, Reiff’s six-factor model of psychological well-being, Corey Case’s work on flourishing, and Seligman’s contributions to positive psychology and his theories of authentic happiness and P.E.R.M.A. In positive psychology, eudaimonia, the «good life» or flourishing, is the most important value in life. What are the biggest contributors to a good life and a fulfilling life? Although positive psychologists do not attempt to provide a precise definition of the good life, they agree that in order to experience the «good life,» a person must live a happy, active, and meaningful life. Martin Seligman calls the «good life» «the daily use of your strengths to achieve true happiness and abundant fulfillment.» In the words of Christopher Peterson, «eudaimonia trumps hedonism.»

Research in positive psychology, subjective well-being, eudaimonia, and happiness, and the theories of Diener, Rieff, Case, and Seligman, cover a wide range of levels and topics, including «biological, personal, relational, institutional, cultural, and global aspects of life.» Pursuit of happiness predicts both positive emotions and depressive symptoms. People who prioritize happiness are more psychologically capable, all else being equal. What is the relationship between life satisfaction, appreciation and happiness?

Mental health is the strongest individual predictor of life satisfaction (life expectancy). Mental disability is associated with deterioration of subjective well-being. In fact, mental health is the strongest predictor of later quality of life (life expectancy). Research has documented a link between anxiety and quality of life. The VOXEU happiness analysis found that the main determinants of adult life satisfaction were income, parenthood, family breakdown, maternal mental health and schooling. Factors explaining life satisfaction are roughly (negatively) related to factors explaining humiliation. They are first diagnosed with depression/anxiety, explaining the variation in subjective well-being between people, such as physical health (number of illnesses), income and having a partner. These factors are twice as important each as whether a person is employed or not a criminal, which in turn is three times as important as the number of years of education. Overall, the best predictor of adult life satisfaction is the emotional health of the mother and child during childhood. This goes beyond factors such as the qualifications a person receives and the behavior of their mother and 16-year-old child. A child’s emotional health, and therefore an adult’s, depends on the mother’s mental health, which is slightly more than twice as important as the family’s income. parental involvement is significant for 2/3 of family income, with a partial correlation coefficient of 0.1 between aggressive parenting (negative), father unemployment (negative), marital conflict (negative), and whether the mother worked in the first year of the study?

However, mother’s subsequent employment has zero association with well-being. Correlation (statistical relationship between two or more random variables (or values that can be considered such with a certain reasonable degree of accuracy), changes in values, one or more of these variables are accompanied by systematic changes in the values of other variables) and affective well-being in terms of effect size main determinants:

Corruption index (-0.54)

Fight against corruption (0.47)

Bureaucratic Quality (0.40)

PPP adjusted GDP per capita (0.39)

Economic freedom (0.35)

Violation of human rights (-0.33)

Political and ethnic violence (-0.28)

Civil liberties (0.28)

Mother and child health (0.27)

Satisfaction with standard of living (0.24)

A significant decline in women’s happiness over the past 33 years has led researchers to conclude that men are happier than women. on the contrary, the survey showed that women are generally more satisfied with their lives than men. other studies have found no gender differences in happiness. Part of these results may be due to the fact that men and women calculate their happiness differently.

Women’s happiness lies in positive self-esteem, closeness in relationships, and faith in religion. Male happiness is positive self-esteem, active leisure time and physical strength. thus, neither men nor women are superior to each other in terms of happiness. at an earlier age, women achieve their goals (material goals and aspirations for family life) more than men, thus increasing their life satisfaction and overall happiness. however, later men achieve their goals, are satisfied with their family life and financial situation, and as a result, their overall happiness exceeds that of women. possible explanations include an unequal division of labor in the household, or that women are more variable in their emotions (more extreme) but generally happier. The effect of gender on well-being is paradoxical: men report feeling happier than women are more likely to be depressed. Siamak Hodarahimi conducted a study to determine the role of gender and age in positive psychological constructs – psychological stability, emotional intelligence, self-efficacy and happiness among 200 Iranian teenagers and 200 young adults who were surveyed using various tests. The study found that men in the sample scored significantly higher on resilience, emotional intelligence, self-efficacy and happiness than women, regardless of age. Happiness is partly genetic. Based on twin studies, 50 percent of a given person’s level of happiness is determined by genetics, 10 percent depends on life circumstances, and the remaining 40 percent of happiness depends on self-control. The question of whether or not emotions are genetically determined was investigated by David Lykken and Auke Tellegen. They found that 80% of the difference in long-term well-being between twins born in Minnesota was due to heredity. The remaining theoretical 20%, environmental/scientific sources still leave room for significant variation in thought and behavior that cannot be ignored, and the interpretation of variance (differences) in twin studies is controversial even among clinical psychologists.

Individual differences in general eudaimonia and aspects of eudaimonia, loosely defined by self-monitoring, are heritable. Evidence from one study supports 5 independent genetic mechanisms underlying the Riffe aspects of this trait, leading to a genetic construct of eudaimonia in terms of general self-control, and four supporting biological mechanisms that provide purpose, agency, growth, and positive psychological empowerment. In general, happiness is mediated, at least in part, by dopaminergic, adrenergic, and serotonergic metabolism. A correlation between hormone levels and happiness has been found. SSRIs (a group of antidepressants), such as Prozac (an antidepressant), are used to correct serotonin levels in clinically depressed individuals. Researchers like Alexander have shown that many people’s drug use may be the result of attempts to regulate hormone levels to cope with situations that make them unhappy. A positive correlation was found between the volume of gray matter in the right precuneus region of the brain and the subject’s subjective rating of happiness.

Neurobiology and visualization have shown growing potential to help science understand happiness and sadness. Although any comprehensive objective measure of happiness is impossible to achieve, some physiological correlates of happiness can be measured. In his book The Science of

Happiness, Stefan Klein links the dynamics of neurobiological systems (eg, dopaminergic, opiate) with concepts and discoveries from positive psychology and social psychology. Nobel laureate Eric Kandel and researcher Cynthia Fu described a highly accurate diagnosis of depression by looking at fMRI brain scans. By identifying the neural correlates of emotions, scientists can use techniques like brain scans to tell us more about the different ways to be «happy.» Richard Davidson conducted research to determine which parts of the brain are involved in positive emotions. he found that the left prefrontal cortex is more active when we are happy and is also associated with an increased ability to recover from negative emotions, as well as an increased ability to suppress negative emotions. Davidson found that people can train themselves to increase activity in this area of the brain. It is believed that our brains can change profoundly throughout our lives as a result of our experiences; this phenomenon is called neuroplasticity. An evolutionary perspective offers an alternative way of understanding happiness and quality of life. What brain functions allow people to distinguish between positive and negative moods? How do these features improve a person’s ability to survive and reproduce? The evolutionary perspective suggests that the answers to these questions may lead to an understanding of what happiness is and how to make better use of the brain capacity that humans have been given. This is the view of evolutionary biologist Bjorn Greene in his book «Darwinian Happiness». Previous research has focused on well-being and development in adults, and although eudaimonia is not a new area of research, little research has been conducted in adolescence and young adulthood. Research in this age group has previously examined negative aspects such as problem and risky behavior (eg, drug and alcohol use) rather than well-being. A 2013 study by researchers acknowledged the lack of adolescence in eudaimonia research and the importance of this developmental period.

Adolescents undergo rapid cognitive, social, and physical changes that make them prime subjects for research in terms of development and well-being. Eudaimonic identity theory has been used in his research to examine personality development through self-awareness and self-actualization. They emphasize the personal value to be found in uncovering and appeasing one’s «daimon» (demons). Researchers focused their research on PYD (positive youth development) and eudaimonic identity theory in the context of three developmental elements: self-determined agency, personal expressiveness, and goal-directed behavior. They found that adolescents choose several self-defining activities; These activities help shape identity because people choose activities that reflect who they are. These self-defining activities also help define the adolescent’s social environment. For example, a teenager who plays sports may surround himself with like-minded people who are active and competitive. Personal expressiveness, as defined by psychologist AC Waterman, is the activity we choose to express through subjective experience and communicate with our «daemon.» Finally, goal-directed behavior develops through goal-setting as people work to define their identity. Adolescents recognize their passions, talents and abilities and strive to achieve their goals. They act in a way that satisfies their true nature. A study of adolescents was conducted in Italy, Chile, and the United States, and the results were somewhat different. Results depended on availability and choice of features (activities). The results were also affected by the socio-economic context, as not all individuals were able to access activities that were more in line with their true selves. The Personal Expressive Activity Questionnaire (PEAQ) was used to conduct the study. Adolescence was the youngest age group in which the PEAQ was used. The PEAQ asked adolescents to self-report the activities they participate in and to describe themselves using self-identified activities. 80% of teenagers reported that they define themselves by two to four self-defining activities, which are leisure time, work and study, and fun. Leisure activities were found to have the greatest impact on individuals because these activities were the most self-directed of the three domains, as adolescents had the opportunity to choose activities and were more likely to identify with their true selves. The study found that subjective experience was more important than the activities themselves and that adolescents reported higher levels of subjective well-being (happiness). They reported that when adolescents express themselves in multiple domains through self-directed activities, they have a clearer sense of who they are, what they want to achieve, and a sense of well-being. Goal setting was found to be a unique predictor; When adolescents work toward and achieve their goals, they have a stronger emerging sense of identity and better well-being. Researchers have found that teens who participate in activities of their choice are happier because those activities are chosen to fit their true selves.

A midlife crisis can mark the first significant decline in happiness in the average person’s life. The evidence suggests that most people become unhappy as they get older, except in their 40s and 50s, which is the typical age at which a crisis can occur. Scientists believe that for people between the ages of 20 and 70, it is the most important time for happiness. For example, feelings of stress and anger decrease after age 20, anxiety decreases after age 50, and pleasure declines very slowly in adulthood but begins to increase after age 50.

Well-being in old age may depend on other contextual factors, including proximity to death. However, most of this terminal decline in well-being is functionally age-related declines may be related to other changes, including physical health and function. In addition, single population-based estimates of age-related changes in well-being truly reflect the lived experiences of older adults. It has allowed researchers to identify homogeneous groups of individuals who are more similar to each other than a population in terms of their level and changes in well-being, and has shown that most of them eventually report stable well-being. The studies also controlled for income, employment status, and parenthood (versus childlessness) to try to isolate the effect of age. Researchers support the idea that age-related changes affect happiness. This can be due to various reasons. The ability to manage and anticipate desires – even if unrealistic expectations contribute to happiness; approaching death can motivate people to achieve personal goals; social skills like forgiveness can take years to develop – practicing forgiveness seems to be associated with higher levels of happiness; or happy people can live longer. Age-related chemical changes may also play a role. Other studies have shown that older adults have more health problems but fewer problems overall. youth reported more anger, anxiety, depression, financial problems, problematic relationships, and career stress. and researchers say that depression in older adults is often related to inactivity – suggesting that people continue to do activities that bring them happiness even in old age. The activity restriction model of depressive affect suggests that stressors that disrupt traditional daily activities can lead to poorer mental health. Elderly people are limited or vulnerable to activities due to age or disability factors. Increasing planned activity as well as social support may reduce the likelihood of activity limitation. due to depression and fatigue, Case studies have shown that depression, experienced by 14% of adults each year, has serious costs: it impairs social roles; it costs billions of dollars in absenteeism, lost productivity, and health care costs each year; Finally, depression accounts for at least one-third of suicides. Therefore, it is important to study prosperity to see what can be achieved by addressing issues such as depression and how the consequences of focusing on the positive can improve the lives of not only one person, but those around them. There are important positive aspects to flourishing, Case explains, which are better compared to depressed adults, and depressed adults are better than depressed adults. For example, lethargic (characterized by sluggishness and tiredness) adults have the same chronic illnesses as depressed adults, while thriving adults are in particularly good physical health. Lazy adults don’t spend as many workdays as depressed adults, and actually visit doctors and therapists more often than depressed adults. A strengths-based approach to positive personality change aims to ensure that clinical psychology gives equal weight to positive and negative functioning when attempting to understand and treat distress. This rationale is based on empirical data. Because positive characteristics interact with negative life events to predict disorder, examining negative life events alone may yield misleading results. Thus, psychologists try to use positive psychology to treat patients. Amy Krenzman, among others, has discussed positive interventions as a way to treat patients. He defined a positive intervention as a therapy or activity that focuses primarily on increasing positive feelings, positive behaviors, or positive cognitions rather than focusing on negative thoughts or dysfunctional behaviors. One way to use positive intervention as a clinical treatment is to use positive activity interventions. Positive activity interventions, or PAIs, are brief, self-paced exercises that promote positive feelings, thoughts, and behaviors. «Three good things» requires the patient to document three good events and the corresponding reason or reasons every day for a week (this exercise can be modified by counterfactual thinking, i.e., if they are bad, by turning the thought to the positive). «The Best Future is Mine» forces the patient to «think about his future life and imagine that everything went as well as possible. They worked hard and achieved all their goals in life. This is everything in life think of it as making your dreams come true.» Then the patient is asked to write down what he imagines. These positive interventions reduce depression, and interventions that focus on strong and positive emotions may actually be as effective in treating brain disorders as other commonly used approaches, such as cognitive behavioral therapy. Furthermore, according to a meta-analysis of 60 studies (49), the observed effect may not be due to publication bias. Research has shown that writing thank-you notes, thinking optimistically, recalling positive life experiences, and interacting with people are all important. Additionally, a recent meta-analysis (39 studies, 6 participants, 139) found a standardized mean difference of 20.12 for subjective well-being, 34.0 for psychological well-being, and 20.0 for depression.

The effects on subjective well-being and psychological well-being were still significant three to six months after the intervention, so the effects appear to be quite robust. However, in high-quality studies, the positive effect was still weak, although positive, so the authors felt that more high-quality studies were needed to strengthen the evidence. They are the meta-analysis mentioned above assured that he did not pay enough attention to the quality of research. Positive result include prayers, good practices, setting personal goals, and expressing gratitude. interventions called gratitude journaling and the three good things work through gratitude. there is evidence that when keeping a gratitude journal, it is more effective to focus on quality rather than quantity, people rather than possessions. There is also evidence that the effectiveness of gratitude journaling diminishes if done more than once or twice a week. Gratitude journaling is effective in reducing negative emotions in general, suggesting that not only gratitude but also the act of journaling is involved in this therapeutic effect. Positive psychology attempts to inform clinical psychology about the potential for broadening its perspective and the benefits of these opportunities. Post-traumatic growth (PTS) is a potential post-traumatic outcome in addition to post-traumatic stress (PTSD). «It’s normal to experience symptoms of depression and anxiety» after a traumatic event such as rape, incest, cancer, assault or a fight. however, a person exhibiting ptg experiences these negative effects for some time and then shows an improvement in well-being that is greater than before the injury. The founder of positive psychology, Martin Seligman, emphasizes that «achieving a higher level of psychological functioning than before» is the main point in PTG. instead, if the person experiences a depressive episode but recovers from the event and returns to a normal level of psychological functioning. this suggests that in ptg trauma acts as a turning point for a person to achieve greater well-being. Seligman acknowledges that «trauma is often the foundation for growth,» and with the right tools, people can make the most of it. When thinking about traumatic growth, Seligman suggests using the following five elements to facilitate PTG: understanding the trauma response, reducing anxiety, using constructive anger, creating a narrative about the trauma, and articulating life attitudes and perspectives. A person experiencing PTSD achieves elements of Seligman’s theory of the «good life,» including a meaningful and purposeful appreciation of life, enhanced positive relationships, achievement, and optimistic and open-minded thinking consistent with expansion and construction theory. The PTG phenomenon is related to many disciplines. This design is important not only for soldiers, first responders, and people who have experienced traumatic events, but also for ordinary citizens who face common challenges. One way to acquaint citizens with stories about PTG is constructive journalism. Constructive journalism, as defined by a graduate student at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill, «is a new style and function of journalism that uses positive psychology techniques to manage news with the goal of engaging readers by creating productive news while remaining relevant.» Kathryn Gildenstedt, a seasoned reporter with a master’s degree in applied positive psychology and co-author of two books, has shown that typical news stories associated with negative valence are detrimental to mood. Using PTG to focus on victims’ strengths and examples of overcoming adversity encourages readers to incorporate similar ideals into their own lives. «Thus, the goal of positive psychology in well-being theory is to measure and construct human flourishing.» Integrating positive psychology constructs such as PTG, PERMA, and «expand and build» with journalism has the potential to improve impact and inspire people to embrace the benefits of positive psychology. PERMA not only plays an important role in our personal lives, but can also be used for public news. With this model, journalists can focus on the positive aspects of a story and how conflict or even tragedy can bring people together, how someone experiences growth after a trauma, and so on. can ask questions.Then news events shift the perspective from victimization to empowerment. Positive psychology is slowly but surely creeping into news reporting through constructive journalism. PERMA helps journalists ask the right questions to continue this progress, highlighting a potentially negative story with positive solutions. Affect is the ratio of positive and negative affect. In 2005, Fredrickson and Losada hypothesized that the ratio of positive to negative affect, known as the critical positivity ratio, can distinguish those who thrive from those who do not. Nostalgia was characterized by a positive affect to negative affect ratio of 2.5. Optimum functioning or prosperity is said to occur in a ratio of 4.3. Flowering is the point at which lethargy gives way. It is called the Losada line and is located at a positive coefficient of 2.9. Individuals with higher scores are said to have a broader behavioral repertoire, greater resilience and resilience to adversity, more social resources, and optimal functioning in many areas of their lives. The model also predicted that there would be an upper limit of happiness achieved at a positivity level of 11.5. At this limit, Fredrickson and Losada argue, prosperity begins to disintegrate and productivity and creativity begin to decline. They suggested that as positivity increases, the «corresponding negativity» should also increase. This has been described as time-limited, actionable feedback based on specific circumstances, ie. constructive criticism. This positivity coefficient theory was widely accepted until 2013, when applied positive psychology graduate student Nick Brown, along with Alan Sokal and Harris Friedman, wrote a paper showing that the mathematical basis of the work was flawed. Fredrickson partially retracted the paper, agreeing that the math could be wrong, but that the empirical evidence was still valid. Brown and his colleagues argue that there is no evidence of a critical positivity rate. Most psychologists focus on the most basic human emotions. There are believed to be between seven and fifteen basic emotions. Emotions can be combined in different ways to create more subtle variations of emotional experience. This suggests that any attempt to completely eliminate negative emotions from our lives has the unintended consequence of losing the variety and subtlety of our deepest emotional experiences. An attempt to increase positive emotions does not automatically lead to a decrease in negative emotions, and a decrease in negative emotions does not necessarily lead to an increase in positive emotions. Described emotional responses as primary affects, primitive emotional reactions that are constantly experienced but often unacknowledged; They mix positive and negative, as well as activated and deactivated dimensions, which we carry with us on an unconscious level. Although a 2012 study found that people who experienced both positive and negative emotions experienced higher levels of well-being, evidence suggests that negative emotions can be destructive. Barbara Fredrickson et al suggested in an article titled «The Cancellation Effect of Positive Emotions» that positive emotions counteract the negative effects of negative emotions on the cardiovascular system. When people are stressed, they experience increased heart rate, increased blood sugar, decreased immunity, and other adaptations optimized for immediate action. If unregulated, prolonged physiological activation can lead to morbidity, coronary heart disease, and increased mortality. Laboratory and sociological studies confirm that positive emotions help stressed individuals to return to a suitable, healthy physiological base. Other studies show that improving mood is one of the various benefits of exercise. Behavior repertoire. positive emotion theory suggests that positive emotions (eg, happiness, interest, joy) expand the mind and stimulate new, diverse, and exploratory thoughts and actions. over time, this expanded behavioral repertoire develops skills and resources. For example, interest in scenery becomes valuable navigational knowledge; a pleasant relationship with a stranger turns into a supportive friendship; aimless physical play turns into exercise and physical perfection. positive emotions are contrasted with negative emotions, encouraging pro-life behaviors. a positive moral emotion produced by observing good acts of admirable moral goodness and leading to the desire to act morally and to do «good». As an emotion, it has a biological basis and is sometimes accompanied by a feeling of expansion in the chest. There are elements that make life better, there are other elements that make life worse. But when you put them aside, what you gather is not neutral: it is actually positive. This measure of well-being has been proposed as an empirically validated extension of the dichotomy of hedonic and eudaimonic well-being (separately divided into two parts that are more intrinsically related than each other). While hedonic well-being is measured by life satisfaction and eudaimonic well-being by the perception of meaning in one’s life, psychological well-being is measured by life experiences. Psychological richness is cultivated through psychologically rich experiences that are characterized as diverse, interesting, innovative, challenging, and perspective-changing. One piece of evidence for this comes from research with college students, in which students who took trips, whether short field trips or semester-long study abroad programs, reported increased psychological well-being or meaning in life. Unlike hedonic well-being, which leads to personal satisfaction, and eudaimonic well-being, which is believed to contribute to society, psychological wealth is believed to lead to wisdom. The term «flourishing» in positive psychology refers to optimal human functioning. It has four parts: kindness, generativity, growth (development) and stability. Virtue consists of: happiness, contentment and efficient work; Generativity aims to improve the lives of future generations and is defined by «an expanded repertoire of thoughts and actions and behavioral flexibility»; growth involves the use of personal and social assets; and resilience refers to survival and growth after overcoming adversity. A prosperous life comes from mastering all four of these parts. two opposing ideologies: burnout and psychopathology.

On the mental health continuum, they are considered intermediate mental disorders that reflect an unfulfilling and meaningless life. Fatigued people experience emotional pain, psychosocial disruptions, limitations in normal activities, and missed work days.

About 6 percent of Americans live affluent lives. The benefits of an enriched life stem from research on the effects of experiencing a high ratio of positive to negative affect. Researched benefits of positive affect include increased responsiveness, an «expanded behavioral repertoire,» heightened instincts, and heightened perception and imagination. In addition, the positive feelings associated with prosperity lead to improved immune system function, cardiovascular recovery, and reduced effects of negative affect and frontal brain asymmetry. Other benefits for people with moderate or moderate levels of mental health include: stronger psychological and social performance, higher endurance, better cardiovascular health, and an overall healthier lifestyle. The benefits found in thriving offer the following definition: “ [thriving] people experience high levels of emotional, psychological, and social well-being through energy and vitality, self-determination, continuous self-development, close relationships, and meaningful and purposeful living. Psychologists Peter Hills and Michael Argyle developed the Oxford Happiness Inventory as a broad measure of psychological well-being. This approach has been criticized for lacking a theoretical model of happiness and for being overly aligned with related concepts such as self-esteem, sense of purpose, social interest, kindness, sense of humor, and aesthetic appreciation. «Happiness» includes various emotional and mental phenomena. Scientists use beeps to remind volunteers to record details of their current state. In addition, volunteers fill out detailed diary entries each morning the day before. The discrepancy arises when researchers compare the results of these short-term «experiment selection» methods with long-term assessments. in particular, the latter may not be very accurate; people may not know what they enjoy in life at any given moment. for example, parents’ ratings refer to their children as a source of pleasure, while the «experience pattern» indicates that parents do not enjoy caring for their children compared to other activities. Psychologist Daniel Kahneman explains this discrepancy by distinguishing: When we are asked to think about an experience, memory biases such as the Peak-End effect play a large role (for example, we often remember the impressive moments of a vacation and how it ended).

A surprising conclusion was made in the study of colonoscopy patients. By adding 60 seconds to this invasive procedure, Kahneman found that participants found the colonoscopy more enjoyable. This was due to the fact that the colonoscopy device did not move for an additional 60 seconds – movement being the source of the greatest discomfort. Thus, Kahneman appealed to the tendency of the memory person to focus on the end of the experience. Such findings help explain the human error in affective forecasting – people’s ability to predict future emotional states.

The Memorizing Self is not a source of pleasure for the Worrying Self. (colonoscopy)

People have different abilities. it involves emotional hedonic adaptability, the idea that beauty, fame, and money have no lasting effect on happiness (this effect is also known as the hedonic treadmill). in this regard, some studies have shown that only recent events, that is, events that happened within the last 3 months, affect the level of happiness. the tendency to adapt and thus return to previous levels of happiness is demonstrated by research showing that lottery winners are no longer happy many years after winning. other studies have shown that paraplegics are just as happy as healthy athletes years later. Daniel Kahneman explains: «They are not completely paralyzed… It is due to the separation of attention.» So, contrary to our preconceived notions, the lottery and paraplegia do not alter experience as much as we would like. However, in a recent study (2007), winning the average lottery had a lasting effect of 1.4 GHQ points on British mental health two years after the event. Moreover, adaptation can be a very slow and incomplete process. Disturbing life changes, such as the death of a spouse or the loss of a job, can show measurable changes in happiness within a few years. Even the aforementioned «adapted» paraplegics reported low levels of pleasure (not yet fully adapted). Thus, adaptation is a complex process, and although it can alleviate the emotional consequences of many life events, it cannot completely alleviate them. The idea behind a happy set point is that most people return to an average level or set point of happiness after temporary emotional ups and downs. People with high positive emotionality tend to be cheerful, while people with negative emotionality tend to be pessimistic. Lykken discovered that we can influence our level of well-being by creating an environment conducive to feelings of happiness and working with our genetic makeup. One reason why subjective well-being is stable is because of the strong influence of genetics. Although life events have some effect on subjective well-being, the general population returns to baseline. Lyubomirsky’s analysis of the sources of happiness in the book «How to achieve happiness». It makes no sense to blame one ingredient in one person’s recipe for happiness (because everything is needed). However, when comparing the happiness of two people, ingredients like genetics can account for up to half of the difference. Sonya Lyubomirsky in her book «How to be happy» also proved that people’s happiness depends on their genetic structure. However, Diener cautions that saying that «genetics accounts for 30—50% of happiness» is nonsense. Diener explains that the recipe for human happiness always includes genetics (seed), environment (external environment), and behavior (internal environment), so it doesn’t make sense to say that a person’s happiness depends on just one ingredient. Differences in happiness can only be attributed to differences in factors. In other words, Lyubomirsky’s research does not discuss happiness in a single person; It discusses differences in happiness between two or more people. In particular, Lyubomirsky suggests that 30—40% of the variance in happiness is due to genetics (ie heredity). In other words, Diener says it doesn’t make sense to say that one person’s happiness is «50% genetics,» but it makes sense to say that the difference in one person’s happiness is 50% due to differences in their lives. Genetics dominates (and the rest depends on behavior and environment). Findings from twin studies support the above findings. Twins raised apart had nearly identical levels of happiness, suggesting that environment is not entirely responsible for differences in people’s happiness. It is important to note that a person’s basic happiness is not entirely determined by genetics, or even by influencing a person’s genetics early in life. Whether a person can raise their baseline to the height of their genetic potential depends in part on several factors, including activities and habits. Some of the habits that increase happiness include gratitude, contentment, and even altruistic behavior (which conceptualizes action as involving selfless concern for the welfare of others, altruism – a concept associated with the concept of sacrificing one’s own good for the good of others, for the common good). Other research-based habits and techniques for increasing happiness are discussed on this page. In addition to developing new habits, using antidepressants, exercising effectively, and eating right can make a big difference to your mood. There is evidence that a vegetarian diet can reduce stress and anxiety. Exercise is sometimes referred to as a «miracle» drug, alluding to the wide range of proven benefits it provides. A recent book, Anatomy of an Epidemic, highlights issues related to the non-conservative use of psychiatric medications, particularly their long-term beneficial effects. Yongei Mingyur Rinpoche said neuroscientists have found that meditation can change a person’s baseline level of happiness, and meditation has been found to increase happiness in several studies. A study of Brahma Kumaris Raja Yoga meditators found that they were happier (Oxford Happiness Inventory) than a control group. Recent large panel studies have shown that divorce, death of a spouse, unemployment, disability, and similar events alter long-term subjective well-being, although some adjustment occurs and confounding factors influence. Fujita and Diener found that 24% of people changed significantly between the first five years of the study and the last five years. Almost every fourth person showed a change in well-being over the years; Indeed, sometimes these changes were quite dramatic.

Bruce Heady found that 5—6% of people experienced a dramatic increase in life satisfaction within 15—20 years and that the goals people set had a significant impact on their life satisfaction. The easiest and best way to increase happiness is to increase the balance of positive and negative emotions. contrary to some beliefs, in many scenarios people only want to increase their positive emotions, day cannot be without night.

Many methods have been developed to help increase happiness. the first method is known as the sustainable happiness model (shm). this model suggests that long-term happiness is determined by: (1) genetically determined attitudes, (2) circumstantial factors, and (3) intentional actions. Lyubomirsky, Sheldon, and Schkade recommend making these changes the right way for long-term happiness. Another suggestion for increasing happiness is a procedure called Hope Training. Hope exercises primarily focus on hope because of the belief that it produces positive emotions of well-being. This training is based on the theory of hope, which states that when people set goals that can increase their well-being and believe that they can achieve those goals. One of the main goals of teaching hope is to rid people of false hope syndrome. The syndrome of false hope, in particular, occurs when a person believes that changing his behavior is easy and that the results of the changes will be evident in a short time. There are positive psychology-based coaching processes backed by scientific research, and there are intervention tools and assessments that coaches trained in positive psychology can use in the coaching process. Positive psychology coaching uses scientific evidence and insights from these fields to work with clients toward their goals. Philip Zimbardo says that happiness can be analyzed «in terms of time.» He suggested sorting the foci of people’s lives by valence (positive or negative) and time perspective (past, present, or future orientation). This allows the individual to identify some personal conflict with why they choose to take risks and further delay gratification rather than enjoying the activity.

Zimbardo also believes that research shows an optimal balance of prospects for a happylife; Explanation: We should place a high value on the amount of time spent experiencing positive aspects of our past, then on believing in a positive future, and finally on a moderate (but not excessive) amount of time spent enjoying the present. In the 1970s,

Csikszentmihalyi began to study flow, a state of absorption in which human abilities are well suited to contemporary demands. flow is characterized by intense concentration, loss of self-awareness, a sense of difficulty, and a sense of «rocket time.» flow is inherently beneficial; it can also help you achieve goals (eg win a game) or improve your skills (eg become a better chess player). anyone can experience flow in a variety of areas such as play, creativity and work. Inadequacy of the task for a person with low skills leads to a state of anxiety; For a highly skilled person, insufficient testing leads to boredom.

Difficulty means that the flow is often temporarily disturbed by the influence of conditions and causes different types of stress, but this is considered stress, which is also called «good» stress. Stress may be more harmful than chronic stress, but the pathways of stress-related systems are similar. both can create a «wear» effect; however, the various physiological elements and additional psychological benefits of stress can offset any wear and tear.

Csikszentmihalyi identified nine indicative elements of flow:

– Each step has clear goals

– Immediate feedback guides one’s actions

– There is a balance between challenges and benefits

– Action and consciousness become one

– Thoughts are removed from the mind, so it is necessary to write without lips

– Failure (accident) is not scary

– Self-awareness

– Sense of time

– Activity «self-goal, life made for its own sake.»

Studies indicate more flow during work and more happiness during leisure time.

PRACTICAL HAPPINESS

In your life, you may have asked yourself the following questions: «What is happiness?» l and «What is the essence of happiness?» It’s like an invisible ghost that we are so eager to catch, that we want to possess, but at that moment we clearly understand (when we caught it) that happiness is meaningless («This is all that comes next, where is the continuation, and for this I tried, again we need to look for what something else?!», «I lost myself again»). Even when a person is chasing happiness, he does not fully understand, clearly and clearly, what happiness is for him. Dreams and tasks, words and actions. The cherished goal is to be happy. What is the joy of true happiness? How to be happy? The head of the genius and scientist was frozen for many centuries. According to many people, real happiness is realizing your dreams in real life (and I don’t understand where else you can realize your dreams, in the world of fantasy). Is this so? What is happiness? According to the ancient Greek philosopher Aristotle, happiness is the soul living in moral people. In Aristotle’s time, a merciful soul was considered the owner of true happiness. How is the word «Happiness» interpreted today? In many psychology textbooks, the term «happiness» is interpreted as the psychological state of a person who feels completely satisfied with his life.

We should not forget that people will never be able to experience the joy of complete happiness in this life. This is the law of the Creator. A person is always missing something. Happiness is something that does not exist now; if it does exist, we will want even more of this happiness. And those who consider themselves happy also do not have happiness, it is simply the belief that it exists. What do people desperately want now? Realization and Actualization, places in life, meaning in life.

THE INVISIBLE GHOST

Happiness is a dream. However, there is an inexplicable problem: how do dreams and desires come true, and then happiness disappears without a trace?! At the time when your dream comes true, the concept of happiness will remain in your heart for a certain time, but in the light of the white morning, the balloon of this powerful concept of happiness will shrink, and every day the balloon will shrink faster until it bursts. But in fact, a person performs certain actions and brings joy to his peasant farm in which he participates. But no matter what innovations and technologies are created in this life, all this cannot make a person happy forever (in this life). Everyone has their own definition of happiness. Happiness for most people is basically:

– Health

– Family and love

– Self improvement

– Money and property

Although there are other prerequisites for defining happiness, the main meaning is explained in the next point – each person’s own happiness. So, if a child and a family are happiness for you, then you will do everything to start a family and have children. And if happiness for you is self-realization, then you will have to work hard to find the flavor of life for you by focusing on your goals and interests. A wide range of financial opportunities, money and property, there is well-being, but all this is external happiness. However, if you have achieved something externally, you will probably be glad that you will never lose this joy. But you must know that even joy does not allow you to be completely happy throughout your life. Sooner or later you may forget where you left your outer joy, and you will have to find it, otherwise you will feel bad, and if you don’t find it, then you will need to look for other sources of joy. But these sources may be limited.

There is a group of people who measure the path of happiness by the growth of the world and the peak of spiritual maturity. Such people will study a lot, prepare in all aspects of practice and want to improve their spiritual world every time. According to the above, there are two ways to achieve happiness. External form of happiness. In this report, a person’s happiness is the external world. He always tries to have a good family, a good friend, and a wide range of financial opportunities. The same person, in turn, considers himself truly happy, but not for long. This is an example of a small child who bought and gave a new toy. At first he was happy about the toy and was lucky to have it. But after a while he forgets about it and wants a new toy. Giving happiness for a short time… Internal type of happiness. Growing up inside. In this selection, a person can grow spiritually, work to increase the maturity of his personality and feel happy more consistently. Most people agree with the idea that owning or mastering a new substance is a feeling of happiness that doesn’t last long. And it will be forgotten very quickly. But there is one big but, the internal type of happiness does not help us to be happy in the present, because everything that is in the outside world will irritate us psychologically, especially since in this state we cannot completely give up money and property, friends and relatives, completely renouncing the outside world. This means that both external and internal types of happiness do not always guarantee a happy life. Let’s ask a natural question: «What do we need to do?» Do we really go through life in this long search for happiness? Let’s stop there and return to the concept of happiness. What do people really want when they think about happiness? The secret of artificial happiness for humans. Happiness is a personal matter for everyone. Regardless of what a person does or does not want to do, he can think and come up with artificial happiness for himself, this already depends on your creativity. At the same time, happiness itself also depends on environmental conditions.

And if one of these environmental conditions does not suit us the way we want, then it will be difficult. The more we want to achieve happiness, the more difficult it will be for us to become or it will be more correct that the more we think about happiness, the longer we will think about our unhappiness. Happiness is not something we really want, it’s something we really need. So what do we need? Work, home, car, travel… The answer is very simple – we need to find something that will give us confidence in the future, give us an explanation of what is happening in ourselves, and attract cohesion. If we learn to understand ourselves, feel and live with today, here, now… We need to study ourselves right here and now. We need to study who we really are, what our place in this world is, what our purpose in life is and why we came to this planet. By living Intuitively, we will eventually be able to find the happiness that we have. And this happiness is established without any connection with external conditions. Happiness will always be with us, and we will live in a state where we can feel its full power. As children, we were happy without the word happiness. We were very happy as children (without explanation). We were happy with life and nature, and we were happy to be surrounded. Then, as we grew older and began to study and work, we entered the world of unhappy adults, consisting of responsibilities and obligations. Like white snow, we rushed to the same place every time, and every time we melted in the warm wind. A. adults had to do as much as possible to survive. According to the well-known principle: «Plant trees, build houses and raise children.» Adults will be preoccupied with rivalry and competition over property and money: buying a car, building a career, becoming rich, etc.

We do not notice the beauty of the world that surrounds us in the struggle under the sun, we ignore people, we forget the voices of birds, in other words, we miss many moments in our beautiful life, without seeing many moments. The joys of the moment often make us truly happy. Time moves forward without stopping and the language of the clock always moves forward, relatives and friends pass by without even hearing how close and dear they are to us, children grow up without attention and without the necessary parental care, without parental education, without the warmth of relatives…

Remember: there is always something that others like you lack for complete happiness. Negative information about disasters, wars, murders on the pages of newspapers and television screens will complicate life. If you hear and see this news, everyone will be angry, and as a result, they will be able to imagine their lives in dark gray shadows. At this moment, negative consequences arise in our lives, many types of diseases and ailments of the soul appear. Life is a common problem and well-being gives us the comfort of life. How to correct this situation, how to establish happiness inside the home? It may seem unthinkable, but everyone should do it. Many authors of books on psychology and esotericism often draw people’s attention to the very ancient reality «Man is the Creator of his life.» The truth is that we ourselves are to blame for our mental troubles. «Anger, disunity, a sense of sin and negative emotions lead to illness and mental illness» (Louise Hay). This quote explains that according to the destructive thought system, every type of mental illness is created from one specific bad thought or negative emotion that programs our blind feelings to negative scenario of our own life. The thought system as an example consists of awakening flowers (positive, positive thoughts and emotions) and weeds (negative, unnecessary thoughts and emotions). Since we consider ourselves the Creator (creator) of our own lives, then perhaps we need to come up with a good idea instead of a negative one? Listen to the wit (doesn’t help), watch some great humor or watch some comedy show? (won’t help) What should you never do? You cannot be separated from loved ones. Remember, they also need your attention, they need to see your love and care. Share your joy with them or just share your problems. Believe me, after this you will feel better. If at this very moment you have no one, don’t mourn. You can get yourself a cat or a dog (the moment you see their attempt at life, all your grief will be forgotten). Believe me, they fill your free time in paint. Appreciate every moment of your life, it’s not a problem. Look out the window and see the beauty of the world around you! The bright blue summer sky, the creaking of leaves, the ashes of rivers and lakes, raindrops, white snow – this luxury is truly a cure for depression and stress in our country. You can take advantage of any moment and feel like a happy person.

LIFESTYLE

Scientists at Harvard University shared the results of a large study that lasted about 85 years. His main goal is to find out what kind of lifestyle happy people will lead throughout their lives. The study consisted of several studies: he studied 268 people who graduated from Harvard between 1939 and 1944. Participants in the study regularly filled out a questionnaire and provided information about their health. In the later stages of life, all participants are divided into two groups: happy and unhappy. Scientists have observed 7 different characteristics of people who feel happy and healthy in old age. Research has shown that these daily habits lead to a happier and better life:

– No smoking;

– Don’t drink;

– Keep weight in shape;

– Time for daily exercise;

– Openness to new knowledge. «Invest in knowledge and new experiences throughout your life,» say scientists.

– Adopt an adaptive problem-solving style. This means finding and applying the right conflict resolution techniques.

– Maintaining stable, long-term relationships of friendship and love.

«It is possible to grow old and be happy and healthy. We can control our weight, physical activity, education, tobacco and alcohol, and everything related to our health and intelligence (psychological and somatic).»

There will be moments in every person’s life when he realizes that something needs to be changed once or even more than once. However, we may be terrified of the possibility that change will make our lives even worse. A perfect understanding of what is wrong in your life is the best motivation (stimulation) in order to change something for the better. For two reasons that prevent you from being successful and happy, haste and not knowing your true nature. He belongs. From the constant rush to the same place and the daily bustle, do not forget about the really important things. Think positively and constantly control your thoughts. The rush starts in our minds. When thought (inner word), outer word and action come together, a result arises – consequences. This may be an agreement with oneself or a complete internal confrontation. So learn to think positively, correctly. Happiness is not a finish line, because there is no finish line, the distance is endless. This is distance, and there is happiness. Sometimes it can be a very difficult but very interesting race. Don’t be afraid to do good. Perhaps you noticed that the rule «Love the Middle Like Himself» is strictly observed. If you think about something good and do it, you get something good in return. When a person makes something in favor of his inner world, suddenly useful books, interesting people appear, and it seems that the whole world helps you. Live from now. Learn to enjoy this moment. Do not think only about the future: «I will be happy when I become a mom,» «I will be happy if I bother it» and «I will be happy when I have a lot of money.» It doesn’t matter, happiness is a process, and not the result. Rejoice in positive things in your daily life, even if they are insignificant. Get rid of garbage in time. «Filter» received information, put it in the presence of negative information from the environment, which absorbs everything. Stop interfering in the affairs of people who bring negative into your life. Instead, chat more with people who give you energy, benefit and try to do what you really like. Do not leave your dreams for tomorrow. You refuse a business that brings you joy, but does not bring money. All people need a share of joy, and material things do not always bring joy. So do not be afraid to dream, take the time to engage in more responsible things, instead of the empty time of time on cases that only false short-term feeling of joy. Find a mentor. Mentor is the one who will motivate you. It can be a psychologist, coach, etc. He should always be ready to help and give advice. For example, yoga, deal with meditation. Eastern experience will help you listen to yourself. With it, you can find the internal balance and understand what happiness is for you. And gradually you will become for yourself to teachers. Happiness is a moment. We call moments of happiness, fun and pride. Let’s determine together at what point a person’s mood improves and its types. Pride. When we complete a difficult task or help someone, our chest fills with pride. Man works tirelessly to achieve pride. On the way, he may be nervous and experience various difficulties. But the end result makes you forget about all this in an instant. Close relationships with others. A psychiatrist and professor at Harvard Medical School conducted a study and stated that relationships play an important role in our lives. «A good relationship with the environment affects our health. Of course, a person must take care of his body. But being in control of relationships is also taking care of yourself.» At the TED conference, he stated that a person who is able to build close relationships with family, friends and community is much happier. Satisfaction. It is also important to be able to show respect and gratitude for your day. But being happy with everything does not mean giving up something else. It’s about being grateful for what you have now and having faith in the future. Satisfaction brings inner comfort and positivity. Therefore, it will be much easier to move forward. Have fun. Being an adult is not only about working and solving family problems. If we have free time, we can be found in front of the TV or in front of the computer. But having fun means relaxing in nature, going to dance parties, visiting people. It gives joy to life and helps to interact with other people. Plus, having fun gives you motivation for the next day. Gratitude. English writer and philosopher Gilbert Keith Chesterton said: «I believe that gratitude is the most important expression of human thinking. Gratitude is double happiness.» Gratitude is an accessible and simple way to increase your happiness. We like to see the failures in our lives as a result of the various circumstances surrounding us by people or fate, but we decide happy or unhappy our personal life, making a daily choice. If you want to achieve more in life and change it, what choice do you need to do? We read another motivational article or a book and begin to talk about how perfectly to improve, reach new vertices or climb the career ladder. Unfortunately, in most cases everything remains only a story, only a few follow the read and try to change themselves for the better. Try to take care of yourself, forget about Lena and do something good every day. Find a hobby that gives you real joy, and communicate with a lot of people. Choose a good attitude towards people. On our life path we meet different people. Someone helps us believe in your hand, someone teaches something new, someone can support in a difficult moment, and someone does not see and wound. No matter how angry at someone, do not answer evil on evil. Even if you lie, and you choose the truth. Play according to the rules, even if you are trying to deceive. Do not gossip about someone, even if he gossip about you. Always remember that you are kind. Believe that good wins evil. As a result, you will be happier than a person trying to hurt you. Because there is nothing better than good sleep and clean conscience. Choose life without bad habits. To get rid of bad habits that make harm to your health and life in general, you must first make a clear decision to abandon them. Start today, not tomorrow, on Monday or after the New Year. Take yourself in hand and tell me: «From today, I will not smoke / drink alcohol / right to eat / sleep well at night.» Do not try to get rid of all bad habits right away. Start with one. Do you want to lose weight? Go to the gym. Do you have a stomach hurt? Start with proper nutrition. Do you have debts? Start gradually postpone the money to get rid of all debts. Later, everything begins to change gradually. Choose compactness in your work. If you think that you will be tired at work only because of the large number of tasks, you are mistaken. You may not be able to organize your workflow correctly. Sit down and analyze to understand what you’re doing wrong: How much time are you spending on tasks that need to be done? If you want to organize your work effectively, make a list of tasks that you need to complete that day every morning. Paint the essential ones one color and the non-urgent ones another. You will realize that if you learn to use your work time correctly and not waste time on unnecessary things, you will have some free time. Then you leave work on time, don’t bring home unfinished tasks, have time for hobbies and spend more time with relatives or friends. Choose the right attitude towards work. If you look at work only as a means of earning money, you are making a big mistake. Think about it this way: no matter where you work or what you do, your job is to provide value to other people. If you go out of your way to help those around you, you will enjoy your responsibilities. Choose a balance between spiritual, emotional and physical health. A happy life is based on spiritual, emotional and physical health. You can enjoy every day only when these three components are in balance. Therefore, try to develop spiritually, but do not forget to devote time to physical preparation and emotional well-being. Choose more time for your loved ones. Family is the most important thing in every person’s life. A career cannot give you the warmth that your loved ones can give you. So try to spend more time with them. Visit your parents’ house more often, have dinner with your parents and children, and hang out with friends in your free time. They will give you wonderful moments that will make your life happy. You will never regret this choice.

FIFTEEN ENEMIES

Fifteen enemies sometimes seem to be in life not enough to be happy. We feel happy if we have a house, a car, a diploma, or better work. Many people will miss the happy moments when they can do it all. But first it is necessary to get away from these things so that life becomes much easier and joyful. Expect something from others. Everyone has a different understanding of the world, God, politicians, love, happiness and money. Do not look at all people as if they all have to be like you. Please accept the fact that people are different. Do not expect from surrounding understanding, loyalty, help. Do not be discouraged if something goes not according to plan. Because it’s just your plan, and no one must help you, you yourself must learn to help. No one knows what will happen tomorrow if today you have a lot of surroundings, then you leave you or health, you will leave you. Simply, keep good relations with those people who bring you benefit. Material dreams. In this advantage and lack of modern world. In social networks, all people tend to show their financial position. On the one hand, you can get motivation, looking at people who have a house and who travel around the world. But, on the other hand, some people miss the real happy moments when they want to dream financially. Dependence and slave consciousness. Get rid of any kind of addiction. It may be alcohol, drugs, gambling, psychological addiction from another person and dependence on gadgets. A person suffering to addiction is thinking as a slave, is a victim of false «happiness.» Cheat yourself and others. Stop lying. Start with yourself. You will not be able to understand what actually makes you happy until you look right for the truth (even if it is negative). You do not change the reality, although you can feel joy in my head. Cheating is a protective reaction that turns into pathological. So it is necessary to be treated. Communicate with toxic people. Your surroundings will make a strong impression on you. If there are toxic people around you, which will humiliate you, your self-esteem will fall, and you will feel unhappy. Five signs of toxic friends: no respect, trolling, gossip, accusations, manipulations. Sometimes it seems that everything is good, but there are times when you can be alarmed and saddened. Some habits prevent you from living in a state of delight. Compare yourself with others. A constant comparison of oneself with another leads to a decrease in self-confidence. Take yourself as you are, and pay attention to your achievements and characteristics. Do not follow your health. In order to enjoy life, it is important to have a good health. Therefore, it is necessary to pay time to physical exertion, start using healthy food and regulate the emotional situation. Inability to say no. Sometimes you have to say no. Of course, it’s good to want to help everyone, but you have to give it up depending on the situation. Because it can negatively affect your condition and can interfere with your life. Perfectionism. Striving for perfection can prevent you from enjoying life. You are not a robot, you are a human. Therefore, if you make a mistake, do not scold yourself or relax, if you are tired, do not start throwing everything at once. Putting off what’s important. People often put off dreams and goals for the sake of some useless, harmful activities. But we must live now. Find time for what you have long dreamed of and set a goal. Everyone feels happiness in their own way. Some people cannot imagine happiness without real things – an apartment and a car, while others associate it with a certain social status. Some people determine this by the state of their soul. You are putting your life on hold. You want to decorate your home to your liking, but you put it off, saying, «I’ll do it when I have my own home.» You want to make a lot of money, but you say that «everything will happen when I find my dream job.» Years pass, but nothing changes in your life. It’s as if you are denying yourself the opportunity to live your life now and postponing it to an unknown future. In the same way, some people think that they will be happy at certain points in life. For example: after leaving, after collecting a certain amount, after the birth of a child, or after moving to the city. However, one of them may not be feeling happy when it’s done. You don’t appreciate what you have. When we look at photographs of adolescence or youth, we perceive ourselves in them completely differently. During this time, you may be unhappy with yourself: you may not like your hairstyle, body shape, or other things. However, looking at these photos, you may not be able to remember what you didn’t like or why. A person perceives the things that he has, material or intangible (family, friends, hobbies), as something simple that should be. However, it is important to remember that each of these factors is a key contributor to your happiness. You want to live someone else’s life, not your own. Nowadays, people are influenced by social networks and famous bloggers who show their lives. Therefore, many people have the mistaken opinion that it is these specific things, trips, parties that bring happiness. Think carefully about these things: do they really make you happy or are there other things that make you happy that are cheaper and more accessible? Your brain doesn’t understand what it is now. Every day consists of positive and happy moments. But not everyone can see them the same way. Most people don’t care about their feelings and don’t enjoy the present. You will have to work on yourself to learn this. Here’s how you feel right now: make it a tradition to write down 5—10 positive things that happened throughout the day in the evening, when your breakfast was delicious, you listened to positive music, etc. This way you will learn to notice the good around you. You are afraid to make mistakes. A person learns to live by making mistakes. So try to create new things, make mistakes and move forward again. However, you don’t have to be wrong twice. Draw conclusions and learn to move on. There will be no repeating mistakes unless you allow them to.

FIVE IMPORTANT QUESTIONS

Sometimes people live for a long time with the feeling that the meaning of life is gone and nothing great is happening. If these ideas bother you, try asking yourself the following questions. Why do I sometimes feel uncomfortable? To get rid of the problem, you need to determine what motivates the discomfort. Triggers often work against us, but if you can identify and analyze them, you can significantly improve the quality of your life. To do this, try to focus on your thoughts and remind yourself of the most unpleasant things that have happened to you recently. Then you will be able to find out what state you have been in in recent times and who was next to you. Look for episodes of depression (low mood) and mania (high mood) from the past. Try to find out the reasons for your mood swings. What is my environment? When triggers are reached, it is determined whether their occurrence is associated with real people. If so, ask yourself how much you need these people to be in your life. Of course, we can’t get rid of all the people who give us bad things. For example, this could be a colleague or close relative. But you can plan your day so that you talk to him as little as possible. Also, don’t take everyone’s word for granted. Think about your surroundings. Are there people around you who think negatively (harmful environment)? Join an environment that is constantly evolving, that is not afraid to change, that wants to explore something new. What interests me? You can’t leave your favorite hobbies aside from time to time. Because doing what you love improves your mood and helps you get rid of negative thoughts. So try to find time and do as much as possible with what you love. How is my relationship with my parents?. Typically, people who fail to overcome their childhood grievances become depressed or dissatisfied with their lives as adults. Do you have a good relationship with your parents and have you managed to throw out all your grievances? If you understand that you are unable to overcome childhood trauma, you need to work hard with yourself or with a specialist. What changes do I want? Most people will try to answer this question because they will not think about the negative aspects of life, they will think about the positive changes. However, you need to think about what changes will improve your quality of life and make you truly feel better. Set new goals for yourself. This way you evaluate your life and look at it differently.

START CHANGE WITH YOURSELF

Stick to what you say. Over time, no one will trust people who do not keep their word. Always try to do what you say. It is not so difficult. Show your compassion. The world doesn’t just revolve around you. Your dreams and desires are not more important than others. Don’t just think about yourself, show compassion when you need it. This helps to understand and accept others.

Don’t take up other people’s time. Time is important for everyone. So avoid being late everywhere. If you want to be good, respect and value other people’s time. Be responsible. If something isn’t going the way you think it should, take a look at what you’re doing without immediately blaming others. It is not weakness to admit that you have done something wrong. People often take offense at the words or actions of others. However, you do not exist in the actions of others. What they do is a reflection of who they are. Stop taking everything for granted. Then your life will become easier. Think carefully before you say anything.

«A spoken word is a shot.» Many people say bad things in anger and then regret it later. So think carefully before you say anything. If you’re angry, don’t say anything. Because people often say very harsh words to each other in anger. These words may remain in the heart of your loved one even later. So continue the conversation after you’ve calmed down. Love yourself. People who generally love themselves also love those around them. A person who takes care of himself can give to others. If you love your surroundings, you do not harm them. Don’t criticize yourself, you learn to accept your own identity. However, you should not stop developing. Have everything, but still feel unhappy? Even though this is a time of abundance, many people feel unhappy. It seems that everything is there, but something is missing for happiness. Of course, this can be influenced by many factors. but we recommend 3 common reasons. Too many material attractions. Relatives are nearby, they have a home and work, but emotionally there is a negative feeling. This may be due to a large number of current material interests. Now you can buy everything with money. But even if you make another loss, you will set a new level: it should be bigger/better/more expensive for you. That’s why you feel so unhappy. Additionally, social media makes social media life «great,» which can also affect you. Quiet life. The human brain needs adrenaline. Biologically, we should feel the hormones of sadness and pleasure. You may miss new emotions. And emotions become more and more expensive. No close contact. Man is a social soul. An introvert needs relationships. If there is no contact, the person may have to substitute shoplifting or food. But this feeling of happiness is lost when you leave the mall.

You deserve happiness! All in your hands. You can bring back the feeling of happiness. To do this, check out the following tips: Don’t be upset. There will be no good or bad feelings. But you don’t have to drown in negative emotions. Otherwise, you may fall into the role of a victim. Depression can also lead to dissatisfaction and then to depressive disorder. Take care of yourself. Don’t look at yourself, even if everything around you is not what you think. Taking care of yourself is the best way to recover. Do what you love in an ambiguous situation. Give up idealism. There is no immensity, and people who want to do this can struggle with themselves all their lives. Learn to stop and enjoy the moment. A gratitude journal helps with this. In the evening, write down 30 things you want to say «thank you» to. After this experience, you may notice an improvement in your mood and other positive changes. Don’t be afraid of failure. Sometimes failures happen in life. You need to learn to accept them. The day after rain swells more, and happiness after such failures becomes more valuable. Do something you don’t have the courage to do. When we overcome ourselves, our fear, our complex, adrenaline appears in the blood. For example: skydive, go out in public, or sing a song at karaoke. The main thing is that you feel the joy of victory.

In the hustle and bustle of everyday life, time flies quickly, and we forget important things while busy with work and household chores. Stop and think. Have you forgotten about yourself? This is a normal phenomenon for modern life. However, you can make life easier by making a few promises to yourself. I will be my best supporter. Learn to support yourself. It’s good to have external support – a loved one, parents, friends. But internal support also plays an important role. So when you need to cheer yourself up during a difficult time, say a few kind words to yourself. This may seem useless at first. But this method can give effective results. I live without looking back. Mistakes and actions committed many years ago stop the present and this burden will not allow development in the future. So look at everything as an experience. For better or for worse, everyone goes to their own school. You must be able to draw conclusions from such an experience and move on. That’s why the next time you regret it, don’t forget what you promised yourself. I live the way I want. Give yourself permission to live the life of your dreams. Do you dream of starting your own business? Turn your dream into a goal! Find a method and start gradually moving towards it. We usually limit ourselves by saying we can’t do it or I don’t have enough money or intelligence. You can learn anything if you want. Take the first step promise yourself. I avoid people who make me unhappy. Some people come into our lives just to teach us a lesson. They can teach us to love ourselves or think about others. They may point to a character that we need to fix. According to psychologists, people are mirrors. If a person’s behavior or action makes us angry, it may be hidden within us. So you should be able to see it. Having learned his lesson, this person can leave us. It is important to be able to thank for new knowledge and let it go. I appreciate everything I have. Appreciate all the good things in your life. If you read this text, you will see that you have time to read and work on yourself, and you have a device to read it. For some people, even such simple things are inaccessible. Even if your life is not yet what you want it to be, all this is enough to appreciate it from the best side. I will not Give Up. How many people tried once or twice, didn’t even get halfway through, gave up and didn’t achieve what they wanted. Of course, there are very difficult situations. But after rainy days, one day the sun will come out. Therefore, do not rush to make a decision. You may feel anxious, afraid and doubtful. This is fine. Support yourself and don’t give up. I deserve abundance. Your value is only as great as you think you are. If you don’t think you deserve a good salary or a caring partner, you won’t get it. So, don’t try to appear inferior in front of your loved one or your boss to please or please them. Promise not to underestimate yourself. Don’t settle for less, but strive for more. Allow yourself to believe in abundance instead of focusing on limitations. I am learning and developing. You should constantly improve your knowledge and skills. Because there is always something to learn. This is one of the main success factors. Commit to never stop learning, even if it seems trivial at first. Then you will see what fruits it will bring. I protect my personal boundaries. Learning to set personal boundaries doesn’t help. This way you will learn not to hurt yourself, defend your point of view and say «no». There are every opportunity to say goodbye to a person who does not comply with any standards of behavior. I listen to myself. This is called intuition or intuition. Sometimes intuition gives good advice. Learn to listen to yourself so you know when to act with your mind and when with your heart.

PHILPSOPHY OF HAPPINESS

Happiness refers to positive and positive emotions ranging from simple human emotional satisfaction to high mental satisfaction, especially life satisfaction, well-being, subjectivity, flourishing, and eudaimonia. The concept of happiness is also known as an ethical concept that expresses satisfaction with the joy and interest of life. The symbol of happiness is a smiley face. The basis of happiness is the formation of a feeling of gratitude for one’s existence, when a person’s life is meaningful and productive.

Happiness, like a dream, is a mystical-emotional manifestation of an ideal. If an ideal expresses a person’s faith in the future, happiness shows the level of its realization. In the field of ethics, the science that deals with the problem of happiness is called phylecytology (Greek: the science of happiness). Happiness is a multifaceted concept. its basic concepts: complete and highest satisfaction, a state of contentment, well-being, success, luck, luck, bliss, luck, fortune, joy, delight. Living happily means being happy. Events that bring joy to a person – success, encouragement of actions, fulfillment of goals, etc. The feeling of joy gives a person strength and adds effort.

However, there is a difference between joy and happiness. Happiness is the basis of a person’s entire life if joy depends on the moment.

There can be false joys in life that are immoral and unethical. In the current situation, the issue of a happy life is directly related to the values of civilization (market, democracy, human rights, etc.). T. Jefferson noted in the Declaration of Independence that the state by its nature should protect the pursuit of happiness and encourage business and the independence of individuals, which is important for happiness.

Eudaimonism (which translated from Greek means pleasure, happiness) is an ethics methodology close to hedonism.

Eudaimonism was more widely developed in the ethical theory of antiquity. This is evidenced by the works of such creative thinkers as Democritus, Socrates and Aristotle. Eudaimonism proceeds from the fact that the main criterion of human behavior is the pursuit of happiness (private, public). French materialists of the 18th century were also on the side of eudaimonism. They recognized that the ultimate goal of any society and any useful human activity is to make a person happy.

Eudaimonic ethics is higher than Christian ethics in its humanism, since it encourages a person to be happy on earth. But eudaimonism gives the concept of happiness a certain universal meaning beyond the boundaries of history. In fact, in a society with antagonistic stereotypes it is impossible to have a single general concept of human destiny. Thus, the eudaimonic argument for morality is not scientific. Currently, this term is widely studied by scientists abroad.

Hedonism is an ethical philosophy developed by the Cyrene philosophical school (IV century BC) and the Epicurean school (341 – 270 BC). [1] Hedonism belongs to one of the branches of eudaimonism and proclaims pleasure (mainly emotional) as the beginning and meaning of life. Good will lead to greater prosperity, and bad will bring sorrow. A relatively complete emblem of hedonism was formed by Socrates’ student Aristipus. In Epicureanism, the principle of hedonism is more focused on finding ways to calm the spirit (ataxial) and avoid tragedy.

The formation of ethics as a philosophical doctrine with its own status is carried out within the framework of ancient Greek philosophy. Ethics, both in its name, and in its main conceptual categories, and in its problem field, is borrowed from Aristotle. The great thinker who wrote the Nicomachean Ethics, the Eudemian Ethics and the Great Ethics brought ethics to the country. The ethical values adopted and implemented by the ancient Greeks had their own meaning. Here are some of them: the ancient Greeks wanted to directly connect morality, kindness with beauty. As a result, the ideal of «kalokagathia» was born in ancient Greek culture. The term «kalokagathia» is widely used in aesthetics, both in ethics and in accordance with its ambivalence (two-sided). The term «kalokagathia» comes from a combination of two Greek words («kalos» – beautiful and «agathos» – kind). To be precise, this term implies the fusion of good beauty, that is, the beauty of the soul and the beauty of the soul. Hedonism is a concept that comes from a Greek word meaning «search, ingenuity, curiosity.» According to hedonists, the main goal of a person when he comes into this life is to enjoy life. Eudaimonism is the main characteristic of ancient Greek ethics. Because no matter what thinker of that period you look at, what he considers the most important issue in life is human happiness.

Aesthetics is the science of the laws of aesthetic understanding of the human world, the essence and forms of creativity, in which the laws of beauty are enshrined. This area of science studies beauty, the general laws of artistic creativity, and a person’s emotional attitude to reality. Aesthetics originated 5 years ago as a science in Egypt, Babylon, India and China and was widely developed in Ancient Greece and Rome. Democrites, Aristotle, Epicureans, Lucretius Carus and others learned in their works that the objective basis of beauty lies in the fact that reality is found in physical properties, connections, relationships, and laws of life. According to Plato, beauty is only a reflection of this idea: the press, the eternal and immovable ideas, the emotions that create art. In the works of thinkers, writers, and artists of the Renaissance (F. Petrorca, L.B. Alberti, Leonardo da Vinci, A. Dürer, Bruno, Montaigne, etc.), moral-realistic directions developed. Enlightenment theorists (W. Hogarth,

Diderot, Rousseau, Winckelmann, Lessing, Herder), as well as followers of their traditions (Schiller and Goethe), established a connection between art and reality. Kant proposed the principle of absolute «disinterest» in opinion. The formation of ethics as a philosophical doctrine with its own status is carried out within the framework of ancient Greek philosophy. Ethics, both in its name, and in its main conceptual categories, and in its problem field, is borrowed from Aristotle. The great thinker who wrote the Nicomachean Ethics, the Eudemian Ethics and the Great Ethics brought ethics to the country. The ethical values adopted and implemented by the ancient Greeks had their own meaning. Here are some of them: the ancient Greeks wanted to directly connect morality, kindness with beauty. As a result, the ideal of «kalokagathia» was born in ancient Greek culture. The term «kalokagathia» is widely used in aesthetics, both in ethics and in accordance with its ambivalence (two-sided). The term «kalokagathia» comes from a combination of two Greek words («kalos» – beautiful and «agathos» – kind). To be precise, this term implies the fusion of good beauty, that is, the beauty of the soul and the beauty of the soul. Hedonism is a concept that comes from a Greek word meaning «search, ingenuity, curiosity.» According to hedonists, the main goal of a person when he comes into this life is to enjoy life. Eudaimonism is the main characteristic of ancient Greek ethics. Because no matter what thinker of that period you look at, what he considers the most important issue in life is human happiness.

Aesthetics is the science of the laws of aesthetic understanding of the human world, the essence and forms of creativity, in which the laws of beauty are enshrined. This area of science studies beauty, the general laws of artistic creativity, and a person’s emotional attitude to reality. Aesthetics originated 5 years ago as a science in Egypt, Babylon, India and China and was widely developed in Ancient Greece and Rome. Democrites, Aristotle, Epicureans, Lucretius Carus and others learned in their works that the objective basis of beauty lies in the fact that reality is found in physical properties, connections, relationships, and laws of life. According to Plato, beauty is only a reflection of this idea: the press, the eternal and immovable ideas, the emotions that create art. In the works of thinkers, writers, and artists of the Renaissance (F. Petrorca, L.B. Alberti, Leonardo da Vinci, A. Dürer, Bruno, Montaigne, etc.), moral-realistic directions developed. Enlightenment theorists (W. Hogarth,

Diderot, Rousseau, Winckelmann, Lessing, Herder), as well as followers of their traditions (Schiller and Goethe), established a connection between art and reality. Kant proposed the principle of absolute «disinterest» in opinion. As a philosophy of world science, aesthetics is aesthetics. Solving the problem of consciousness and the relationship of art to public identity and human life is at the center of his problems. Aesthetics is the nature of art and art guided by a materialistic solution to this problem. various aspects of the process: the origin of art and its connection with other forms of social consciousness, its historical patterns, features of the artistic image, the relationship between the content and form of art, the significance of artistic method and style, etc. from the point of view.

Aesthetics is a philosophical science. Thus, it does not meet the criteria of specific sciences such as ethics. The concept of «aesthetics» was introduced into scientific use in the mid-18th century by the German philosopher Alexander Baumgarten. He developed the aesthetic from the Greek word «aystiticos». From an etymological point of view, «aystiticos» is a meaning that is perceived with emotion. Etymological roots are found in the word «anesthesia» before the day of the deceased. A. Baumgarten knew that beauty can be perceived through emotions, and that art is the only area of beauty that can be reversed. Thus, the German philosopher gave aesthetics a definition of craftsmanship that explores beauty and its expression in art. According to the law of beauty, man’s desire to master the world was known even before A. Baumgarten introduced the concept of aesthetics. We also recognize that the history of art is the history of humanity. Humanity always works together with art. Unknown to us, tens of thousands of years ago, the first signs of art began to appear. In particular, at the dawn of the Stone Age, people created the first symbols of art and developed it. Art is one of the most important spheres of culture. Therefore, the formation of the word «art is a mirror of culture»… Beauty and beauty are the main pillars of the true essence of art. Beauty and beauty are qualities that make a person feel special. As a result, art expresses emotions and is directly related to them. Art begins to make a person a believer, one in soul.

The main purpose of art is to give a model of maturity, a legacy (ideal) and try to seduce a person. The above goals will be the first for the philosophy of art and aesthetics, which is an art form. Thus, the main goal of aesthetic education is to increase people’s ability to see, feel, appreciate and accept the beauty around them, to renew and change life in accordance with the laws of beauty. Aesthetics is closely related to ethics, just as art and art are related. Because art, influencing a person’s emotions, teaches him morality and humanity. We love art and the moment we see it we feel cleansed. The purity of beauty is the purity of the soul. If this is so, then aesthetic education is one of the chapters in the education of spirituality.

The history of aesthetic thought goes back at least 2 years, despite the fact that the term «aesthetics» was coined. In the first millennium BC, ancient Chinese, Indian and Greek thinkers noticed that people perceive many phenomena of real reality through emotions. During this period, he noted that there are certain types of expressions – admiration, burial, sharing of grief, anger, love, delight, self-expression, awe, excitement, excitement and others. He also learned that these kuis differ from a pure cognitive attitude towards the dead by the emotional lyogenic nature of the abscess. In search of answers to the question of why these interlocutors appear, the syllables of the ancient world developed an aesthetic idea. As a result, the first ideas of «beauty», «beauty», «ascension» and the opposite «sadness», «grids», as well as «tragedy» and «comedy» are formed. A brief excursion into the history of the development of aesthetic thinking. It began in Greece, where philosophical science spits out. Ancient aesthetics is an integral part of ancient Greek and Roman culture. One of the main features of ancient aesthetics is its cosmology.

Cosmology is a vision of cosmic harmony and beauty of the human world. According to the ancient Greeks, there is harmony in the movement and location of the cosmic body. A person tries to find this harmony in his own world, that is, in the things that he made with his small hands. The breadth of a person is born from macrospace, great spatial concern, meditation, i.e. mimesis (in Greek «mimessi» – «similarity»). Thus, many Greek thinkers associate the nature of art with mimesis.

Greek aesthetics can begin with the archaic or realistic period of Greek culture (the time of the birth of Homer’s Iliad, Odyssey). The concept of «harmony,» one of the central categories of ancient aesthetics, is given in Homer’s «Odyssey» in its original physical sense. In this case, the word «harmony» combines wooden shards made from boats with chalk and shem. And in the Iliad, «harmony» had an additional meaning, which was peace, peace and harmony between people. Thus, speech, initially borrowed directly from the middle of public life, gradually rose to the level of a philosophical, aesthetic category.

The concept of «harmony» in the aesthetic category is found among the first Pythagoreans and his school. For the Pythagorean, the number underlying reality is directly in harmony, internal compatibility, dimension. Music, in particular, is a combination of cosmic harmony, which is very important to the human soul. He also learned that this man would cleanse the soul and spirit of the sick and the unharmed. In this color, one of the following categories of ancient aesthetics is catharsis.

Catharsis (Greek «purification») is the concept of cleansing the human soul and body, spiritual renewal of the body. The concept of catharsis is derived from ancient philosophy. The ancient Greeks considered catharsis as a method of cleansing health disorders. In addition to its specific medical meaning, catharsis is a word elevated to the rank of an aesthetic concept. In anthrax, catharsis was used to show how art can affect a person. In it, catharsis especially expressed the importance of music, poetry and tragedy in the purification of the human soul and soul.

Pythagorean stalkers proposed a way to use music, which is obtained according to a certain system, to cleanse the human soul. According to them, he knew that music, because it is a ground-based resonator of cosmic harmony, not only cleanses the palace of souls, but also affects the treatment of diseases of the body. Plato associated catharsis not only with the form of art, but also with the art itself. According to him, catharsis means ridding the world of nudity and bodily desires. Aristotle also recognized catharsis as an aesthetic ally of art, especially the genre of tragedy, which, as a result of human properties of sharing fear and grief, would free the human soul from indifference and maturity.

Kalokagathia in Greek culture formed the basis of the legacy of the previous paragraphs. Therefore, in the case of raising and raising children, along with gymnastics (contributing to the formation of physical beauty), special attention was paid to rhetoric (Chechen endogenesis), grammar, history, poetry, etc. Socrates was the one who introduced the concept of «kalocagathia» into aesthetics. The idea that true beauty is kind beauty, forgiving beauty, subsequently became the central tenet of all European aesthetics.

What is ethics? This word is familiar to many from school. However, not everyone knows the true meaning of this concept. Ethics (Greek – «tendency, custom») is a philosophical subject whose subject is moral and ethical standards.

Initially, this word meant common housing and rules arising from living together, norms that unite society and help overcome individualism and aggressiveness. That is, humanity has invented certain rules and laws that help achieve harmony in society. In science, ethics is a field of knowledge, and morality and ethics refer to what it studies. The concept of «ethics» is sometimes used to designate a system of moral and ethical principles of a particular social group. The ancient Greek philosopher and scientist Aristotle proposed ethics as a set of virtues. Also, an ethical person is a person whose behavior is aimed at doing good.

Today there are many ethical rules regarding morality and ethics. They promote comfortable communication between people; in addition, in society there are various social groups (parties, associations), each of which has its own code of ethics. In simple words, ethics is a regulator of human behavior, and every person has the right to determine certain ethical standards. For example, no one would ever work for a company where corporate ethics allows employees to insult each other. Ethics in various fields: computer, medical, legal, political, business, etc. However, its main rule is based on the golden principle: «Do unto others as you would do unto yourself.» On the basis of ethics, etiquette arose – a system of signs based on moral standards that people use when interacting in society. It should be noted that there can be many differences in etiquette within the same nation or even within the same group of people.

Ethics is an opportunity for mutual respect, a culture of communication, a change in outlook on life, spiritual development and career growth. Since ancient times, ethics as a science has been one of the areas of philosophy concerning the study of the moral values of various social groups. To understand the fundamental aspects of this ethics associated with philosophical science, you need to know the basics of philosophy. The concept under consideration is often called the field of education, which includes the study of norms important for the development of society – behavior, rules, traditions, assessment of the state and actions of people in real terms. The main direction of this science is used in the study of social, political and family issues. Since childhood, we remember that we are all taught to follow the rules of ethics, not only in public places, but also at home. Etiquette is a group of rules of behavior in public places. Modern ethics, continuing the traditions of ancient philosophers and thinkers, explores the deep moral problems of humanity. Thus, the concepts of ethics and etiquette differ in different definitions, but are certainly important and similar to society. These may include: adherence to traditions and norms of behavior; criteria for assessing goodness and insanity; freedom of speech and choice; search for goals and meanings in a person’s life, for his well-being.

Personal ethics

As a rule, personal ethics is an integral part of the study of various parts of science, for example, psychology. This is due to the study of the psychological aspects of science, its presence, its interaction with the surrounding society, the processes that arise in a person’s mind and the fact that it is often the reason for his actions. Ethics also takes into account human behavior and relationships, but from the point of view of the moral foundations and traditions that have developed in society. The question is what ethics is, we can consider some of its functions, with the help of which one can correct certain aspects in the psychological and moral education of the individual and society as a whole:

encourage any useful activity;

educational function; conflict resolution and problem solving through negotiations;

orientation to important values; awareness and assessment of life priorities; formation of a certain worldview.

Professional ethics

The most important area of study of ethical standards is their expansion of human activity in the world of work. When you apply for a job, it is important to keep your professional ethics in mind. This is a system of norms and rules of behavior for a specialist, which is a feature of real production. Its preservation is often required in the workplace, the key to successful development, and perhaps even career growth.

Corporate ethics

Currently, employees of many foreign and Russian enterprises and companies know what corporate ethics is – a system of moral principles within which employees interact with each other or with external organizations. In this case, ethical standards allow for the establishment and regulation of relationships related to employees and their responsibilities or implementation of the plan. Corporate ethics may include the following principles: responsibility in the workplace; maintain a sense of duty when performing work; team collaboration and focus on common results.

Business ethics

All entrepreneurs, managers and senior officials know business ethics – a set of service standards aimed at achieving certain goals. It often includes the following components: confidential and polite communication with subordinates, managers, competitors and partners; ability to manage, make decisions and avoid conflict situations; negotiation skills; desire to work in unity and with this team. In many cases, certain business rules conflict with the employee’s character. In this case, you need to choose between requirements and a workflow standard or your own principles. In some cases, maintaining ethical business relationships can be the key to successful business development and career advancement.

Religious ethics

Church traditions are characterized by their moral values, since religion and ethics are closely related. Religious ethics is a system of moral principles that characterize human behavior and consciousness. They rely on the will of the church, but are not limited by it. In addition to relationships in society, ethics in faith establishes moral rules and norms for the relationship between man and God, the possibility of forgiveness, conversion and trust in those who are gods.

Ethics of family relations

Family ethics, along with love, are a key part of a happy marriage. At the same time, moral values are based on the following principles: mutual respect; confidence; absence of unfounded criticism; refusal to clarify relations with third parties; categorical refusal to use tight bonds and physical force; self-selection as a worthy example of raising a child; give equal attention to all children in the family and encourage someone. The ethics of relationships between spouses and relatives is important for maintaining a full and happy family and the moral education of future generations. Due to the transitional rhythm of life, many people sometimes do not even react to the words or actions of people close to them: spouses, parents, children.

World ethics

The question of what secular ethics is can be answered by the definition of the term «secular» – not citizenship, but the church. Thus, secular ethics is a set of moral principles based on the activities of civil society without the influence of the Church. These principles are usually distinguished by reason rather than human reason. It regulates moral relations between people, introduces the concepts of good and evil, and develops mercy, without which the life of a civilized society is impossible.

Ethics on the Internet

The ethics of network communication on the Internet is a person’s relationship when there is no personal contact with an opponent. Despite this possibility, this is not a decision about injustice and outrage on the lips of others. In addition to the general problem of communicating on the World Wide Web, online ethics may include the following principles: keep the conversation on topic; contact interviewees on your behalf, absence of plagiarism and reference sign; discussion of advertising terms; Message writing features include font, size, text color, presence of pictures, or smile.

Social work ethics

For a civilized society, the ethics of social work, including the norms of interaction between people in society, are integral. Such rules or principles can regulate a person’s activities in society, support his life, and increase the responsibility of those responsible for the normal development of society. For the successful development of the environment, it is very important to adhere to the norms of public morality.

Moral ethics

The concepts of ethics and morality are often used in the same context. Morality is a norm for regulating behavior or evaluating a person’s actions, his relationships with society, as well as the characteristics of political and interstate interaction. Moral ethics also includes a system of similar norms that operate in different spheres of society: production; family; political; religious. In any case, it is important to remember ethics, and this concept exists not only to regulate, but also to evaluate the interaction of people in different spheres of life. Based on ethical standards, you can find the balance necessary for a better life, understand the line between good and evil, learn to be fair and kind, which is sometimes not enough in modern society.

Ethics (Greek ethos – skills, traditions) is a system of ethics about the various types and norms of morality in various social phenomena. As a term and a specific subject of study, Aristotle begins with his works. The term «ethism» is included in the titles of three of Aristotle’s works devoted to the problem of good will («Ethics of Nicomans», «Ethics of Eudemus», «Great Ethics»).

Aristotle identified three main problems, the theory of ethics, the book of ethics and talks about the practice of ethics. At first, morality was used as the Latin equivalent of ethism in Greek, then in the educational tradition, ethism was considered as a science, and morality as its subject. Typically, ethical thinking begins by talking about the diversity of human behavior and traditions. Socrates realized that it was necessary to appeal to reason in order to evaluate and differentiate different patterns of behavior. Plato learned that man can live in a state of comprehensive organization, and only when wise philosophers follow his rules can he achieve maturity of spirituality and character. As the owner of sanity, a person who has realized his own potential is the leader of his life, determines the goal and directs politics, economics, which is the basis of the state, with the help of ethical standards. The concept of ethism is described in detail in D. Hume’s work «Human Nature». In the traditional worldview of the Kazakh people, the concept of conscience was used as an alternative to the concept of ethism and was presented as the main theme. Ethics consists of three parts:

– Theoretical ethics

– Regulatory Ethics

– Empirical ethics.

Theoretical ethics – explores the basic concepts of ethics, its research foundations, the history of its development as a science.

Normative ethics provides for the main ethical categories: mercy and compassion, kindness, morality, honor, dignity, duty, etc.

Empirical ethics provides an understanding of the real moral character of human society in certain periods.

Independent ethics is a logic that is based on the idea that the principles and requirements of morality do not depend on external circumstances and interests. I. Kant was the first to develop the principles of autonomous ethics in contrast to the ethical traditions of the French Enlightenment. He tried to replace the idea that the specific morality of the individual is the basis of general morality, arguing that the interests of the individual are based on the basis of «moral and legal property», based on personality, behavior, independent of external «expropriating» effects. But morality is not connected with social practice, and the deviation led to apriorism (knowledge acquired before and independently of experience) and formalism. Kant’s ideas about the principles of autonomous ethics are in the area of intuitionism and neo-Protestantism of modern philosophy. Marxist ethics recognizes the idea of moral independence as scientific, idealistic and believes that any moral principle represents a historical social need.

Morality includes a set of moral interests and needs. Autonomous and heteronomous ethics (gr. autos – I and heteros – others) Bourbois ethical theories. Autonomous ethics arises from morally innate, unfounded idealistic notions of moral duty. It is based on the principle that morality is at the core of the subject itself. A person develops the law of self-confidence; in this regard, it does not depend on any external influence. Speaking against the ethics of the French materialists of the 1st century, Kant developed the idea of autonomous ethics in his work «Practical Integrity,» where he put forward the principle of morality. In heteroindustrial ethics, which opposes autonomy, morality comes from reasons that do not depend on the will of the active subject. Such external reasons include the laws of the state, religion, duty, then marriage, human interest, the desire to do good for people. Bourgeois theorists attribute heteroprofessional ethics to ethical hedonism, eudaimonism, utilitarianism, which base their principles of faith on proper satisfaction, happiness, the desire for profit and some other systems. Distinguishing between autonomous ethics and heteroprofessional ethics is not a science. He tries to deny that faith depends on objective laws: the idealistic principle of autonomy of the will, the active role of the subject in society.

Bioethics is a science that examines ethical issues in biology. Topical issues of our time have become the issues of extending human life, revitalization and adaptation of artificial people, sorting talented individuals genetically, combating hereditary diseases, using human organs for medical purposes, etc. In bioethics studies, moral qualities are analyzed through evolution, which spans all life, and what promotes its development is a positive value and a negative value that opposes it.

Bioethics developed alongside movements such as evolutionary ethics, environmental ethics, and social biology. Scientists who contributed to the development of bioethics: G. Spencer, Teilhard de Chardin, K. Waddington, D. Kozlovsky and others are closely related to the modern global paradigm (a certain set of concepts or thinking patterns)

Individual ethics is the part of ethics that applies only to the individual, regardless of public ethics. Individual ethics is seen as contrary to the relations of human nature, in which the group is accustomed to assert its individuality and morality, despite external social dependencies.

Evolutionary ethics is a form of ethical theories that argue that the basis of reason is rooted in human nature. English scientist with an evolutionary approach to ethics, Author G. Spencer. However, the main ideas of evolutionary ethics were taken from philosophical empiricism and ethical scientism and proposed by another English scientist Charles Darwin, who tried to substantiate this philosophy in the context of natural science. According to Darwin’s basic ideas: society lives by social instincts, public opinion is born on the basis of human language, social instinct is dictated by tradition, etc., evolutionary ethics considers human moral behavior as a function of adaptation to the environment. The measure of morality is considered to be a developmental process that spans the entire life. Its development is promoted by both goodness and the fight against corruption. Researchers in evolutionary ethics reject the heirs of the ethical-philosophical theory of attitudes and describe morality as a form of goal-directed or adaptive behavior.

Morality (lat. moralis – custom) is a principle regulating relations between people and public associations; a social institution that performs the functions of regulating human behavior, that is, a set of social qualities. Morality refers to a special form of social consciousness that reflects the ethical qualities of social reality (traceability, kindness, justice, behavior, custom, etc.). There are a number of moral features: Moral rules and requirements underlie the values that society has adhered to for centuries and are of a general nature; Moral principles and feelings are normative, obligatory, relevant; Morality refers to that type of social heritage that is above the level of everyday life; Morality is not recognized by state authorities; it is associated with human freedom.

Morality is a historical phenomenon, an object of study in ethics. We call this morality – a set of norms and principles of moral behavior that exist among people living in a certain society. Morality is a symbol of a person’s ability to live in society, to be in harmonious relationships with others.

In other words, morality is a set of rules of kindness and morality. Following moral standards, each person creates his own moral, human qualities. Morality has historically been formed as a result of people’s ability to live together in order to overcome contradictions that arise in the way of communication. Morality has its roots in the last days. One can imagine that the time gap that will distance us from our oldest surname is enormous. If we take one hundred percent of the historical period of the formation of humanity, then only one percent of them are historical lyceums of our «famous name.» That is, the culturally civilized period of humanity, which boasts five to six thousand years, is infinitely less than the «history» of humanity before it. This is a long period of time that surprises us because of what we understand. From the experience of living together, the development of culture, moral standards and its implementation was controlled by public opinion. Moral standards are recognized as forms of cooperation and strengthening of morality. An individual has the ability to regulate his behavior, mastering the ethical culture of society, and can give a moral assessment of what is happening around him. As a result, a person becomes a subject of human qualities, thanks to which high moral, human qualities are formed, such asmorality, responsibility, duty, honor, goodness. Moral consciousness operates only where there is choice. It is difficult to give a moral assessment to forced actions. Therefore, questions of motive, intention, purpose are at the forefront of moral consciousness. There will be three stages of moral consciousness.

The first includes the inner world of human superstitions, i.e. Moral needs and abilities, emotions, etc. The second stage of ethical consciousness is the moral concepts that have passed through the tendons of the rational mind. Rational moral, as a rule, based on various ethical rules, ethical against morality consists of ethical theories. The third stage of moral consciousness is moral intuition. The main part of the morality is the action, behavior. In moral behavior, you must be able to distinguish between motives, tools and results. In accordance with various spheres of social relations, the types of professional, family, household, etc. are determined.

Kazakh thinkers about morality. Kazakh culture originated at the junction of the Turkic civilization and Arab-Muslim civilization. Start standing with the teacher of Al-Farabi Turks, which combined the influence of these two cultural spaces in the views of the Kazakh people about morality. If we briefly take a look at the history of culture, we learn that the Middle Ages have a greatly ahead of the cultural development of Eastern and Western Europe. Already in the Middle Ages, Renaissance features were manifested in the Arab Muslim civilization region: first, the flourishing of urban culture; The focus is on science and education; The ancient heritage was taken, translations were made, followers of Greek philosophers (peripatetics, neopotonics) appeared. Al-Farabi, one of the followers of the peripatetism of the Schirus or Aristotle, who received the title of «Second Teacher» of scientists of the world, considered ethics as a science that allows to distinguish good and evil. Al-Farabi uses the central concept of Greek ethics – Eudemona – in its ethical writes. In the treatise «Guide to happiness», a great teacher says not about the unspeakable happiness of the other world, but about the happiness of a living person in his real life. To achieve this, a person must constantly improve. In short, Al-Farabi says that the achievement of its goals depends on the people around. A person must constantly improve spiritually. A person comes to the conclusion that he can achieve the truth, only calling the world around. Another product of Al-Farabi, showing an ethical point of view, is the «point of view of the inhabitants of the Good City». There, the philosopher believes that a good ruler should manage the city that its inhabitants are happy. The characteristics of a good ruler are as follows: Fair, kind, well-educated, fascinated, bold, generous. The eudemonic state of Farabi, who believed that the happiness of a separate person is connected with the happiness of society as a whole.

Yusup Balasaguni – genius, thinker, philosopher. It is said that the main idea of the poem «Kutta Bilyk» – about its moral principles and requirements of the Turkic era. The first is the right and fair position of the state; The second is the desire to get a blessing; The third is the mind; And the fourth is the question of satisfaction. The prototypes of the positions mentioned by the Yusup are that the king is an image of justice; His question from the point of view of garden wealth; Wisdom is visible – the image of Ugdulmis; And Daruisch Odgurmish shows the problem of satisfaction. In the work of «Kutta Bilyk», written in the didactic, i.e. educational style, the issue of customs and morality is much discussed.

Abai, discussing the theme of ethics, pays great attention to the issue of faith. The term «faith» entered the Kazakh consciousness through Islamism. This is a synonym for isolation. At the heart of his thirty-sixth, edification of Abay analyzes the concept of shame based on the proverb «Who has a shame, there and faith in God.» The poet divides shame into two types: shame arising from ignorance; Shame arising from faith in God. Their difference is the causes of shame. The first is caused by laziness, cowardice, lack of energy and irresponsibility, even if there is no countering sharia or mind. The second is a high feeling that harms a ball, mind or morality or begins with harm to honor in the path of lust and causes an internal punishment. «Shame is the name of a person’s own humanity, the name of that pressure that you have on your neck,» Defines Abai. Despite the fact that religious content dominates in the concept of faith, both in terms of its initial meaning and in terms of the method of its penetration into consciousness, Abay takes faith as a measurement of humanity. As Abai understands, limit the desire to know, not to demand, neglected by his actions – this is a disbelief in God. Abay sharply criticized the strange behavior and the bad nature of his people along with positive qualities. We all know it since childhood: gossip, lie, pride, lazy, scatters livestock… in verses, the image of ignorance of Kazakh people, full of life and compost, is represented with heartbreaking straightness. Abai, at his thirty-fourth editing, says: «All people are human friends.» Knowing the short-termness of this world, they argue with each other, they are angry with everything they see, and come to the conclusion that the enmity brings little good to the human soul. Abay said to his descendants: «Be a man!» who preached his truth.

Shakarim is Abai’s younger brother, who dedicated his life to the future of his people. In «three truths» he writes:

With hard work and expression

If art concerns the mind,

Good mood, good life

If every lesson is read.

Shakarim, who recognizes morality as «conscience,» thinks a lot about moral behavior. He explains that the human way is to benefit humanity, to do good. To do this, a person must be able to get rid of his shortcomings and live in such a way as not to pollute his conscience.

The author, realizing that the content of conscience consists of fidelity, justice and mercy, connects them with the concept of humanity. There are three things that can be called a pure garden: a pure mind, ideal speech, honest work. If these three unite, they will destroy hell on earth. He believes that conscience exists even in the next world. You have to believe that it exists without proof. «If a person is completely convinced that there is life in death and its food is conscience, nothing can darken his heart. Treating everyone as yourself and living life together with goodness, this is the real Muslim path, says Shakarim in «Three Truths»: Why does a person need humanity? To be better than animals.

Moral philosophy is a very ancient form of social consciousness, which, together with social relations, grows and grows. A system of principles, actions, norms that regulate the interaction of people with each other, with social groups, with all systems of society. Moral standards are based on assessing relationships between people in the context of good and bad. People judged their actions as good or bad. In early societies, people solve problems among themselves based on morality. The long-established customs of Ru have become a masterpiece for everyone, because they answer the will of the members of society and satisfy their needs. Morality represents the interests of all citizens, dreams and desires, reflects the correct relationship between society and human interests, puts the interests of the individual high: to show any citizen that he is equal to other people, regardless of nationality or income; suggests the same size for activity assessment. They are reinforced by the example of the masses, customs and the influence of public opinion. Therefore, moral requirements are not imposed by decree of an individual, but are a form of behavior that all people must perform. For a deeper understanding of the meaning of moral consciousness, let us compare it with legal consciousness. Here is the difference between morality and law: From the point of view of formation: morality is formed in connection with the emergence of society, and law comes along with the state. From the point of view of the type of statement: Moral lives directly in the actions of people as a form of public consciousness, and the right is reflected in special provisions; From the point of view of the sphere of action, morality can regulate all social relations, and the right can cover only the fundamental relations that it wants to be. From the point of view of the period of action: the moral norms will begin to act from the moment they will begin to understand them, and legal norms can only act with a specially designated time. From the point of view of the implementation method: moral norms are implemented through public influence, and legal norms require state intervention. From the point of view of the evaluation size: moral norms regulate social relations in the context of good and evil, and legal norms regulate in the context of law, lawlessness. Moral Lead and Mr. Slavera – the idea (Moral Mr.-slave) is considered the main ethical idea of Friedrich Nietzsche, which is widely discussed and comprehensively formulated in the books «Good and bad» and «Moral chronicle.» In passionate impact on traditional ethical rules and sharp criticism, Nietzsche came to the conclusion that there will be two different morals, checking the traditional Christian ethics and faith in the mind, analyzing various ethical images: ethics rulers, owners, favorite tenants and ethics of slavery of weak, unbelievers, stupid.. Here I analyzed the ethics from the point of view of values, life positions, intermediary relationships and the future, and also determined moral The difference between the tenor and slavery. Signs of slavery and dedication. Mera morality uses a measure that is not a measure of slavery morality. The rule of morality is self-dedication (ie dedication), absorption, activity; The rule of slave morality is self-destruction and self-destruction. Who in which morality is, is determined not his name and social status, but a sense of mood, which is attached to his actions.

SECRETS OF CONFIDENCE

Self-confidence is an individual’s dignity, basic skills and abilities. Sufficient self-confidence to achieve important goals and satisfy needs. Self-confidence should be more than adequate behavior. Adequate behavior means that words match deeds, and self-confidence means high ambition.

Developing self-confidence is building a sufficient behavioral repertoire. That is, what behavior do I need to have in order to be confident? After the necessary behavior is established, social problems are easily and easily solved, positive experience of quickly achieving your goals is formed. Objective success in life and social status are important for increasing self-confidence. However, the most important thing is the subjective positive assessment of the results of your actions and the positive assessment from familiar (close) / unfamiliar people. A positive assessment of the quality and effectiveness of your skills and abilities is not enough. Adequate price is needed (the word matches the action). Before setting new goals, it is better to determine what tasks you need to perform, show social courage in the determination, do not be shy without being afraid of anyone, this will determine the initiative of the person in their implementation. Self-confidence is a positive assessment of one’s own skills and abilities and the formation of the concept of effectiveness (effective / ineffective habits in achieving goals). Social anxiety is the opposite of social courage, so it limits new social connections. Friends / colleagues who accompany you to achieve the goal should give you only a positive emotional background. The beginning of the right connections is being prepared for such connections.

Self-confidence begins with the affirmation «I am right», and those who do not agree with this are your main enemies. This phrase comes from the Unconscious and gives great power. Confidence is one of the most rewarding feelings in life. Confident action, confident demeanor, confident decision making – this is boundless confidence.

Self-confidence – confidence in the correctness of the decisions made, internal / external data may not be enough to determine its correctness at the moment. the current situation should be distinguished from the concept of «self-confidence». Self-confidence is a positive assessment of the dignity of an individual, his positive skills and abilities, as sufficient to achieve goals that are important to him and satisfy his needs. As self-confidence increases and fear decreases, sometimes there is a tendency to engage in risky behavior. an overconfident person may exaggerate real risks and ignore real risks, for example, distort ideas about his own health (for example, an overconfident person may sincerely believe that he can smoke and abuse alcohol). high confidence often creates and feeds false expectations (for example, people unreasonably believe that it is impossible to give up bad habits, and it is impossible for me).

Confidence is a state of mind expressing the agreement of the mind with judgment without fear of error, being without doubt, not doubting. the lack of fear of making a mistake is not always a negative factor of faith, because the lack of fear of making a mistake forces a person to act; Reasons that reinforce adequate confidence are a positive factor. confidence is a psychological quality of self-belief. moral certainty – the motive of trust is based on the habitual law of human behavior; physical reliability – the motive of reliability is based on a physical law; metaphysical certainty – the motive of certainty is based on a metaphysical law. self-agreement, the power of increasing confidence grows in this order. Despite the diversity of views on the phenomenon of confidence, there are two basic rules developed in Russian and foreign psychology in understanding this construct and, accordingly, two leading directions of research: confidence in the correctness of one’s judgments (opinions) («I’m right…") and self-confidence («I’m right…"). Credibility can also be defined as a mental state of believing anything to be true. Confidence is the psychological nature of trust and understanding. Belief can be the result of an individual’s own experience or the result of external action. For example, confidence can arise in a person under the influence of conscious adaptation in addition to (and sometimes against) his will and consciousness. A person can also gain confidence through self-hypnosis (for example, autogenic exercises).

AUTOGENIC TRAINING

is a psychological method aimed at restoring the dynamic balance of the homeostatic mechanisms of the human body, which have been disturbed as a result of stress. autogenic training method (autotraining, horse) is based on the use of muscle relaxation, self-hypnosis and autodidactic (self-education). Being a «relative» of hypnotherapy, the horse is distinguished from the latter by the active participation of the patient in the therapy process, in contrast to the passive role of the patient in hypnotic treatment. It was proposed by the German doctor Johann Schulz in 1932 as a horse treatment method. in Russia, it began to be used in the late 50s of the 20th century. The therapeutic effect of the horse is due to the trophotropic reaction resulting from relaxation accompanied by an increase in the tone of the parasympathetic part of the autonomic nervous system, which in turn helps to neutralize the negative stress reaction of the nervous system. some researchers (for example, Lobzin et al., 1974) associate the horse’s effect with the weakening of the activity of the limbic and hypothalamic areas of the brain. Dr. Schultz’s classification, which is still used today, includes relaxation exercises and self-hypnosis.

It is divided into a «lower» stage, which includes, and a «higher» stage, the intensity of which is aimed at introducing the patient into trance states of various depths. During training at the lowest level of autotraining, the patient alternately performs six types of exercises in one of three starting positions (trainer’s position, supine or semi-recumbent):

Exercise «weight» is to relax muscle tone. «Heat» exercise is to expand the blood vessels of the skin. Exercise normalizes the «impulse» of the heart. Breathing exercises – develop spontaneous and uniform breathing. Exercise «solar plexus» normalizes blood supply to internal organs. Cool forehead exercises – headaches are relieved and/or stopped. The key to lower level IT training is the concept of «plugging in» introduced by Dr. Schultz. German psychotherapist D. Müller-Hegemann defines it as a decrease in the activity of the cerebral cortex, which occurs as a result of attention to IT formulas. This state is described as intermediate between the waking EEG and the sleep EEG, and the state itself is close to the first stage of hypnotic sleep – drowsiness. high-level exercises are used to evoke certain complex experiences. the exercise involves closing the eyes and conjuring up a vivid mental image of a particular color, followed by a vivid image of an object. It is recommended to «see» abstract concepts, for example, happiness, beauty, etc. in this case, different ideas arise that replace each other. According to I. Shultz, this stage is similar to catharsis in hypnosis. catharsis is an ancient Greek word for «uplifting, purification, healing» – release of emotions, resolution of internal conflicts and moral upliftment. lute c. divides at formulas into five categories: neutralization – indifference to the irritating factor («even if the probe is swallowed», no desire to vomit, no allergy «even if there is pollen», etc.); strengthening activation of hidden thought processes («I wake up only when I want to go to the toilet» during enuresis, etc.); focused on abstinence – getting rid of addiction («I am free from alcohol», etc.); paradoxical – use of the «backlash» effect of propositional formulas; supporter – the softest, encourages the development of positive personality traits. Indications and contraindications – Autotraining is indicated in the treatment of neuroses, functional disorders and psychosomatic diseases, primarily neurasthenia. AT shows low results in the treatment of hysteria, psychasthenia and hypochondriacal syndromes. Autogenic exercises have shown good results in the treatment of diseases based on emotional stress, as well as smooth muscle tension – bronchial asthma, the initial stage of hypertension, obliterative endoarthritis, shortness of breath, esophageal spasm, angina pectoris, spastic disease of the gastrointestinal tract and constipation. Satisfactory results have been obtained with the use of AT in the treatment of gastric ulcer. Autogenic exercises allow to accelerate the elimination of the permanent pathological state of stuttering and to increase the effectiveness of the complex method of treatment of this disease in combination with other components of the therapeutic complex. The use of autotraining is not indicated in cases of unclear consciousness and delirium, acute somatic attacks and autonomic crises.

Autogenic training is also used in the system of preparing athletes for competitions. First of all, to accelerate recovery processes after competitions and correct mental states before competitions. self hypnosis autohypnosis is a type, method, or result of self-induction of hypnosis, usually used for self-hypnosis. It is often used by people who have been treated with hypnosis for a long time. The English term «hypnosis» was introduced in 1841 by the Scottish doctor and surgeon James Brady. According to Brady, two years after discovering hypnosis, he began «self-hypnosis» (as he called it). used it for the first time and taught it to his clients before applying it to himself: «My first experiments on this subject [i.e., self-hypnosis] were made on and about May 1, 1843, in the presence of some friends. In my opinion, these were the first experiments of this kind that had never been tried before, and they have worked in every case that I have worked on.» In his later work, Observations on Trance or Man’s Waiting State (1850), Braid gave the first account of self-hypnosis by someone using self-hypnosis on himself. Emile Coue was one of the most influential figures in the later development of autohypnosis. His method of «conscious self-hypnosis» became a world-renowned self-management system in the early 20th century. Although Coe distanced himself from the concept of «hypnosis», he sometimes referred to his practice as self-hypnosis, as did followers of Charles Baudouin. Today’s hypnotherapists credit Coe’s legacy to their field.

HYPNOTHERAPY

Self-hypnosis is widely used in modern hypnotherapy. It can be in the form of hypnosis, entering it is carried out according to a pattern learned by the hypnotherapist. Hypnosis can help control pain, anxiety, depression, sleep disorders, obesity, asthma and skin conditions. When you master self-hypnosis, you can improve your focus, memory, problem-solving skills, relieve headaches, and even improve your emotional control. Basic steps to self-induce hypnotic trance. Self-hypnosis requires four different skills. Motivation. Without proper motivation, it will be very difficult for a person to self-hypnotize. Relax. One should be completely relaxed and take time to exercise. In addition, distractions should be removed, as full attention should be paid to hypnosis. Concentration. The mind must be completely focused on progress, because only by focusing on one image will the result be achieved. Direction. This option is used only if the person wants to work on a specific task. one must maintain one’s concentration on visualizing the desired outcome. Autogenic training is a relaxation method developed by the German psychiatrist Johann Schultz and first published in 1932. Schultz based his approach on the work of German hypnotist Oskar Vogt. this technique ranges from monitoring physiological processes such as muscle tone, breathing rate, and heart rate to manipulating mental images, sound therapy, and more. patients who are stressed and/or have low self-esteem can be taught self-hypnosis techniques to help them relax and/or improve their self-esteem. in particular, when the patient is in a self-hypnotic state, the therapist can induce relaxation and self-esteem processes through voice commands. In self-hypnosis training, the patient must be given a specific word or phrase to repeat. the repetition of the code phrase only has an effect if there is an intention to enter a hypnotic trance. Since stress interferes with the effective functioning of the immune system, self-hypnosis for stress prevention protects the immune system from the negative effects of stress.

There is experimental evidence that students who used self-hypnosis during exams had stronger immune systems than those who did not learn the technique. self-hypnosis can help relieve pain in pregnant women. Joseph Daley, an obstetrician-gynecologist, claimed in the early 20th century that hypnosis was the only safe pain reliever during childbirth. Common methods of self-hypnosis include: Glove anesthesia: the hand is numb and placed on the affected area to numb the pain. Time distortion: Perceiving periods of time with pain as shorter and periods without pain as longer. Imaginal transformation: seeing pain as a good, pleasant sensation (perhaps just pressure) that does not cause problems. John F. Kistrom concluded, «A comparison of autohypnosis with traditional ’hetero’ hypnosis shows that they are closely related.» At the same time, Kichstrom thinks what is the qualitative difference between self-hypnosis and classical hypnosis.

HYPTONIC INDUCTION

A process initiated by the hypnotist to determine the conditions necessary for hypnosis. Brady’s (1841) standard induction technique, «cutting the eye upward and inward,» was demonstrated by James Coates (1843—1933) in 1904. In self-hypnosis, the subject listens to a recorded induction or plays the roles of hypnotist and subject. In the 19th century, James Braid saw looking at a bright object as the key to hypnotic induction. a century later, Sigmund Freud considered eye fixation or listening to a monotonous sound as indirect methods of induction, as opposed to «direct methods of influence by looking or stroking» – all of which, however, lead to the same result – the subject’s unconsciousness. concentration on the hypnotist. the swinging clock and the gaze, which are the main elements of hypnotic induction in film and television, are not used in practice, because the rapidly changing movements and the obvious clichés of their use are distracting rather than attention-grabbing. hypnotic induction can be defined as what is required to induce a person into a trance state. that is, when it is understood as a state of growth potential in which critical faculties are diminished and subjects are more willing to accept the hypnotist’s commands and suggestions. Evidence of changes in brain activity and mental processes has been experimentally associated with hypnotic inductions. Theodore H. Barber argued that the techniques of hypnotic induction are merely empty but widely expected rituals that are not essential to the emergence of hypnosis: hypnosis in this view is only a process of influence reinforced (or formalized) by expected cultural rituals. Oliver Zangwill points out that while cultural expectations are important for hypnotic induction, viewing hypnosis solely as a conscious process of exposure ignores phenomena such as post-hypnotic amnesia or post-hypnotic belief. Quick methods of hypnotic induction. In early hypnotic literature, induction of hypnosis was a gradual, lengthy process. Techniques are designed to relax the hypnotized subject and bring him into a state of inner focus (during which his imagination comes first), so that the hypnotist can better influence him and help him make changes at the unconscious level. They are still used today, especially in hypnotherapy, where gradual relaxation of the client may be better than rapid induction. Usually the hypnotherapist uses the induction that he finds most suitable and effective for each individual client. however, newer and faster methods have been proposed, such as the Elman induction, introduced by Dave Elman, which involves imagining that his eyes are too relaxed to open, so that the more he tries to open them, the harder it is. to reveal them (otherwise known as a double call).

The therapist then raises the subject’s arm and allows it to fall to further enhance the state of relaxation. finally, the therapist asks the subject to imagine the clouds and the numbers inside the clouds being inflated like balloons (each inflated number increases the trance effect) to continue until the subject is too tired to think about other numbers. this process takes only a few minutes, but is known to be very effective in preparing patients for certain types of surgery. however, there are even faster instant inductions (such as «click» inductions) of hypnosis that use the principles of shock and surprise. A shock to the subject’s nervous system causes the subject to temporarily lose consciousness. during this brief period of distraction, the hypnotist quickly intervenes, allowing the subject to enter a state of intense, hyperimaginative, and inner focus.

Let’s not forget that induction is a method of creating a trance. trance phenomena can occur without the use of induction (eg, spontaneous trances of everyday life). but if during the psychotherapeutic session the aim is to put the patient into a trance, then he must use a certain method to create a trance state. the goal of induction is to gradually remove the patient from awareness of the outside world and enter images and thoughts inspired by the therapist or created by the patient’s own memory and imagination. Inductions vary in style and method. Inductions may be authoritarian (eg, «you will relax more and more and feel

…«; «I want you to imagine…") or

(«you might want to…"). «you think…"). it is recommended to use calm, balanced, smooth speech. after the induction, special techniques are usually used to deepen the trance state. deepening can be achieved by using the following methods: direct suggestion (for example, «Allow yourself to go deeper and deeper into this state…"); asking yourself to imagine yourself in a pleasant, calm, safe place; encourage you to imagine yourself in the process of going down or going up (for example, going down a mountain); inducing a feeling of heaviness (for example, in the hand), and as a part of the body becomes heavier, the client sinks deeper and deeper into a trance state; the so-called fragment technique: the client is asked to either open his eyes for a short time (during which he briefly comes out of trance), and then close his eyes. It is believed that with each closing of the eyes, the trance state deepens. the client is also advised that his eyelids become increasingly heavy and that the client wants to open his eyes less and less, that he wants to remain in an increasingly pleasant trance state;

it is recommended to deepen the trance state with each exhalation by concentrating on breathing; using counting: the hypnotist counts in reverse order (for example, from 10 to 0) and predicts a deepening of the trance state with each number spoken; In Eriksonian hypnosis, stories can be told, with the hypnotist using words or metaphors associated with deepening (such as «keep going down»), as well as an emphasis on relaxation and comfort.

If there is no induction, I advise you to buy a brain machine. The brain machine uses sound and/or light to achieve a specific frequency in the user’s brain. Theoretically, the result of brain machine activity can be a state of deep relaxation, concentration, or altered consciousness (trance) comparable to that achieved through meditation and hypnosis. In this way, induction will be easier, and you will be able to control your brain more easily than before.

SELF-ASSURANCE

Persuasion is a psychological influence on a person’s mind, acceptance of attitudes and attitudes. A construct called belief and understanding that is influenced by verbal (verbal), emotional, action hypnosis, self-hypnosis.

Faith can be used to improve a person’s well-being and heal psychological trauma. Direct beliefs, clearly direct: «I will count to five, it will be…»; direct camouflage (something is offered openly, but at the same time it is disguised, because part of it comes from the client; the client is taught to act differently): «I replace the painful feelings about the period before the illness with less pleasant feelings.» Indirect offers. The order of reception, (several statements with which a person agrees): «You have come to me, now sit on this soft chair, listen to my voice, today you will feel much better» («today you will feel much better» is, in fact, an offer and from the following words give the person’s consent); «Why not allow it?»; «Don’t go into trance until you’re comfortable in this chair» (implication added); «Don’t take a deep breath until your hand touches your face» (implication added); «You don’t know how good you can be in trance until your hand is completely on your hip» (implication added); «You don’t have to do anything (until the inevitable patient action happens in the near future).» surprise, creative moments; laziness (difficult to give up): «When you sit comfortably, you can relax»; «Each person goes into trance in his own way»; «People forget a lot of things. Keys, phone numbers, meetings…» (amnesia is constructed); any proverbs and sayings; «Your headache now, can be suppressed when your mind is ready to release it»; «Your symptom may disappear when your subconscious mind realizes that this problem can be solved in a more constructive way»; Ideomotor (we want to cause ideomotor reactions – movement) «Many people may feel that one hand is lighter than the other.» Mobilization (indefinite mobilization circles are offered, which a person fills in according to his own resources; there is a pause after the mobilization words): «Your unconscious will put everything necessary in its place»; «Using your unconscious resources allows you to do (pause) this work»; «Your unconscious can coordinate (pause) everything that needs to be coordinated.» Limited Open (recommended limited choice not shown; usually things that are hard to say no to): «You can learn in many different ways»; «There are different ways of working»; «Certain poses are comforting.» Cover all the possibilities of the class (you should add «or something else» after you have listed all the possibilities): «I don’t know what your unconscious mind is using to help you solve your problem. Maybe some words I say or don’t say, maybe images, maybe sounds, maybe feelings, maybe emotions, maybe memories, or something else.»

Self-hypnosis is a psychological effect on a person himself, his ideas, thoughts, feelings (for example, to eliminate painful phenomena and improve general well-being, as recommended by a doctor). Self-hypnosis is carried out through autogenic exercises that a person learns with the help of a psychotherapist. A person reads to himself (to himself or aloud) or simply thinks and says certain words or whole phrases to influence himself. There is no fundamental difference between external persuasion and self-hypnosis. What unites them is imagination. Moreover, there can be no third party persuasion without self persuasion. Self-hypnosis can have an incomparably stronger effect on a person than external hypnosis. This is explained by the fact that a person can engage in self-hypnosis independently and indefinitely throughout his life. the phenomenon of confidence

A common state of confidence is self-confidence. Self-doubt (despair) is a psychological problem. An insecure person is first of all a danger to himself. in philosophy, in particular, in the theory of knowledge, faith (hope) is considered as one of the most important aspects of knowledge. philosophy (at least historically) seeks this state. Epistemology is the study of knowledge, certainty and truth. Modern approaches to knowledge, as in philosophy, generally do not take into account the factor of certainty.

Socrates, often considered the first philosopher, had a higher standard of truth than any other scientist before him. he took very seriously the problem of skepticism which he accepted in philosophy. as a result, he claimed to know nothing. Socrates often said that his wisdom was limited by his ignorance. Philology studies methods of expressing confidence in speech. In the phrase «I think he will come» it is distinguished by the speaker lowering the tone in the word «I think» and then by raising the tone. Despite the variety of views on the phenomenon of confidence, there are two basic rules developed in Russian and foreign psychology in understanding this construct and, accordingly, two leading directions of research: confidence in the correctness of your own (opinion) judgments; self confidence.

Belief can also be defined as the mental state of believing some knowledge to be true. Belief is the psychological nature of understanding. Belief can be the result of an individual’s own experience or the result of external action. For example, confidence can arise in a person under the influence of conscious adaptation in addition to (and sometimes against) his will (internal) and consciousness (external). A person can gain confidence through self-hypnosis (for example, autogenic exercises). The most important thing about confidence is self-confidence. And self-doubt (your hope) is a psychological problem. habitual helplessness

A person experiencing discomfort, pain, and similar negative factors in a state of learned (skilled) helplessness does not try to improve his situation, even if he has the opportunity to escape, because he does not believe. insecurity arises after unsuccessful attempts to influence or avoid negative, negative, negative situations, it is characterized by passivity, refusal to take active action and does not attempt to change or avoid a hostile environment, even when such an opportunity arises. In humans, learned (skilled) helplessness is accompanied by a loss of freedom and control, a lack of faith in the ability to change and one’s own power, suppression of the will, and depression until death. animals (including humans) are born helpless and, through the process of learning, gain an understanding of the possibility of change and gain confidence in their own abilities. As a result of animal experiments, Seligman’s group came to the conclusion that people do not want to do anything when there is an opportunity to eliminate such effects if it is impossible to control the effects of painful and other negative factors on themselves. later they confirmed that it affects people, but without causing pain to the subjects (experiments used annoying sounds). researchers call this acquired behavior «learned (skilled) helplessness.»

Seligman subsequently introduced the concept of «habitual pessimism» as an analogue of «learned helplessness», as opposed to «habitual optimism» which can be consciously learned. since the discovery of the phenomenon, the biological mechanism of its operation has been well explained: passivity is a basic, natural state in animals due to the activity of serotonin in the dorsal raphe nucleus, and it can be overcome by the activity of the medial prefrontal cortex. As a result, the authors revised their theory and concluded that the cause-and-effect relationship is reversed: past events lead to a sense of control over events, not loss, when animals have long-term inhibitions in the brain – a sense of control over events. also leads to feelings. In the 1950s and 1960s, a paradigm shift occurred in psychological science, when scientists focused on the cognitive functions of people and began to connect cognitive processes with information processing and self-regulation. The previously prevailing view of motivation as a consequence of desires and impulses turned out to be too simplistic; In the psychology of motivation, researchers have focused on subjects’ assessment of the possibilities of achieving what they want, which, in their understanding, depends on the subject’s willingness to invest in achieving the result and similar aspects of motivation. Then the concepts of «locus of control» and «causal attribution» were introduced into the scientific circulation. In the 1960s and 1970s, the most common diagnosis of mental disorders was depression, and Martin Seligman and his colleagues tried to identify its causes. In 1964, Martin Seligman and Stephen Mayer participated in a series of experiments on dogs at the University of Pennsylvania’s psychology laboratory. Experiments IP Pavlov’s classical conditioning (Pavlovian fear conditioning is a widely used laboratory paradigm for the study of fear associated with learning and memory. A major limitation of traditional Pavlovian fear conditioning paradigms is that freezing is the only controlled defense behavior.) formation of a conditioned fear reflex in dogs to a loud sound was. As negative reinforcement, a mild but sensitive electric current was used that dogs in cages experienced after hearing the sound. After several stimuli, the cages were opened to see if the dogs were not frightened by the sound. The experimenters expected that the dogs would flee when they heard a loud noise to avoid an electric shock, thanks to a developed fear reflex. However, contrary to expectations, the dogs did not escape. They lay on the floor and groaned, but made no attempt to escape, although it was not difficult when the boxes were open. The result was behaviorism, which prevailed in psychology at that time (Behaviorism (English: behaviorism) is a systematic approach to the study of human and animal behavior. It consists of all behavioral reflexes, reactions to certain stimuli in the environment, and the individual’s current motivational state and controlling stimuli, together with suggests that it is due to personal history, such as reinforcement and punishment. although behaviorists generally recognize the important role of heredity in determining the degree of response to various environmental factors, they focus primarily on environmental factors) were by no means consistent. Martin Seligman, who noticed the unexpected results of the experiment, suggested that maybe the dogs did not try to avoid the shock, not because of fear – it was clear from their behavior that they expected the shock – during the experiment they tried to avoid it, but because of the lack of results, they got used to its inevitability. in other words, the dogs «learned to be helpless.» Seligman decided to test his hypothesis himself and in 1967 again used the Pavlovian design to experimentally investigate the nature of helplessness. together with his colleague Stephen Mayer, he conducted a similar experiment with electric shocks, but with the participation of three groups of dogs. the first group was given the opportunity to avoid pain: by pressing its nose to a special panel, the dog in this group could turn off the power of the shock-generating system. In this way he was able to control the situation; his reaction was significant. In the second group, the deactivation of the shock device was dependent on the behavior of the first group. These dogs were given the same shock as the dogs in the first group, but their reaction did not affect the results. The pain response to the dog in the second group stopped only when the associated dog of the first group pressed the separation panel. Dogs in the third group (control) received no shock at all. Over a period of time, two experimental groups of dogs were exposed to electric shocks of the same intensity, the same volume, and the same amount of time. The only difference is that some of them were able to easily stop the negative effect, while others were able to make sure that they could not affect the negative effect. After that, all three groups of dogs were placed in a box with a shield from which any of them could easily jump and thus escape the electric shock. The dogs of the group that could control the shocks did just that. Dogs in the control group easily jumped over the barrier. Nevertheless, the dogs, who experienced uncontrollable difficulties, ran around the box, then lay on the bottom, whimpering, and endured the electric shock with great force. Seligman and Mayer concluded that helplessness does not arise from negative events themselves, but rather from the experience of not being able to control these events.

«A living person becomes helpless if he gets used to the fact that nothing depends on his active actions, that difficulties occur by themselves and that he cannot influence their appearance.»

Learned helplessness, as well as acquired helplessness, is an outdated concept in psychology that describes a mental state in which a person does not feel the connection between his actions and their results. This phenomenon was formulated by American psychologists Martin Seligman and Stephen Mayer in 1967 as a result of studying the behavior of dogs.

Martin Seligman’s first experiments became widely known and were published in prestigious psychological journals. In 1976, Seligman received an award from the American Psychological Association for his theory of learned helplessness. After working with Seligman, Stephen Mayer became a neurophysiologist and studied brain structures. In the 2000s, he conducted a series of experiments that replicated his and Seligman’s experiments in the 1960s, using instrumental research methods that were not available in the 1960s. He analyzed the activity of different brain structures and determined whether or not animals learned control, not helplessness. From this he concluded that it is not helplessness, but control, its opposite. Helplessness is the initial state, and it is gradually overcome with the development of the individual by assimilating the idea of control. Mayer met with Seligman, who agreed with the findings of his former colleague and described the experiments of the 2000s as turning the concept «on its head», and modern psychology rejected the concept of learned helplessness as a mistake. Passivity is a basic, natural state for animals due to serotonin activity in the dorsal raphe nucleus and can be overcome by activity in the medial prefrontal cortex. According to current concepts, behavioral and cognitive skills for controlling external conditions are formed both during the evolution of species and during the individual development of individuals. In addition, control functions appeared relatively recently in the course of evolution. Overcoming negative effects in the human brain is carried out in the prefrontal regions of the cerebral hemispheres. They ensure the formation of accessory nervous structures that provide a new level of regulation of individual reactions. Research on helplessness, control, and their effects on the human psyche was continued in 1976 by psychologists Ellen Jane Langer and Judith Roden, who conducted the now famous research in nursing homes.

To conduct the study, Langer and Rodin randomly selected two groups of elderly volunteers who were participants in the experiment. Also, the first experimental group included 8 men and 39 women, and the second control group included 9 men and 35 women, a total of 91 people. The experimenters agreed with the administration of the institution on two types of experimental contract. they can be briefly described: the first group of volunteers gained responsibility for themselves and their lifestyle, the second group of volunteers was given the opportunity to lead a normal lifestyle at home, surrounded by the attention and care of patients. The second group was given typical instructions at the first meeting: We want your rooms to be as comfortable as possible and we will try to do everything for this. We want you to feel happy here and we are responsible for you being proud of our nursing home and happy here… We will do everything we can to help you… A gift from Arden House to all of you (a staff member went around and gave a plant to each patient) now these are your plants, they will live in your room, nurses will water and take care of them, you will not have to do anything.

– Rodin J., Langer E.

Long-term effects of appropriate supervision interventions with institutionalized (relationships with established rules, norms) elders. The first group was told: You have to decide what your room will look like, so you want to leave everything as it is, or you want our staff to help you rearrange the furniture… You tell us your wishes, tell us exactly what you want to change. in your life. In addition, I would like to take advantage of our meeting to present each of you with an Arden House gift. If you decide you want to have a plant, you can choose the one you like from this box. These plants are yours, you must take care of them and care for them as you see fit. Next week we will show the film in two evenings, on Tuesday and Friday. You have to decide what day you will go to the cinema and whether you want to see the movie at all. – Rodin J., Langer E.

Long-term effects of an appropriate control intervention with the institutionalized elderly. Thus, the first experimental group was given the opportunity to make choices about various life issues and control the situation. A second control group was told the same thing, but the message made it clear that most of the decisions affecting their lives were made by management, not them. The experiment lasted for 3 weeks, during which the administration and staff of the nursing home strictly followed the stated policy. After three weeks, the patients were given questionnaires measuring their satisfaction with their lives, and the medical staff received questionnaires about the patients’ activity, sociability, general tone, nutrition and habits. We also measured how many subjects from each group decided to watch the movie and how many of them decided to participate in a simple contest (count the number of candies in a large jar). The differences between the two groups were experimentally significant. Thus, the average level of unhappiness of −0.12 in the second group contrasted with the average score of +0.28 (according to the patients’ self-reports) in the first group. Changes in patients’ condition, evaluated by nurses, showed +3.97 (improvement) in the experimental group and -2.39 (worsening) in the control group. There was also a significant difference in time spent communicating with other patients, talking to staff, and passively observing staff (the latter criterion showed −2.14 in the experimental group and +4.64 in the control group). Residents’ ratings of actual behavior also supported the prediction of positive control effects and ability to influence one’s own life. More participants in the experimental group watched the movie and participated in the guessing game (10 vs. 1). The researchers’ conclusion is that some of the negative effects of aging (memory loss, decreased tone) may be related to a person’s loss of control over their own lives, which means that they can be prevented by restoring their sense of decision-making. Six months after the study, Langer and Rodin returned to Arden House to take another measurement and see if the experimental effect was still there. Nurses’ ratings indicated that subjects in the increased accountability group continued to perform better with an overall mean score of 352.33 versus 262.00 for the control group. There was also a slight improvement in health in the experimental group and a deterioration in the control group. Finally, 30% of the participants in the control group died during the time period after the first study, and 15% of the participants in the experimental group died. Based on the obtained results, the administration decided to further encourage the desire of patients to control their lives. Subsequent studies of the elderly by other psychologists have also shown that elderly patients may engage in self-destructive behavior in severe situations of lack of choice (refusing food and medicine) because it is the only thing they can choose for them. Other experiments have determined the effects of control (and lack thereof) on other aspects of a person’s mental state. For example, even an overcrowded elevator is subjectively perceived as freer and creates less anxiety among passengers who are closer to the controls. In another study, two groups of subjects had to solve problems while surrounded by loud noise. One of them was told that if they could not deal with the noise, the other could turn it off at any time, but asked them not to turn it off if they could still tolerate it. The second group performed the tasks much more successfully.

CAUSAL ATTRIBUTION

Causal attribution is a phenomenon of interpersonal perception, which consists in explaining and attributing the causes of another person’s actions. The concept was formed in Western social psychology and J. Kelly, F. Heider took its most general expression in the attribution theory developed by Lee Ross. Causal attribution researchers tried to identify the mechanisms and factors by which the «ordinary person», the «man on the street» explains the causal relationships of the events he perceives, including his own behavior. The size and degree of attribution (a psychological term denoting the mechanism of explaining the causes of another person’s behavior) depends on two indicators: the conformity of the action to the role expectations – the greater the conformity, the smaller the lack of information, and therefore the lower the degree of attribution; compliance of actions with cultural norms. D. Kelly defined three types of attribution: personal attribution (the cause is attributed to the person performing the action); attribute of the object (the cause is attributed to the object to which the action is directed); situational attribution (the reason is attributed to circumstances). In the course of the study, it was found that the event participant often uses indirect attribution, and the observer often uses personal attribution.

Attribution – significant features, inherent properties, causes of behavior.

Causal attribution mechanisms are based on the following principles: recognizing each other in society, people are not limited to information obtained as a result of external observation: they seek to determine the causes of actions and draw conclusions about personal qualities; Because information from external monitoring is often insufficient, observers identify possible causes of behavior and attribute them to the observed participant; explanation of reasons has a significant influence on the behavior of the observer. Systemic differences in interpretation of people’s own behavior and actions of others; deviation of the replacement process from logical norms under the influence of subjective factors (informational and motivational); stimulating effect on human activity and motivation, explaining the unsatisfactory results of such activity with the influence of external factors, and the satisfactory results with the influence of internal factors.

One of the most common patterns of the theory is to overestimate one’s own importance and exaggerate the role of certain factors (for example, luck, external or, abilities, internal) in shaping the situation. According to the mechanisms of causal attribution, the methods of practical application of the obtained results to influence the effectiveness of human activities, his motivation, emotions and goals are determined. Attribution studies help identify when group members assign or accept personal responsibility for their actions. The results are used to adequately assess the actual contribution of a particular participant group to the overall corporate activity.

Causal attribution theory was initially studied only within the framework of social psychology. Now it is used in general, pedagogical, developmental, as well as sports psychology. The main areas of research are self-perception, interpersonal perception and perception of a large amount of other social objects.

INTROVERSION – EXTRAVERSION

A criterion for the categorization of personality traits that is widespread in psychology or their measurement index. The most famous are two different concepts of introversion extroversion, Carl Jung and Hans Eysenck. The interpretation of K. Leonhard was also known in the psychiatry of the USSR and the GDR. The terms introversion and extroversion were first introduced by Jung, but their understanding and use in psychology differ from their original meaning. Focusing on interpersonal behavior, Jung defined introversion as «a type of behavior characterized by the orientation of life to the subjective mental content» (focusing on internal mental activity); and extraversion as «a type of behavior characterized by the concentration of interests in external objects» (the external world). Extraversion is manifested by friendly, talkative, energetic behavior, while introversion is manifested by more withdrawn and solitary behavior. In fact, all comprehensive psychological typologies and many psychological tests cover these characteristics in various forms. Examples include the Big Five model, Jung’s analytical psychology, Hans Eysenck’s three-factor personality theory, Raymond Cattell’s 16 personality factors, the Minnesota Multidimensional Personality Inventory, and the Myers-Briggs typology. Carl Jung considered the main criterion for distinguishing extroverts from introverts to be the «direction of movement.» According to Jung, extroversion is manifested in the fact that a person’s direction (vital energy) is directed to the outside world, an extrovert prefers the social and practical aspects of life, with concrete external objects, and an introvert prefers the world of imagination and reflection. An extrovert is focused on wasting his energy, moving it to surrounding objects, and an introvert is focused on accumulating energy, moving it to the inner world. Introversion is one of the archetypal manifestations of the collective unconscious. Analyzing the differences in the concepts of Sigmund Freud and Alfred Adler, two other prominent representatives of dynamic psychology, Jung believed that the essentially similar concepts of these authors differed. If the first, according to Jung, is an extrovert, he subordinates it to serve the goals of attraction to the object so much that the ego is seen as nothing more than a function of drive, then the second, an introvert, on the contrary, believes that everything is aimed at asserting the superiority of the subject in order to ensure individual power over collective drives. Hans Eysenck borrows the term «extraversion» from Jung when developing his dispositional model. found that personality dimensions vary consistently in the degree to which they focus on social relationships rather than on reflection, experience, and feelings. According to Eysenck, a typical extrovert is sociable, optimistic, impulsive, has a wide circle of acquaintances, and has poor control over emotions and feelings. A typical introvert is calm, shy, aloof from everyone except close people, plans his actions in advance, loves order in everything and keeps his emotions under strict control. In this case, Jung’s term came in handy. According to Eysenck, it is known that extroversion can be one of the main personality traits.

According to psychiatrist Leonhard, an extrovert is a person with a weak will, who is influenced by the outside, and an introvert. a strong-willed person. Moreover, Leonhard’s typology is not psychological, but psychiatric, and is primarily concerned with pathologies. If we are not talking about pathologies, then this term should be considered as locus of control (internal and external), externalism and internalism, close to the interpretation of Leonhard (but not Jung).

Eugen Bleiler introduced the concept of autism, a symptom of schizophrenia, into psychiatry, which is mainly covered by Jung’s concept of «introversion». Autism is a pathological introversion accompanied by active withdrawal from the outside world.

Subsequently, extraversion as a personality trait has been retained in modern models such as the Big Five (John et al., 2008) or HEXACO (Ashton et al., 2004), demonstrating its consistency. There are differences in behavior between extroverts and introverts. According to one study, extroverts tend to wear more decorative clothing, while introverts prefer practical, comfortable clothes (warmth over beauty). Extroverts like more energetic, traditional music than introverts. Personality traits also affect how people organize their workspace. in general, extroverts decorate their offices more, keep their doors open, keep a few spare chairs nearby, and put bowls of candy on their desks. they try to invite other employees and encourage interaction. Introverts, on the other hand, decorate less and try to isolate their workspace from social interaction.

Despite these differences, a meta-analysis of 15 experimental sample studies showed that there is significant overlap in the behavior of extroverts and introverts. in these studies, participants used mobile devices to indicate how often they exhibited extroverted traits (eg, boldness, talkativeness, assertiveness, sociability) in their daily lives.

Fleeson and Gallagher (2009) found that extroverts consistently act introverted and

introverts consistently act in extroverted ways. indeed, within-person variability was greater among individuals with extraverted behavior. The main difference between extroverts and introverts was that extroverts were about 5% to 10% more likely to engage in normal extroverted behavior than introverts.

Research by Lippa (1978) showed how differently people imagine themselves. this is called expressive behavior and depends on the motivation and ability of individuals to control this behavior. lippa (1978) studied 68 students who were asked to role-play a mathematics lesson. students’ levels of extroversion and introversion were assessed based on their extraverted/expressive behaviors, such as: stride length, graphic width, percentage of time spent talking, time spent making eye contact, and total time spent in each study session. This study found that real introverts were perceived and evaluated as having expressive behaviors that appeared to be extroverts because they were high in self-control (introverts). This means that introverts consciously put more effort into presenting an extroverted and socially desirable version of themselves. In this way, people can adjust and change their behavior depending on the environment. Since people are complex and unique, and introversion-extroversion is a continuum of dimensions (an object with certain continuity properties), people can have a mix of both characteristics. a person who behaves as an introvert in one situation may behave as an extrovert in another, and people can learn «opposite» behavior in some situations. According to Jung’s theory, the primary function of a person is extraversion, while the secondary function is always introversion.

DUALITY

And finally, there is a third group, where it is very difficult to say where the motivation mainly comes from: from outside or from within. This group includes the most and least differentiated normal person, who is considered normal because he does not allow himself to go to extremes or does not need them. For a normal person, there are external and internal influences. It forms a broad middle group, on one side of which are those whose motives are mainly determined by an external object, and on the other side, those whose motives are formed from within. I call the first group extroverts, and the second group introverts. – C. G. Jung, International Congress of Education, Switzerland, 1923.

Ambiversion corresponds to average scores on the introversion scale.

Ambiversion is an independent personality characteristic and is a separate category from introversion and extroversion. An ambivert is neither an introvert nor an extrovert, but combines traits of both. An ambivert can act like an introvert or an extrovert depending on the situation. Basically, most ladies are ambiverts. Jung, a Swiss psychiatrist who popularized the idea of introverts and extroverts, recognized the existence of a third type (according to him, according to the norm) in a lecture given at the International Congress of Education in 1923. However, Jung did not include it in the typology of introversion extroversion.

The term «ambiversion» was proposed by the American psychologist Edmund Conklin in 1923. Conklin considered ambiversion to be a psychological norm. The scientist explained the lack of a term to designate people who are neither introverts nor extroverts by the fact that psychoanalytic terminology was created primarily to describe pathologies. Conklin believed that ambiverts, unlike the other two types, were healthy, flexible, adaptable, and positive. American psychologist M. Crowe and others. In 2006, they examined the relationship between midlife levels of introversion and cognitive status 25 years later (4,039 participants). According to the test results, ambiversion is associated with a lower risk of cognitive disorders; this allowed the authors to propose a hypothesis according to which ambiversion has a positive effect on the preservation of cognitive functions during aging. According to the study of the American psychologist A. Grant (2013), according to the results of 3 months of work of 340 salespeople working in eastern call centers, ambiverts among these salespeople achieved 24% more income than introverts and 32% more than extroverts.

According to Grant, ambiverts are flexible in dealing with customers, use a wide range of behavioral approaches, make balanced decisions about when to speak and when to listen, express confidence and enthusiasm enough to persuade, and tend to be considerate, accepting the buyer’s best interests. Differences in Conflict Behavior of Extroverts, Introverts, and Ambiverts 2016.

Dubrovina et al. According to the researchers, the competitive strategy is more characteristic of extroverts; introverts often resort to the strategy of escape, adaptation and compromise; Ambiverts do not want to get into a conflict situation more than others.

Apunevich et al. 2016

By 2011, they studied the relationship between emotional distress of law enforcement officers and their level of introversion. 32 employees of Cherepovets police department participated in the study. According to the authors’ conclusions, ambiverts are more resistant to emotional burnout than introverts and extroverts. Introverts are also considered to be people who tend to communicate, but do not have the desire to do so. Hans Jürgen Eysenck described extroversion-introversion as the degree of a person’s relationship with other people. these behavioral differences have been hypothesized to arise from underlying differences in brain physiology. Eysenck combined the ascending/descending activation of the brain with the reticular activating system (PAC), a pathway located in the brainstem.

Extroverts seek excitement and social activity to increase their arousal levels, while introverts avoid social situations in an attempt to minimize such arousal. Eysenck identified extraversion as one of the three main traits in his p-e-n personality model, which also included psychoticism and neuroticism. Eysenck initially suggested that extraversion is a combination of two main tendencies: impulsiveness and sociability. Later, he added several other, more specific features, such as liveliness, activity, and excitability. These traits are associated with more specific habitual responses in his personality hierarchy, such as weekend parties. Eysenck compared this characteristic to the four temperaments of ancient medicine: the choleric and sanguine temperaments were equated with extroversion, and the melancholic and phlegmatic temperaments were equated with introversion.

The relative importance of genetics versus environment in determining levels of extraversion has been a controversial issue, the focus of many studies. Eysenck proposed that extroversion is caused by variability in the excitability of the cerebral cortex. He proposed that introverts have a higher level of activity than extroverts and are therefore more chronically agitated than extroverts.

The fact that extroverts need more external stimulation than introverts has been interpreted as evidence for this hypothesis. Another piece of evidence for the «incentive» hypothesis is that introverts salivate more than extroverts in response to a drop of lemon juice. This is due to increased activity in their reticular activating system (PAC), which responds to stimuli such as food or social contact.

Extraversion has been associated with increased sensitivity of the mesolimbic dopamine system to potentiating stimuli. This partially explains the high levels of positive affect found in extroverts, as they experience the excitement of a potential reward (motivation and encouragement), feels more intense. One manifestation of this is that extroverts can easily deal with unexpected situations when achieving a positive outcome, and then the reward itself is even more welcome. One study found that introverts have more blood flow in the frontal lobes of the brain and the anterior or frontal thalamus, areas involved in internal processing such as planning and problem solving. Extraverts have greater blood flow to the anterior cingulate cortex, temporal lobes, and posterior thalamus, which are involved in sensory and emotional experience. Shows that introversion-extroversion is associated with individual differences in brain activity. Brain volume studies showed a positive correlation between introversion and gray matter volume in the right prefrontal cortex and right temporal parietal junction, as well as a positive correlation between introversion and total white matter volume. Extraversion has also been linked to physiological factors such as breathing (more often), which are closely related to emotional reactivity. The degree of extraversion and introversion is often assessed using measures such as self-report, although peer reports and third-party observations may also be used. Self-reports can be lexical or statement-based (affirmation). Lexical measures use personal adjectives that reflect extroverted and introverted traits, such as outgoing, outgoing, reserved, or quiet. Words representing introversion were reverse-coded to create composite measures of extraversion/introversion that run on a continuum (an item with certain continuum properties). Goldberg (1992) developed a 20-word measure as part of his 100-word Big Five markers. Saucier (1994) developed a brief, 8-word measure in his mini-markers of 40 words. However, the psychometric properties of the original Saucier mini-markers were found to be suboptimal in non-North American samples.

As a result, a systematically revised measure with high psychometric properties was developed, the International English Minimarkers – with good internal consistency and other validity for assessing extraversion/introversion and the other five personality factors within and especially outside the American population. internal consistency reliability of the extraversion score was 0.92 for native English speakers and 0.85 for non-native speakers of English.

Respondents are asked, for example, how often they talk to different people in the evening or how often they feel uncomfortable around others. the statement about talkativeness at parties is difficult to answer meaningfully for non-party-goers like Americans. also, sometimes the colloquial language of North America makes them unsuitable for use outside of America. for example, statements such as «staying behind» and «knowing how to engage people» are sometimes difficult for non-native speakers to understand in their literal sense.

Recognizing that introversion and extroversion are normal behaviors can help with self-acceptance and understanding of others. for example, an extrovert may perceive their introverted partner’s need for space, and an introvert may perceive their extroverted partner’s need for social interaction. researchers have found a link between extroversion and happiness. that is, extroverts tend to report higher levels of happiness than introverts. other studies have shown that being told to act extraverted leads to increased positive affect, even for introverted individuals. This does not mean that introverts are unhappy.

Extroverts simply experience positive emotions, while introverts are closer to neutral. This may be due to the fact that in modern Western culture, extroversion is more socially acceptable and introverts are less accepted. Other than happiness studies, extroverts report higher self-esteem than introverts. others argue that such results reflect sociocultural bias in the survey itself. Dr. David Myers said that being happy (the happiness formula) is a matter of having three qualities: self-esteem, optimism, and extraversion. Meyers builds on research that shows extroverts are happier; «I like to be with others»

These findings have been questioned because the items tend to measure happiness only among extraverts. According to Carl Jung, introverts are willing to admit their psychological needs and problems, while extroverts ignore them because they are more focused on the outside world. Extroverted youth are more likely to engage in antisocial or delinquent behavior. Accordingly, some evidence suggests that extraversion may also be related to psychopathy. Introversion is closely related to positive traits such as intelligence and talent. Over the years, researchers have found that introverts are more successful in academic settings, which can be boring for extroverts.

Although extroversion is associated with many positive outcomes, such as higher levels of happiness, it can also be more prone to contagion because they interact with more people.

As people become more vulnerable to infection, social costs become relatively high. Although neither introversion nor extroversion are pathological, psychotherapists, when treating clients, consider temperament (a set of stable, dynamic features of a person’s mental processes. Temperament is related to dynamic aspects of activity, not content. Temperament determines the speed of mental processes, the stability of the emotional sphere, the degree of voluntary effort.) may be considered. Clients may respond better to different types of treatment depending on where they fall on the introversion-extroversion spectrum. Teachers can also consider temperament when interacting with students, for example, introverted children need more encouragement to speak up in class, while extroverted children need to be taught to sit quietly for long periods of time. About half of the world’s population (about 44%) are introverts. There are many countries in Europe where introverts dominate. Lithuania is the most introverted country in Europe, while Albania is the country of extroverts. The researchers found that people living on islands were more introverted than those living on the mainland, and that people whose ancestors had lived on the island for twenty generations were less extroverted than recent arrivals. Moreover, people who emigrate from islands to the mainland tend to be more extroverted than those who stay on islands and those who move to islands. Some argue that Americans livein an «extroverted society» that encourages extroverted behavior and discourages introversion. This is because the United States is currently an outward personality culture, while some other cultures value people for their «inner identity and moral orientation.»

In other cultures, such as Japan, China, and Orthodox Christianity, Buddhism, Sufism, etc.

Introversion is common in dominant areas. These cultural differences predict people’s happiness because people who score high on extraversion tend to be happier on average, especially in extroverted cultures, and vice versa.

ATTITUDE ON HAPPINESS AND CONFIDENCE

As mentioned earlier, extroverts tend to have more positive mood levels than introverts. however, this comparison was only found between positively activated extraversion.

There was no relationship between extraversion and inactive forms of positive affect, such as contentment or calmness, although one study found a negative relationship (ie, showing an advantage over introversion) between extraversion and inactive positive affect. between affiliative (desire to socialize with other people, human need to create warm, reliable, emotionally significant relationships) extroversion and activated positive affect (explosive emotional process characterized by short duration and high intensity, often accompanied by clear motor manifestations and changes in the work of internal organs) no significant association, especially when controlling for neuroticism (a personality trait characterized by emotional instability, anxiety, low self-esteem, and sometimes autonomic disturbances). concluded that extraversion and emotional stability are the best predictors of subjective well-being. for example, Argyle and Lou (1990) found that trait extraversion as measured by the Eysenck Personality Questionnaire (EPQ) was significantly correlated with positive affect as measured by the Oxford Happiness Inventory (an item with certain continuity properties). using the same scale of positive affect and extraversion, Hills and Argyle (2001) found that positive affect continued to be significantly correlated with extraversion (an item with certain continuity properties). in addition, a study by Emmons and Edward Diner (1986) found that extraversion was significantly correlated with positive affect rather than negative affect (an item with certain continuity properties). Using Costa and McCrae’s (1986) Five-Factor Personality Inventory (Big Five), a shortened general well-being scale that identifies positive and negative affect, and a short version of the neo (neuroticism-extraversion-openness) extraversion scale, the authors reported increased well-being in extroverts across the two periods of data collection.: first in 1971—1975, then in 1981—1984. However, the latter study did not control for neuroticism (inability to effectively regulate negative emotions), which is an important covariate when examining the relationship between extraversion and positive affect or well-being.

Studies controlling for neuroticism have found no significant relationship between extraversion and subjective well-being. Larsen and Ketelaar (1991). Extroverts have been shown to respond more to positive affect than to negative affect because they show high reactivity to the induction of positive affect, but they do not respond to the more negative induction of negative affect. According to Danish psychotherapist Ilse Sand, to achieve psychological comfort, introverts must carefully measure the level of emotional distress. Personality traits create situations and actions that have affective consequences, hence emotional differences. One explanation for the increased subjective well-being of extroverts is that extraversion helps create life situations that promote higher levels of positive affect.

The personality trait of extraversion has been viewed as a factor contributing to greater social interaction, as extroverts’ lower levels of cortical arousal lead them to seek out more social situations to increase their arousal. According to the social activity hypothesis, frequent participation in social situations produces frequent and high levels of positive affect. Therefore, since extroverts are characterized as more sociable than introverts, they have higher levels of positive affect resulting from social interactions. In particular, findings from Furnham and Brewin’s (1990) study suggest that extroverts enjoy and participate more in social activities than introverts, and as a result, extroverts report higher levels of happiness. Furthermore, Argyle and Lu (1990) study found that extroverts were less likely to avoid noisy social events and more likely to engage in social activities such as parties, pranks, or going to the movies. They found that extroverts are more likely than introverts to seek out social situations, especially recreational ones (a set of health measures implemented in order to restore normal well-being and labor productivity of a healthy but tired person) when engaged in activities. Extroverts have been found to be happier than introverts, even when alone.

In particular, extroverts are happier whether they live alone or with others, even if they live in a rural area. Although extroverts were more likely to choose social work than non-social work (51%) than introverts (38%), they also reported being happier than introverts.

Extroverts were found to be more socially active than introverts, but overall, extroverts and introverts did not differ in the amount of socializing they engaged in. Both extroverts and introverts enjoy participating in social interactions, but extroverts have been found to be more socially engaged. Research has shown that both extroverts and introverts participate in social interactions, but the quality of that participation varies. The frequency of social participation of extroverts can be explained by the fact that extroverts know more people, but these people are not necessarily their close friends, while introverts are selective when it comes to social relations and only have close friends with them. Another explanation for the high correlation between extraversion and happiness (certain continuum traits) can be found in a study by Ashton, Lee, and Paunonen (2002). They said that the main element of extroversion is not the stimulation of sensitivity, but the tendency to attract the attention of society, to always receive their support.

They proved that one of the main qualities of attracting public attention is the ability to be useful to it. Therefore, if a person shows positive emotions, enthusiasm and energy, he will be well received by others and he will attract the attention of others. A positive reaction may encourage extroverts to engage in further extroverted behavior. Ashton, Lee, and Paunonen’s (2002) study found that their measure of social attention, the Social Attention Scale, was more strongly related to extraversion than measures of sensitivity to reward. The temperament approach is based on the belief that there is a direct relationship between people’s personality traits and their sensitivity to positive and negative influences. The affective reactivity model posits that the strength of a person’s response to affective events results from differences in affect among individuals. This model is based on Jeffrey Alan Gray’s Reinforcement Sensitivity Theory, in which people with a strong behavioral activation system (BAS) have a high degree of reward (reward) reactivity and are prone to personality extraversion, while people with a strong behavioral inhibition system (BIS/behavioral inhibition system) are less responsive to rewards, more prone to the personality traits of neuroticism and introversion. Therefore, extroverts are considered to have a temperamental predisposition to positive affect, because induction of a positive mood affects them more than introverts, so extroverts are more responsive to positive affect. Individuals with high BAS sensitivity reported higher levels of moderate negative affect, whereas individuals with high BAS sensitivity reported higher levels of positive affect. Also, Zelensky and Larsen (1999) found that individuals with high BAS sensitivity reported more positive emotions during positive mood inductions, whereas individuals with a sensitive BIS (behavioral inhibition system) reported more negative emotions during negative mood inductions..

Social reactivity theory states that all people are obliged to participate in social situations whether they want to or not. Because extroverts enjoy social interaction more than introverts, they also receive more positive feedback from such situations than introverts. It is derived from the work of Brian R. Little, who popularized this theory. Few would argue that life requires people to engage in social situations and that social behavior is detrimental to introverts’ well-being because they are not characteristic of introverts. So one way to keep introverts well-being is to recharge as often as possible in places where they can come back to their authentic selves – what Little calls «the realm of activity that puts your talents to use.» However, extroverts were found to be less affected than introverts in social situations and did not report increased positive affect during such positive interactions. Another possible explanation for extroverts’ happiness is that extroverts are better able to regulate their affective states. This suggests that in ambiguous situations (situations in which positive and negative moods are mixed in equal proportions), extroverts show a slower decline in positive affect and, as a result, need to maintain a more positive affect balance than introverts. Extroverts may also choose activities that promote happiness (eg, recalling positive moments over negative ones) than introverts by anticipating difficult tasks. According to the set-point model, the levels of positive and negative affect are more or less fixed in each individual, so that after a positive or negative event, people’s mood tends to return to a predetermined level. According to the set-point model, extraverts experience happiness because their preset level of positive affect is higher than introverts’ level of positive affect, so extraverts need less reinforcement of positive affect to feel happy. A study by Peter Kuppens (2008) found that extroverts and introverts react differently when experiencing positive emotions, which explains the underestimation of the frequency and intensity of happiness expressed by introverts. Specifically, Kuppens (2008) found that arousal and positive emotions were positively correlated with extroverts, meaning that positive emotions were more likely to be accompanied by high arousal in extroverts. On the other hand, arousal and positive emotions are negatively correlated with introverts, resulting in introverts showing lower arousal when enjoying themselves. In other words, if everything is going well in the life of an extrovert, if this is a source of positive feelings, extroverts see this situation as an opportunity for active behavior and pursuit of goals, which creates an active, exciting, positive state. When things are going well for introverts, they see it as an opportunity to let their guard down, and as a result, they indulge freely. Many studies have shown that neuroticism (the inability to regulate negative emotions) has an equal, if not greater, effect on happiness and subjective well-being than extraversion. One study of school children divided into four categories according to the obtained points. The results showed no significant difference between the happiness levels of stable introverts and stable extroverts, while both unstable extroverts and introverts reported significantly less happiness than their counterparts.

Neuroticism was the most important factor in general well-being in this study.

Similarly, in recent studies, researchers have used rating scales to examine categories such as self-esteem and life purpose orientation, which have been found to be positively correlated with happiness. Participants’ responses to these questions indicated that neuroticism had a greater effect on measures of well-being than extraversion. Although extraversion and neuroticism seem to have the greatest impact on personal happiness, other Big Five personality factors have been shown to be related to happiness and subjective well-being. For example, one study found a correlation of about 0.20 between conscientiousness and agreeableness with subjective well-being.

Although the influence of these traits is not as strong as that of extraversion or neuroticism, it is clear that they still influence happiness outcomes. Similarly, the interaction between extraversion, neuroticism, and conscientiousness had a significant effect on subjective well-being. In one study, researchers used three scales to assess subjective well-being. They found that extraversion was a predictor of only one assessment when combined with neuroticism, while the other two assessment outcomes were best predicted by conscientiousness and neuroticism. Do you think it is important to include other factors in evaluating happiness? There is also evidence that other non-traditional elements of personality may be associated with happiness. For example, one study found that different goal characteristics, such as progress toward or conflict between important goals, can influence emotional and cognitive well-being. A number of other researchers have also suggested that, at least in individualistic cultures, a coherent sense of identity (actions consistent with the self-concept) is positively related to well-being. Thus, focusing on extraversion and neuroticism may provide an incomplete picture of the relationship between happiness and personality. The general level of happiness varies from culture to culture, and so does the preferred expression of happiness. Various international studies have a scale that shows differences in average life satisfaction between different nationalities and different ethnic groups when compared across countries. For example, one researcher found that between 1958 and 1987, life satisfaction in Japan was about a 6 on a 10-point scale, while in Denmark it was about an 8. Another study comparing ethnic groups in the United States reported that European Americans were «significantly happier» with their lives than Asian Americans. Researchers have identified a number of factors that may be responsible for these differences between countries, including national differences in overall income levels, predicted self-improvement and attitudes. Taken together, these findings suggest that although extraversion-introversion is strongly correlated with happiness, it is not the only predictor of subjective well-being and that other factors should be considered when trying to identify correlates of happiness.

Conclusion

Many people think that it is useful and even necessary to kill their time, waste it, get addicted to bad habits, limit their consciousness, feed their brain with harmful information.

There are people who worship man. Many, even almost all, have their own fans. These are rich businessmen, sports or art stars, they often say that they are their admirers, but they themselves are their slaves. Indeed, outwardly they look like slaves. They repeat the clothes, the manner of behavior and even the hairstyle. They watch their lives every day, are constantly interested and repeat everything they do. This is a disease of useless imitation and dependence, from which it is necessary to get rid of.

False happy people in masks are trying to deceive with their beautiful life and mislead a person with the help of Slavish Thinking.

You may object that these are proven, reliable people: "We need to crawl under their feet, learn from them not out of jealousy, but out of curiosity to find out their path to happiness, success and victory," but did they really become so happy of their own free will? Many do not even know how they achieved this, because it is a decision of fate. Therefore, do not think that it will be profitable for you to be a slave of those people who have become such only by the will of the Creator.

I believe that a happy and bright life is incompatible with «Slave thinking» and «Addiction», because these actions become a strong psychological habit.

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SECRETS OF TRUE HAPPINESS

IDEAS THAT WILL HELP YOU

SUBJECTIVE WELL-BEING

PRACTICAL HAPPINESS

PHILPSOPHY OF HAPPINESS

SECRETS OF CONFIDENCE

ATTITUDE ON HAPPINESS AND CONFIDENCE

Conclusion